http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ Daily Kitten Chat Forum: Recent Posts en Mon, 22 Mar 2010 05:56:56 +0000 http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26014#post-514985 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:56:55 +0000 AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew 514985@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Its almost 10 pm AZ time and there is no night shift, really???? All the kittehs are snoozing from the Cafe, the room is hmmmmm in a bit of a mess, not much just a bit. Since I have to get ready for 'that place' right about now, the lights are lowered a titch and the music has been turned on to soothe those kittehs not quite asleep yet. Be back probably after the witching hour, ta ta for now. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26011#post-514984 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:50:57 +0000 AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew 514984@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>{{{hugs Lainey}}} </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26008#post-514983 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:44:26 +0000 AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew 514983@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I kinda like Max myself for a name :) </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26008#post-514982 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:02:09 +0000 Cheri 12/22 514982@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>bump </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26013#post-514981 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:43:07 +0000 CheetahBoysmommy 514981@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Al-Alon was started as a way for families of alcoholics to cope, but the basic meetings work for a variety of other problems. </p> <p>They will also be able to direct you to other resources you may not have found yet. </p> <p>But you have to listen to what is said and follow the advice given. If you follow the program faithfully, it will be of benefit to you and both your sons. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25994#post-514980 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:40:01 +0000 jcat 514980@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Chey, I am so sorry. {{{{Chey}}} If I were your step-mom and I read what you've said here, about wanting her to stay your mum, being able to talk to her about anything, and wanting her in your life for always, well, then you would never EVER be able to get rid of me. You just have to tell her exactly what you told us and I bet you'll be as close as ever, maybe closer, because she might well need a friend to lean on now too. </p> <p>Everyone else has such good advice, I will only say again, tell her what is in your heart, the way you've told us. {{{Chey}}} I hope things work out for you and your mum, even though this is such a difficult thing to go through. I bet CBM is right, I bet she is as worried about losing you as you are about losing her. Like you said, you're family. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25994#post-514979 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:32:14 +0000 CheetahBoysmommy 514979@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>She is divorcing your dad, not you. I bet right now she is as anxious as you are that she may lose you. </p> <p>If your dad says anything about your staying friendly with your step mom, you just need to remind him that your continuing relationship with your step mom doesn't diminish your relationship with him. Tell him you need a loving female in your life and that the good qualities that attracted him to your step mom to start with are still there. They may not be able to live together, but that doesn't mean you have to cut her out of your life. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25880#post-514978 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:17:31 +0000 JB 514978@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Just got a call from my Sweetie, Elektra just came back from her first adoption day event since she came to us. One of the women who runs the feral org. that saved her picked her up on Friday night on her way home from work, took her to the Saturday event and then to the vet before bringing her home now. She is so happy to have "her kitty" home.</p> <p>Sweetie doesn't drive, we are both disabled. Getting her to and from the adoption days every week was looking to become a problem, but next week is taken care of - the feral woman will pick her up and I'll bring her back at the end of the day.</p> <p>The vet agreed with my sweetie that Elektra was underweight so now she has new wet food to eat twice a day as well as kibble. She also still on antibiotics from her teeth and UTI. That has been a bit of a challenge.</p> <p>We will probably take Ginger over the weekend after next. I'll get a smelly sweetie and Elektra shirt sometime this week. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25992#post-514977 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:10:21 +0000 dionnewb 514977@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Thank you so much, SM... Yes the boy seems fine today, and doesn't seem to be in pain...</p> <p>Im just hoping that his wailing when I pulled the catheter out was from discomfort, not pain... </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26013#post-514976 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:07:54 +0000 SoxsMom 514976@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>DM you will find that the program that Lainey is describing will do a great deal to help you, so that you will be able to have the support you need. The element that they meet in this system normally do not reinforce your postive behaviors--they teach them how to be more destructive to themselves. If at all possible this route can be dangerous to all concerned. I would try as Lainey suggested. Also you may need to remove him from his peer group. Often behavior like this is expected and reinforced by those he may hang around with, maybe a summer with his father and away from peers could help shake him up enough to get on the right track. I realize you and your exhusband as not on good terms, but I am prayerful that he will do something positive for his son before a juvenile criminal record is obtained. As a single Mom you are dealing with a tough situation, and your son is at an age that he is trying to become what he thinks a man should be--peers influence on this is extreme. Please do not beat yourself up. You need support that is near your--like a single parent group or the group that Lainey has suggested. Please, please get the support you need--you are doing an overwhelming job! You are a loving Mom and that makes you the very best kind--please get the support you need. Remember Julie--you are loved! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26013#post-514975 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:45:25 +0000 Lainey 514975@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Yes, Julie, however, I have found, by personal experience and also from many friends, that because, when the program is worked right, the focus is on YOU. And when that happens, you learn HOW to help your loved one. Email me at LaineyLives at aol and I'll talk to you more about it (if you like). I'm going to bed right now, but I'd be happy to talk to you on the phone (I have free long distance) anytime this week or if you really need to talk now let me know via email (I'll check when I'm done folding clothes in a few minutes) and call you. Hang in there! I'm so glad you are reaching out! It is obvious how much you love both your boys and just want to help them through this and still have a life for yourself! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26013#post-514974 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:43:25 +0000 Buttercup 514974@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I can't remember what state you moved to Julie,have you looked into the programs for at risk youth in the schools? I don't know what else to suggest. You ARE NOT a bad Mom.<br /> [[[[Julie]]]] </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514973 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:41:24 +0000 JB 514973@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>My thoughts are with you and your mom. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26013#post-514972 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:37:56 +0000 daisy mew 514972@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Lainey, </p> <p>Isn't Al Anon for families of alcoholics? </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514971 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:35:20 +0000 Buttercup 514971@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Oh my! I'm so glad your Mom is OK.I'm sorry about the loss of mementos and the trees.<br /> [[[[[CTR &amp; MOM]]]]]]] </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514970 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:28:46 +0000 Lainey 514970@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Thank you, God, your mom is okay. I'm sad for the things that were lost. It sounds you come from strong stock. I admire your mom and her attitude, and yours, too. May you continue to be showered with blessings like today: mom is alive! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26013#post-514969 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:27:03 +0000 Lainey 514969@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>DM - Here is a site that might offer you some guidance. <a href="http://evidencebasedprograms.org/wordpress/?page_id=120" rel="nofollow">http://evidencebasedprograms.org/wordpress/?page_id=120</a></p> <p>I would STRONGLY recommend that you go to Al-Anon. They will help YOU so that you in turn can help your son. Go for 90 days, daily, if it doesn't work for you they will refund your misery. </p> <p>Keeping you and your boys in my prayers. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26013#post-514968 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:22:41 +0000 daisy mew 514968@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Dear Family,</p> <p>Things with my oldest son are just getting worse and worse. I allowed him to spend the night with a friend, just to find out that they weren't even there. I asked him what he thought he was up to and of course I got the standard, "Well you don't care" answer.</p> <p>He is failing most all of his classes a school. Every word out of his mouth is rude, hateful or hurtful. We have done therapy and it just isn't working. The next step I have here is dealing with the juvenile system, and letting him spend some time at a juvenile facility. </p> <p>Every morning is a battle, every night is also and I just won't even go into what the weekends are like here.</p> <p>I love my son more than he will ever understand, but I am not sure how much more that I can take anymore.I have no family here that can take him and short of the juvenile system there is sending him to his Father's. I feel like a total failure as his Mom. </p> <p>I have already taken all of his privileges and extras that he has had. Nothing seems to work. I have been loving and supportive, tried talking with him and all, I have tried the "tough" love and nothing is working. </p> <p>I need help! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514967 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:13:23 +0000 Cat talk rules 514967@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>My mom is a strong woman. She said just think of how green it will be when it grass grows back, and she plans to make some paths as it grows to walk her dogs, she said some good will come from it. I also thought mushrooming is good after a fire. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26010#post-514966 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:00:46 +0000 WillowandWindismom 514966@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Poor Georgie - the plight of a kitty in a well loved home! We should all hope to come back in that form!!! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514965 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:59:36 +0000 WillowandWindismom 514965@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Sandi, I am so sorry and know the pain of the "physical loss". But your memories will endure forever. It is so sad to see the loss of that which you can see but the important thing is that your mom, and her house, were spared and are safe. I know it's hard, though. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25991#post-514964 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:48:35 +0000 Rocky Balboa 514964@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>kk thank you all ^^ </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514963 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:46:53 +0000 ailuromaniac 514963@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>As others have said the burned buildings and things inside are a blow but the memories remain in tact. The loss of life is what cannot be replaced. I know the trees are the worst blow of all. Hopefully this spring there will be shoots that return from the roots for your mom's comfort. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514962 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:44:50 +0000 SoxsMom 514962@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I am so very thankful that she was able to stay safe CTR! Please know you and your Mom are in my thoughts and prayers. Maybe this spring you could plant a tree in loving memory of your Dad--a tribute to him. Hold those memories close and know they will never leave you. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514961 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:22:39 +0000 Cat talk rules 514961@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I hope they pay, SM although for the most part the value is sentimental more than monetarily. I am so glad Mom is OK and that her house is. There is a lot of unreplaceable mementos there. They told her to get out now and she left without a coat with her dogs and then didn't know what to do. She was in shock I think. she said there was no time for anything. Losing her home so close to losing Dad would have been a real blow to her. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514960 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:18:25 +0000 cricketsmama 514960@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>((((Sandi))))<br /> I am so sorry that you lost all that you did but so thankful that your mom and her home are alright. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514959 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:12:21 +0000 GreatDane 514959@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>(((CTR))) I'm so sorry for you and your mom. What a terrible thing to happen!!! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514958 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:10:21 +0000 mollycat71 514958@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Hugs to you and mom! I am thankful your mom is ok. Things can be replaced, people can't. We are here for you. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25991#post-514957 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:09:54 +0000 Sheba's Mom in Phx, AZ 514957@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Congratulations on your new kitten. Hope things go well from now on. It will take him some time to get used to all of you so be patient. I know you want to cuddle him but take it slowly. Offer him treats so he associates you with food; he will come around. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25991#post-514956 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:04:59 +0000 bala 514956@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Boy finding that kitten was a all day activity </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514955 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:04:43 +0000 Sheba's Mom in Phx, AZ 514955@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Her neighbors are idiots! Thank God your mom is OK. The idiots should be made to replace all that was destroyed. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25992#post-514954 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:02:44 +0000 Sheba's Mom in Phx, AZ 514954@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Well, the vet said it would be removed after 10 days, and you said it's day 10, so I think he's OK, whether it fell out on its own or you pulling it out. As long as he's not licking it often and pees without discomfort you can relax. Glad you went for the surgery, he will be a lot more comfortable. {{{HUGS}}} </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25997#post-514953 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 16:49:12 +0000 ailuromaniac 514953@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Jeff Buckley's "Hallelujah"</p> <p>Bett Middler's "The Rose" </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/26012#post-514952 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 16:47:24 +0000 Cat talk rules 514952@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>My Mom lives out in the country with quite a bit of land about her house. The house I grew up in, some sheds, barns etc were about a half an acre away. Some neighbors maybe a half a mile away decided to burn weeds. The fire got away from them and got almost to my Mom's house. The house I grew up burned, the other buildings burned, we don't know what happened to all the trees about them. My Dad's fruit trees burned and they are close to Mom's house. She is quite shook up that she nearly lost her home and that we did lose the places of our memories. I'm really grateful the house didn't burn but heartsick at our other losses. And I grieve for the trees because my Dad planted them and loved them and he would be so upset </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/25991#post-514951 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 16:41:55 +0000 JB 514951@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Yeah, I'm glad things have worked out. I hope you will have many many happy wonderful years together </p>