http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ Daily Kitten Chat Forum Topic: Now I really feel worthless en Thu, 18 Mar 2010 10:30:45 +0000 http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-287325 Tue, 25 Nov 2008 17:39:35 +0000 lisaeylau 287325@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Thanks, SM, I just found it. Whew! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-287324 Tue, 25 Nov 2008 17:38:10 +0000 SoxsMom 287324@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p><a href="http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11705" rel="nofollow">http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11705</a> </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-287322 Tue, 25 Nov 2008 17:35:23 +0000 lisaeylau 287322@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I just noticed...this is odd...I wrote a long post on this string the day she started it, and now I don't see it. Did someone remove it or am I blind??? Something about her tone set off the therapist in me. I'll look again. Maybe I'm just tired and am overlooking it. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-287321 Tue, 25 Nov 2008 17:34:48 +0000 SoxsMom 287321@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>She gave an update yesterday. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-287320 Tue, 25 Nov 2008 17:32:30 +0000 lisaeylau 287320@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Anyone heard anything? Please let me know. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285858 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 21:09:33 +0000 Buttercup 285858@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Thanks TL,I have my ups and downs (like everyone) and am OK.<br /> Thanks anyway. :) </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285843 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 21:02:31 +0000 Tigerlilly 285843@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Thanks CW.<br /> Buttercup,sorry to hear that you are not feeling well.. <a href="mailto:brendajose@aol.com">brendajose@aol.com</a>, if there's anything I can do to help, even if it's just to "listen". </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285841 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 21:00:31 +0000 Catwoman 285841@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I believe Leeny does not have email at home, so will most likely check in when she gets to work tomorrow. If she fails to do so, I have her phone number and will call her. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285840 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:59:12 +0000 Buttercup 285840@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>honestly I don't think I'm up to it,been kind of down myself. I have info if someone else can call her. I had an uncle and cousin commit suicide and have very strong feelings about someone talking about it too. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285838 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:57:45 +0000 Tigerlilly 285838@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Will do KK. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285836 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:56:18 +0000 krazikat 285836@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Someone bump it tomorrow, I'll be at work early and home late. Thanks everyone. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285832 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:54:41 +0000 Tigerlilly 285832@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Buttercup have you or can you try to contact her? </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285829 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:52:43 +0000 WillowandWindismom 285829@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Good deal, KK. I must say that this thread, plus the other, scares the stuffing out of me. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285826 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:51:29 +0000 krazikat 285826@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I'm on it. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285824 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:50:38 +0000 Tigerlilly 285824@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Good idea K...start one since it's your idea. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285823 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:50:28 +0000 Buttercup 285823@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I have her email and other info if you would like it please let me know. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285822 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:49:57 +0000 krazikat 285822@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Can we start a Leeny Call Home thread? </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285821 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:49:40 +0000 Tigerlilly 285821@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I agree WWM. Does anyone have her Email? I think it is especially serious when it is put down in writing on more than one occasion. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285817 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:48:05 +0000 WillowandWindismom 285817@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Okay, y'all - I am extremely concerned. I have not been able to contact Leeny. SM and I share a concern that if a person even talks about suicide they must be taken as serious.</p> <p>I do not have a clue as to what to do.... </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285783 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:09:24 +0000 Tigerlilly 285783@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I looked for her on my Christmas list and did not see her there. I was going to check in via Email a couple of days ago.<br /> Please check in when you can Leeny. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285781 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:05:18 +0000 SoxsMom 285781@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Rainingwolf I am truly concerned as well. I think WWM was in touch with her. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615/page/2#post-285777 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:00:21 +0000 rainingwolf 285777@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Has anyone heard from Leeny? It's been 3 days since the last post. I worry about her continuing suicidal thoughts as a solution to financial problems, and think we should keep in touch with her, even just to say hello every day so we know how things are going. Have any of you heard from her privately since 3 days ago? Just concerned..... </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615#post-284508 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 22:00:56 +0000 Nirmal 284508@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>come to think of it, if you or ur hubby were a college student....your college may even get free denal work. i know my college does it (for students - altough it's only cleanings)! but maybe they could direct you to more info if anything </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615#post-284479 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:21:27 +0000 krazikat 284479@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Leeny, sorry to hear about Mr Leeny's dental problems. I have needed some extensive dental work and my dental hygienist told me that 1 Saturday a month, dentists in our area volunteer to help people in my situation. I haven't had time to look into it yet, but maybe there is a similar program in your area? Also you may try a dental school. I've had friends with financial need go this route and they had good luck. I know it's hard not to feel blue when one problem after another piles up to the point that you can't even find your own life anymore. These intrusions wear us down, we are human. Try to remember that there are people who perk up and feel happy when they see you here and we enjoy your input and wish good things for you. You are in my prayers Leeny.{{{HUGS}}} </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615#post-284461 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:00:34 +0000 Nirmal 284461@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>leeny dear, i understand that feeling. some people in this country get what they don't deserve, and those who do need it are jilted. when i reported i got married social secuirty took m medicaid even tho my husband wasn't (and still isn't) working, and i could not work.....i even tried to look for jobs i might be able to do, filed a million applications, and had 2 nterviews. i was turned away at both. anyway, i too need teeth extracted and all kindsa dental work. maybe you could talk to your dentist if anything about doing a payment plan, or going to a dental clinic if possible. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615#post-284458 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 20:59:17 +0000 NNGM 284458@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Leeny, I can't add more to all the good advise here. I just want you to know that you are not worthless. I think the way you have supported and cared for Mr. Leeny is amazing - I'm afraid I would never have the patience to do all that you have done. Keep your chin up, look at yourself in the mirror and say "My TDK friends think I am a wonderful person". Because it's true, you know. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615#post-284439 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 20:44:55 +0000 AV 284439@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Hey, if you want a good laugh, go back and read the Tues. thread about the depends and the toilet tissue!!! That has to be a classic!!! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615#post-284435 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 20:39:06 +0000 Kitten Whisperer 284435@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Good luck, Leeny. When you don't believe you are worth anything, all you need to do is come back to this thread and read, read, read. Read it until you believe in yourself again. If you are low on faith in yourself, have faith in God and in your TDK family. {{{{{{{many hugs}}}}}}} </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615#post-284422 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 20:26:32 +0000 AV 284422@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I am in awe... this is what the TDK family is all about. I could not have said it better than any above.. Huuuuggggsss, purrrrs, gooood thoughtttttss and white ligghtttttttssss to you and Mr. Leeny!!!! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/11615#post-284405 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 20:12:03 +0000 anncetera2 284405@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Leeny, I'm so sorry; I forgot the most important part.</p> <p>You are NOT worthless. And you are NOT a failure.</p> <p>I care about you. That may not mean much, but I've been pushed to the brink myself at times earlier in my life. I know that horrible spiral of despair, and how terribly strong it can be. Please know that I care about you, and I care about what happens to you.</p> <p>I suspect your life and your friendship are worth more than you realize, Leeny. I went through an exercise with my friends once, as part of my therapy to understand my perception problem (feeling worthless). I emailed about 15 close friends, and explained that my questions were going to be genuine, confidential, and were part of my psychotherapy.</p> <p>The questions I asked were:</p> <p>"Why do you like me?"<br /> "Why are you my friend?"<br /> "Seriously, I have absolutely no idea why anyone would want to be my friend. So I thought it would be good to ask some folks I consider to be friends, and see what the responses are. Thanks for your input."</p> <p>I kept every single reply. (And true to my scientific little mind, I collated the adjectives and adverbs, and found some trends.) I still look back at them every once in a great while, if I'm feeling particularly down. Some of them still touch me deeply, and bring tears to my eyes.</p> <p>You're doing the best that you can, Leeny. It's hard, and I know you're not finding optimal solutions yet. But you will, I know you will. Both you and Mr. Leeny will be better off when that happens.</p> <p>Please don't hesitate to reach out to all of us when you need help, whether it's that you're feeling down or that Mr. Leeny needs a few bucks for his teeth. Hell, I'm still unemployed, but I'd contribute what I could toward a paypal account to match funds for Mr. Leeny's extractions.</p> <p>P.S. I'm glad Mr. Leeny is getting additional help from the GP for pain medication and antibiotics; that's good. Both of those things should help reduce his stress and discomfort - which should help reduce your stress, too. Does Mr. Leeny simply not understand that he should be helping to earn the money he needs, to get his teeth taken care of? </p>