http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ Daily Kitten Chat Forum Topic: Fed up with husband en Tue, 14 Feb 2012 16:23:37 +0000 http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10659 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 20:15:59 +0000 Instinct 10659@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>When you are ready to move KArin, give me a call. We can give a hand </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10492 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 13:01:25 +0000 MadcatwomanintheUK 10492@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Ginny's started a new thread following Max &#38; Molly's Mom's post - see Purrs &#38; Headbonks for Karin. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10483 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 12:31:11 +0000 MadcatwomanintheUK 10483@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Sylvester is gorgeous, and Mia is so cute - it always takes a while for the established cat to accept the newcomer, but they will settle down. Pickle hated Eric when he first arrived; they're now thick as thieves and play with each other. Button still treats Eric with disdain though, but all three are united in their terror of Mum's cat, who one friend has nicknamed Grandad F*** Off, as he cuffs them around the ears if they get too close! He may be 18, but he won't stand for any nonsense! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10482 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 12:26:06 +0000 MaxandCali'sMom 10482@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Oh, Karin, your Mia is beautiful!! Love her pretty face. I hope she and Sylvester get along ok. (He's such a hunk!!) </p> <p>By the way, do you think you could start another topic page-this one is getting pretty long and it's going to get a lot longer, I'm sure. (We all want to help and be a part of this.) But I have a hard time getting through the pages. I don't know if it's just me, but I can't go from page to page. I have to go to RSS feed in order to see the last pages. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10465 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 11:34:22 +0000 Lynn from PA 6/8 10465@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Karin, don't know of anything to add that someone else hasn't said. I am very proud of the steps you have taken to rid yourself of a terminal situation. I am so glad everyone has been helping you. </p> <p>Remember these words, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."</p> <p>You are doing just fine, my prayers, hugs and love are with you with each step you take. Take care, my friend. With love, Lynn </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10457 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 11:17:03 +0000 SylvesterMiasMomma 10457@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Mia is my new 12 week old kitten. If you scroll down on Sylvester's page you will see the "my family" and her picture below it. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10456 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 11:13:58 +0000 2 Popoki 10456@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>You have taken some really big steps, and quickly. You were definitely ready to do this. So proud of you ! Stay strong, girl. We're all behind you ! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10445 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 10:58:28 +0000 Crazycatman - CA 10445@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Karen, glad you are moving on. The hardest part for me was getting out of the bad situation, once I managed that everything else just started to get better, the pain and sense of loss fade as you start living your own life again. Be strong and look to a brighter future all your friends here are behind you 100%. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10444 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 10:57:58 +0000 MaxandCali'sMom 10444@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Wow, Karin, sounds like you've got a good start on a new life. I've been through that whole thing, too, and it's not easy. But when you get on the other side of it, you'll look back and wonder why you didn't do it sooner.<br /> My very best to you, and you know you've got support everywhere.</p> <p>By the way, I must have missed something because I don't know who Mia is.<br /> Obviously, she's a kitty, but where did she come from? </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10440 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 10:49:41 +0000 SylvesterMiasMomma 10440@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Thank you all for your kind words of support. I had the apartment to myself for the first time last night and actually slept through the night. Sylvester actually headbonked my leg this morning so maybe he starting to come around. Mia is showing more affection as she gets use to her new home and sylvester. She loves to tease him on the cat condo. I will get some more pictures of them doing this when I can. Last nigth I spoke to friend who says he will help me to move. This same friend is also a friend with my husband and says he is on my side. This friend seemed to berate (sp?) me a little last night about the whole issue with husband and I had to stop him and let him know that I need his help and empathy not his telling me to stop being an idiot and talking about my husband with him. I felt a bit alone and then my sister called and she informed me that if husband tries anything, her fiance will come and talk sense into him (he has a black belt). I said it wasn't necessary because Instinct is so close but that I would call her for backup if needed. She was the one who said I should have gone through with my divorce back in December. She said she hated to say it but she said she told me so. I said I know and wished I had gone through with it then and saved myself the nine months of mostly unhappiness.</p> <p>This morning, I had an interview at a very large engineering firm. It is high up in a building that has a fantastic view of Oakland, Alameda, and the San Francisco Bay. It would be supporting a VP and was told it could include some travel. I was very excited when I heard that. I would love the opportunity to travel, hoping that there may be a chance for a little sight seeing. At least get to see what other areas are like a little. They said they will want the candidate to come back for a second interview to meet the other VP and another employee. They hope to make their decision within the next two weeks. Next Monday I have an interview at a large financial institution. Still waiting to hear from the recruiter at another financial institution that said they wanted to setup an in person interview for an Executive Assistant position. </p> <p>Also, this morning on the way to work, I started thinking about what items I will keep for furniture and the ones he can keep. I was thinking he can keep the two used and worn couches and maybe my old 27" TV that weighs about 150 lbs plus the TV stand which is ugly and huge also. They aren't worth much now what with the LCD TV's. I figure I can go buy an LCD TV from Sears later when I move. Starting to think about the move. I will send off my 30 day notice to my landlord on the way home tonight. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10367 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 07:12:52 +0000 2 Popoki 10367@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>white light for strength, and pink light from my heart to yours. you are loved Karin, by many. As the saying goes... it's always darkest before the dawn. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10366 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 07:10:16 +0000 KYKAT 12 23 10366@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Karin, Sylvester is just being a cat. Give him time and love. There is also a great book called cat vs cat that is all about multi cat households and has some good advice. Maybe take a little time this weekend and to to the book store and flip through it. Also take some pictures of Mia for catster so we can see her.</p> <p>Hang in there. The first baby steps are the hardest. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10358 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 06:50:15 +0000 NNGM 10358@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Karin, Sylvester is probably feeling a little stressed with everything going on. Just give him extra attention - let him know that he is still "top cat" - and he will come around. Cats just hate change (well, don't we all?) but in my experience they are pretty good at handling things once they settle on their boundaries. I have never had sibling cats; all of mine had to learn to live with each other, accept new ones, etc. They always work things out after awhile.</p> <p>Hang in there! Remember that you are not a failure. You are making bold steps to change your life for the better. Just like the cats, it is hard to accept changes in your life. Just keep thinking of your goals, and know that you are making progress in getting your life in order. We are all behind you! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10337 Tue, 02 Oct 2007 00:43:29 +0000 Instinct 10337@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Sorry I wasn't here to respond sooner, homework and all kept me tied up. </p> <p>Give Sylvester lots of love and he will come back around, he's just not liking the fact that he has to share you now. It will get better, I know this because I had a bad end to a five year relationship and eventually it does go away.</p> <p>First thing you have to do when you have your own place is start learning who you are again. I am going to bet that you have forgotten quite a bit about who the 'real' you is because it has been defined by the jerk for so long.</p> <p>Youu'll be fine with some help from your friends :) </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10250 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 18:43:00 +0000 SylvesterMiasMomma 10250@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Thank you Instinct for the offer. I just had a huge cry just a moment ago. Feeling rejection from Sylvester (I know he is just mad at me for bringing in Mia) but I can't help feeling like I lost my cat friend and then I feel bad again about my marriage ending and all. So, just had a big cry, left kitties in the bedroom and going to go drink a nice glass of water and try to calm down. The pain will lessen eventually. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10162 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 16:56:08 +0000 artistabobbi TX 1/17 10162@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Wow, Karin,<br /> I've just caught up on the weekend and today.<br /> I am in awe of the courageous steps you have taken. You (and you kits) deserve the very best that life has to offer, not just the dregs.<br /> Please, the road ahead is tough, but you have so many many friends and support on this website, that, if you allow us, we will help you through this.<br /> Contragulations on taking that first step, first of many more. Know that you are not alone.<br /> Thank you TDKers for all your support. I am so proud to be a part of this wonderful network.<br /> Bless you Karin,<br /> Hugs, purrs and lots of love<br /> Bobbi and crew </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10122 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 16:06:20 +0000 2 Popoki 10122@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>YOo are an awesome person Instinct. Very kind and generous offer. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10116 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 16:01:56 +0000 Instinct 10116@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Karin, the only failure was on his part. He failed to give you the respect that he expected in return, he failed to live up to the commitments he made to you.</p> <p>You are not a failure by any strech of the imagination. Be strong, and if you need to vent, cry, hang out you can give us a call OK? :)</p> <p>(that's from BOTH of us) :) </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10095 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 15:31:40 +0000 SylvesterMiasMomma 10095@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>She says thanks but she is busy bugging Sylvester on the cat condo (I am not at home but that was what she was doing last night). </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10009 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 12:22:20 +0000 MadcatwomanintheUK 10009@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Sorry Mia *tickle tickle tickle* - better? </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10006 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 12:20:04 +0000 SylvesterMiasMomma 10006@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Thank you for your kind words of support. Sylvester thanks you for the tickle and Mia asks for one as well. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-10004 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 12:18:42 +0000 MadcatwomanintheUK 10004@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Failure? No way my friend. You have been brave beyond belief, now just a little more courage and you can be free of this dreadful situation forever. Here's a {{hug} for you and a tickle round the ears for Sylvester xx </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-9996 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 11:53:30 +0000 Bogman, Clark and Andy's mama 2/27 Florida 9996@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Karin, once again I find myself saying "I am so proud of you." You are taking charge of your life and for that I have the greatest admiration. Be strong (Like I know you are) and remember, God's Plan. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-9982 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 11:32:08 +0000 NNGM 9982@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Oh, Karin, I am just catching up on what has been going on with you. Please, whatever you do, keep yourself safe. (Your kitties, too, but you come first.) I'm so glad you have friends to help you. Keep us informed as to your well-being - we are all pulling for you. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-9978 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 11:28:43 +0000 anncetera2 9978@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Karin, you feel like you’ve lost a friend because you *have* lost a friend. You’ve lost the trust you felt for someone you loved. That isn’t your fault, though; sometimes things just happen.</p> <p>You will get through this. It may be difficult, and it will be painful. But you will end up in a better place, when this is all said and done. Having a work routine will help keep at least part of your life functioning in a pretty normal way, even when the rest of it seems completely crazy or chaotic.</p> <p>I’m sorry that your marriage is ending. But I’m relieved to know that you’re strong enough to do what’s best for you and your kitties. I look forward to hearing about the steps you’re taking to improve your situation. I care how you feel, especially about how you’re coping with the choices you need to make. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-9973 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 11:17:20 +0000 2 Popoki 9973@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Very astute observation Jo.. about the permanent job and life situation. I believe you are correct. I love your way of thinking.</p> <p>Karin, I'm right behind Jo in the prayer line on that one !</p> <p>All things happen in their own time, and for a reason. This is no exception </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/7#post-9970 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 11:11:53 +0000 Jo in Blairsville 9970@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Karin, you are not a failure. You are a success, because you've taken control of your life, and now it belongs to you, free of fear and filled with peace. You will mourn the loss of your marriage for some time. But it's part of the healing process. Come here and talk to us every day. We'll all help you through this. I'm so proud of you for doing one of the most difficult things you'll ever have to do. If you can do this, you can move mountains.</p> <p>Karin, I believe things happen in their own time. Maybe you didn't get a permanent job because you weren't in a permanent situation. Wouldn't it be wonderful if once you get settled in to your own place, a job immediately opens up? I'm going to pray about that.</p> <p>You rock, Karin! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/6#post-9953 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 09:53:43 +0000 2 Popoki 9953@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Tears are to be expected. You are NOT a failure. Your ring finger will feel 'weird' for a while, and yes the indentation will go away. Eventually, putting a ring ON that finger will feel weird. </p> <p>I am so proud of you for taking these steps. Scary? Yes. Will you feel lonely? Yes. Will you need to grieve the loss of the marriage? Yes. Will you come out stronger on the other side? Absolutely !!</p> <p>Wish I were closer too. You have my thoughts, prayers and positive and healing light and energy coming your way. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/6#post-9933 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 09:13:58 +0000 Boyzandme 9933@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Prayers to you Karin, Remeber you are a strong, confident woman. I will keep you in my thoughts and send all good vibes your way. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/130/page/6#post-9919 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 08:53:40 +0000 NorthernLilly 9919@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>{{{{HUGS}}}} I'm sure it will all work out! You're definitely taking the right steps to keeping yourself safe, physically and mentally/emotionally! I can't say I've been exactly in your shoes but I can understand your situation. Have been definitely keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and hope to hear this situation to resolve and you and your Sylvester will be happy! </p>