http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ Daily Kitten Chat Forum Topic: Horrible Breakup PLEASE HELP ME! I need someone to talk to. en Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:31:17 +0000 http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463833 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 13:20:09 +0000 Sheba's Mom in Phx, AZ 463833@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>We've all been through something similar, and remember "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger". Take it as a life lesson and your time won't have been a total loss. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463718 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 08:45:57 +0000 Arcalian 463718@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>You said it yourself, he was exhausting and hard on you. It hurts, for sure, but you are better off without him. The sun will rise again and you will move on. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463695 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 07:44:23 +0000 jeankit 463695@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Something we all know as TDKers...<br /> We have many relationships in our lives...the one that will always remain as the same loving, nuturing and constant companion is with our Kits!!! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463675 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 06:59:59 +0000 2bpurring 463675@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>CW good catch! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463674 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 06:49:25 +0000 Karenopa 463674@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Ha! You're one smart cookie CW! Ever thought about becoming a private detective? =D </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463671 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 06:30:30 +0000 Catwoman 463671@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>"I need someone to talk to."</p> <p>I guess Sophie found another outlet, since she never returned to talk to the people who provided sympathy and advice.</p> <p>I noticed a small coincidence..."Sophie" stated in her profile that she lives in Canada. We have another member on here who is Canadian and her cat is named Sophie. I wonder if someone read the other member's posts and decided to semi-hijack them with this thread. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463534 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 18:27:07 +0000 SoxsMom 463534@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Ailuromaniac I agree with that statement! If he is dating young girls and is 21 or older, he needs intervention in the legal form. </p> <p>I am sorry you are hurt. I am so very thankful that you didn't marry this person! It is so easy to say that time will mend the broken heart, but it really is true. You deserve to have a man in your life that will be your partner. You deserve so much better. Prayer of comfort and peace to you. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463528 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 17:54:29 +0000 ailuromaniac 463528@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>One point not touched so far is his relationship with underage girls. There is no mention of his age but if it is over 21 he needs to be turned in. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463527 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 17:47:01 +0000 Leeny 463527@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Also, if lots of other people tell you that you shouldn't date someone, listen to what they have to say. They may have very good reasons why you should stay away from that person. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463518 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 17:02:43 +0000 Shelley 463518@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>We are a nice site....but Sophie, if you check in again, you will find out that we are a no B.S. site. If your former (at least I hope so) boy friend was such a jerk, it is God's way of teaching you a lesson---never get tied up with someone who tells you things that it is too soon to believe--if he lies about how he feels towards you,he will lie about everything else. Remember the saying "if it seems too good to be true, it probably is". </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463510 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 16:42:11 +0000 eleniki 463510@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I don't think we'll hear from Sophie again. I immediately thought the same as you CW, but didn't want to be the first to say it - you were brave! Only thing is, this site obviously comes across as a caring one to all those who dip in. Which is nice to know I suppose... </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463498 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:58:58 +0000 JoanfromNewJersey 463498@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Do you have a cat to hug? Cats have awesome healing powers. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463494 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:52:13 +0000 2 Popoki 463494@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I agree w/you CW... went through my mind as well. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463490 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:38:37 +0000 Catwoman 463490@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I assume you were thinking the same thing, 12p?</p> <p>This reminds me of a scene from a sitcom I saw some years ago. I can't be sure, but it my have been Kirstie Allie in the scene. She is in a hotel room and calls a radio show to tell her relationship problem, then tearfully asks what she should do. The person on the radio offers some standard advice, then asks, "Do you have a gardening question? This is the garden show." </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463488 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:30:54 +0000 12PAWZinFL 463488@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Thank you, CW </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463487 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:30:08 +0000 Leeny 463487@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Sophie, as much as you're hurting now, someday you will feel great relief to have only given a year of your life to this person. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463485 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:24:45 +0000 Cheri 12/22 463485@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>why would you date someone who has a bad reputation ? he is going to lie and cheat at every opportunity he gets. dump the loser and find someone who is nice... </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463476 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:12:24 +0000 Catwoman 463476@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Though my heart goes out to anyone in this kind of situation, I have to wonder why someone would join a kitten chat for relationship advice. Sophie joined about an hour ago and the post above is her first and only post. I'm sure there are chats out there for breakup issues? </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463474 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:02:22 +0000 ailuromaniac 463474@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>"I feel as if our whole relationship was a lie." It was half a lie...his lie.</p> <p>"Was anything he ever said to me true?" I don't want to see you again or other breakup lines.</p> <p>"I am sooo unbelievably hurt." Of course you are dear, you gave your heart to a heartless selfish prick.</p> <p>"I feel like if i did something different, he wouldnt have cheated." NEVER buy that load of B.S. and as I alway told my girls, Never let them see you sweat. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463448 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:48:37 +0000 kaits_mama 463448@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>i wish there was a way to comfort you more. i have been there personally so i know how devastating it can be. the best thing for you right now, is any support of your friends and family. it is the best thing that you can have. i wish you all the best </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463444 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:40:47 +0000 Moonshadow_NZ 463444@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Sophie, don't blame yourself as it's not your fault. He has broken your trust and not shown any loyalty at all to you. The best thing you can do is move on with your life, painful though it might be for a while.<br /> As a mother to 2 young women I have had my fair share of heartbroken phone calls but time does heal and also it opens eyes to just how things were. There is someone for you out there, remember what you have learned from this relationship that made you uneasy and recognise those feeling in the future.<br /> {{{hugs}}} </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463441 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:33:33 +0000 owlwatcher_974 463441@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>*hugs*</p> <p>I can't think of much to say except that you need to take your time to deal with your feelings and let your heart heal. I can't understand how people can hurt one another like he hurt you, but I have been through it too. I almost got married to a jerk like that! The pain will ease with time, but in the mean time be gentle with yourself. You will get through this, and even though it seems like he is getting away with all the pain he is causing others, he will get what is coming to him in the end. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463440 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:32:40 +0000 Kitten Whisperer 463440@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Do you have a mother, sister, friend that you can talk to about your feelings? If you are a student, your school may have a counselor who could offer you support. There may also be a crisis line in your area that you could call for a referral to services in your area. Good luck to you! </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463439 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:31:00 +0000 Momma to 2 MaineCoons 463439@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>Sophie, first off not your fault even if you had done it differently he would have done it. Some men just like the challenge of multi-dating and when they finally slip up and get caugth they turn it around on the female. It's their fault and their choices. Move on forget him find something better to have in your life and when you are ready try again. Also if he is your first "ANYTHING" it is gonna be extremely hard but first's are just practice to work out all the bugs and understandf a relationship. Also remeber it takes both people working at making it good to be good. </p> http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/topic/22391#post-463434 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:25:18 +0000 Sophie 463434@http://www.dailykitten.com/chat/ <p>I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. he is my first love. i have gone thru so much with him. this year has been exhausting and this was a very hard relationship. all of my friends warned me not to date him because they knew the type of person he is. He has a bad reputation. He made me believe that he loved me and that he never cheated on me. We've been having problems for the past 3 months or so. He has been acting distant and i feel as if im being stringed along. I only see him once a week for the past 2 months almost. I found out the other day that he has been dating this 16 year old girl while he was with me. He denyed it and turned everything around on me even after she admitted it to me. He never mentioned me to her. She was the reason he never had time to see me. They have broken up, but i have also discovered that he has slept with several of her friends. I am so confused and so heartbroken. I feel as if i can't breath. He wouldnt even admit it to me or tell me why or how he could do this. He changed his number so I can't call him. I feel as if our whole relationship was a lie. Was anything he ever said to me true? I am sooo unbelievably hurt. I feel like if i did something different, he wouldnt have cheated. I feel soooo betrayed by him and his mother because she knew what was going on and never told me. I don't understand how he could have done this to me after everything we have been through together. I'm broken. </p>