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   I want to inform all my friends at TDK that my Dad died Friday. Another thing to add to my life of stress. He commited suicide Friday evening. I didn't think this was something he would ever even think about doing. I guess the stress of life got to him and he couldn't handle it. I can't understand why people would want to take their own life. How to you even go about understanding WHY? His funeral will be this Wed here in town. I'm confused on everything right now and relly don't know how I'm supposed to feel. I'm sad, I'm mad, I'm, well I really don't know. I thought I would let eveyone know since all of you have been great friends and helped me in my time of need with your kind words, prayers and even Vet expenses for my baby Cane. I appreciate all of you more then you will ever know and I hope your lives are going well.

   Hugs & Purrs to you all!

   Posted 1 year ago by Lynnnmo #

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   Oh Lynn I'm so sorry about your father. He must have been under some incredible stress. I don't understand suicide either, only that somehow some people can't find any other answer. Sending Prayers for your father's peace and for you that you can know peace and understanding. {{{Lynn}}}

   Posted 1 year ago by Karenopa #

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   Oh Lynn I'm so very sorry to hear about this. I can't say I understand it either,my uncle and cousin committed suicide and my first emotions were to feel sad that they felt they had to do that then I was and still am very angry that they chose that route.
   There are suicide survivors classes in most cities that are very helpful when the funeral is over,some police forces have chaplins who are very good and can guide you to other resources. I can help you find resources in your area and I'd be glad to talk with you because I am a survivor too.
   I am so sorry. NOTHING about it was your fault,this was HIS choice.
   mcglmr at aol dot com.

   Posted 1 year ago by Buttercup #

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   I am so sorry Lynn. *hugs*

   I will be praying for you... that somehow God will comfort you and bring you the peace that passeth all understanding to help you through this.

   Posted 1 year ago by owlwatcher_974 #

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   Bless you Lynn in this troublesome time, prayers for the healing of your soul. Suicide is a hard thing to understand even by trained medical professions, so please don't blame yourself for not doing 'something' to prevent it. I hope that your father found peace on the other side and finds a way to pass that onto you somehow. {{{hugs to you}}}

   Posted 1 year ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #

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   Oh Lynn I'm so sorry about your father. When there is no satisfaction in the job that he worked, the people that he interacted with and the feeling of being so unhappy, overwhelmed and in so much pain that it all caused him to decide life wasn't worth it anymore. Please don't blame yourself. I would suggest you look for a group that offers support to surving family members of suicide. Sending you many hugs.

   Posted 1 year ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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   Lynn, my deepest, most heartfelt sympathy to you. Suicide is simply beyond the comprehension of those who are left behind. Can you imagine how much pain your father must have been in? He would not have done this to you otherwise. Please try not to ever doubt yourself. I've studied suicide a great deal, and learned that it is believed to be an act of utter desperation, when people can't find a moment of respite from the torment of depression. There's nothing anyone can do when someone is truly determined to take their life. Please know I've prayed for your comfort and peace of mind.

   Posted 1 year ago by lisaeylau #

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   Lynnnmo, I am so sorry for you. I pray for you to find joy and happiness after this tragedy. Please, don't blame yourself, don't ask why, some things can never be understood. {{{Hugs}}}

   Posted 1 year ago by miu #

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   Prayers for you Lynn that you find peace, if not understanding, during this difficult time. I will be thinking of you.

   Posted 1 year ago by Shelley #

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    Lynn, I'm so very sorry about your Dad. This was something he decided to do all by himself so please do not blame yourself. {{{hugs}}}

    Posted 1 year ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

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    Sorry to hear about your sad news, Lynnnmo. A wise person once told me that suicide is an irrational decision and we are not meant to understand it. If it ever does start to make sense to you, that means you are in danger of coming to that same conclusion. That doesn't make it any less sad, just that you shouldn't keep searching for reasons to make sense of it.

    Stay strong.

    Posted 1 year ago by whistl #

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    Lynn, I'm so sorry to hear this. Please look after yourself and take care.

    Posted 1 year ago by jcat #

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    Oh Lynn, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. As the others have said, please do not blame yourself in any way. Your father must have been in so much pain, and just couldn't see any other way to find peace. I pray that he has found that peace now. I'm praying for you as well to help you get through this very difficult time. Please remember that we are here for you whenever you need us {{{Lynn}}}

    Posted 1 year ago by Rubia in CA, 4/28 #

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    I'm so sorry Lynn, my Mother has made a couple of suicide attempts in her lifetime, thankfully unsuccessful. It is a very hard thing to understand. Don't worry about how you think you're meant to be feeling, your emotions will be in turmoil right now. Please keep posting here to let us know how you are. {{hugs}}

    Posted 1 year ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #

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    I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers of healing coming to you and your family during this time.

    Posted 1 year ago by Lynn from PA 6/8 #

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    Lynn, I am so sorry about your father. I will keep you and your family in my prayers during this hard time.

    Posted 1 year ago by cricketsmama #

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    Lynn, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I'm so sorry that he was in so much pain, and so desperate to get the pain to stop, that he couldn't see any other way to make it end. He didn't want to hurt you; he didn't mean to add to the stress in your life.

    My heart goes out to you and your family.

    Posted 1 year ago by anncetera2 #

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    My condolences to you, Lynn, and your family. It is indeed hard to understand. Prayers to you and your family.

    Posted 1 year ago by LadyKat of IA #

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    Lynnmo, I am so sorry for your loss. I am thinking of you and praying for you. {{Lynnmo}}

    Posted 1 year ago by SammyandOliversmama #

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    I'm so sorry to hear about this, Lynn. I wish I had words that would make you feel better, but all I can offer is hugs and prayers for comfort for you and your family. And I echo what others have said, this was *not* your fault.

    Huge hugs.

    Posted 1 year ago by Kilroy #

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    Oh Lynn, I am so sorry to read this. Suicide is always just so hard to understand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

    Posted 1 year ago by NNGM #

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    Lynn, I'm very, very sorry for your loss.

    Posted 1 year ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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    Lynn, I'm so very sorry. I will have you in my prayers.

    Posted 1 year ago by 2bpurring #

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    I'm so sorry Lynn. Sometimes we don't know the personal demons that others have, even our closest loved ones.

    The important thing is DON'T BLAME YOURSELF. There's nothing you could have done to prevent this. Maybe delay it...but I think it would have happened anyway. It's not your fault.....we can only control our OWN actions.

    I've lost friends to suicide. :-( and I understand how you feel. Can't even put the right word to it, because there are so many different emotions. BIG HUGS from someone who's been down that path.

    Posted 1 year ago by Siobhan #

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    I'm sorry, too, Lynn. I agree with the others that of course this was not your fault and please don't blame yourself. Maybe, once the funeral is over, try to attend one of the survivor classes Buttercup mentioned. Sending hugs and prayers your way. Please keep posting and let us know how you're doing.

    Posted 1 year ago by GreatDane #

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    I'm sorry to hear about this, Lynn. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. I do hope you and your family will visit a counselor or a trusted religious official. {{{hugs}}}

    Posted 1 year ago by Cats4Cats #

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    Lynn, I am so very sorry to learn of your loss. The death of a parent is a difficult thing to accept at any time, but to have that death be this way makes it infinitely harder. We can offer you words of comfort and support, but unless we have faced a situation like this we cannot fully understand the range of emotions that you are experiencing. Please do look into a suicide survivors group, or a support group of some type. To be with others who have been where you now stand would be invaluable. Peace and prayers to you at this time of such sorrow.

    Posted 1 year ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    Oh, Lynn, I can add nothing more that what has been said already. The school where my husband taught 3 years ago experienced a suicide pact where 4 kids took their lives. This was not long after three other students died in a freak car accident coming back from the County Fair. It just about tore this small community (of about 5,000) apart.

    I know you are hurting right now--please, don't hold it in. It's ok to cry, to be angry, to be hurt, and to express these feelings. Also, by all means, seek out a local suicide survivors group, your pastor, or your best friend you haven't talked to since high school--anyone with whom you feel led to connect. We're here, too. {{{hugs}}}

    Posted 1 year ago by gatakitty #

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    Lynn, I am sorry for your loss and will add you and your family into my prayers as well. I know that feeling of loss and the wondering of why, having lost two loved ones this way. After 20+ years we still don't understand why, and probably never will. Many, many prayers for you.

    Posted 1 year ago by KarenCentennial #

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    Oh, honey, this must have been a horrible time for your dad, and sometimes suicide can seem the only way out. It is an intensely personal act and decision, and it is the most destructive.

    Once the decision is made, it is so difficult to prevent, and the outcome is damaging to so many people. There is nothing more wretched than witnessing the aftermath of such an act.

    Suicide and depression go hand in hand, and the people who appear so strong to us can in reality be as fragile as spun glass. It just happens. Forgive him, and pray for him, and know that your Dad is now at peace even while leaving devastation in his wake.

    Every good family has its Closer, that person who says,

    "This is terrible; we will mourn our loss; we will grieve for the way he parted; we will pray for his soul and know that he has found peace.

    "We will love him and forgive him.

    "And we will live. We will go on."

    Be the Closer. Comfort yourself, Lynn, comfort others, and forgive your father. The pain must have been too great, and he could not share, and he could not see any other way out.

    You are in our prayers.

    Posted 1 year ago by Emma #

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