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   Well not only did I loose my Dad last month but I lost my brother (age 41), he commited suicide on Monday and My Aunt passed at 10:17pm last night. My brother couldn't handle the death of out Dad so he choose to take his own life on Monday Oct 27th. Last night my Aunt had a Halloweeen dinner for the family and she dressed up and had a good time but during desert she fainted and never come out of it. I don't know how much more of this I can handle. It is emotionaly and financialy draining. It took me over a two weeks to get over my headache I had after Dad passed and I got it back the day my brother died and have had it ever since. I know they said God don't give you more then you can handle but honestly I can't handle anymore. All I keep thinking is why??? Why is all this happening? I'm lost and at a loss for words. In a year and three months I have lost two cats (my babies), my dad, my brother and now my aunt. I miss them all so very much and all I do is cry. I hate that when I get on this site I don't have any good news. I need good news. I need answers. If you don't want to give it to me on the site you can email me at sweetness1763@hotmail.com

   Thanks and hugs to you all. I hope your lives are going much better then mine is right now!

   Posted 3 years ago by Lynnnmo #

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   Lynnnmo, so sorry to hear of all the passings in your family recently. Am at a loss for words also except saying prayers for your strength in these trying times. {{{hugs}}}

   Posted 3 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #

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   Lynnmo, I am so sorry to hear of all the losses you have had in your life recently. My heart goes out to you. I will keep you in my prayers that you find peace and strength in this horrible time for you. ((hugs))

   Posted 3 years ago by cricketsmama #

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   I'm so sorry for all the losses you've had in such a short time, Lynnmo! It is fine to bring your heartache here. We are family! I'm not going to pretend to know the reason for all this loss. I'm sure God has a plan. I was thinking today about how life has endings but also beginnings. We lost our beloved TDK sister Renee in Arkansas this week, yet we are also celebrating the marriage of Shelley today.

   Do you have anyone near you who can spend time with you or give you a hug? There are plenty of folks here willing to do this virtually, but it would be a blessing if there is a friend or family member who could help you right now where you are located. There must be support groups in your area for people who are grieving the death of a loved one through suicide or otherwise.

   Take good care of yourself, Lynnmo. I hope the headache eases soon. {{{hugs}}}

   Posted 3 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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   I have no answers and I can't really offer much help for you. But I am thinking of you, and I am so sorry for your losses. You have been through so much, finding everything hard now is totally normal. Allow yourself time to be upset and angry, and time to gently recover and start to rebuild your life. I imagine it's feeling pretty shattered now, but know that one day you feel better, one day you will wake up without the headaches, and you'll be able to remember all your lost loved ones in their best times and smile at the wonderful memories. Huge ((hugs)) to you, and I will keep thinking of you and hoping and praying for answers and better things for you.

   Posted 3 years ago by metsa #

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   Lynnmo I am terribly saddened to hear your news. There are very few word that seem to help when everything is going wrong. What a blessing that you had a family dinner to make that memory of family before your aunt passed. In the years to come you will be able to remember her with those she loves. Prayers of peace and comfort to you as you deal with more grief than one should have to bare.

   No Person is Ever Truly Alone
   by Richard Fife

   No person is ever truly alone.
   Those who live no more,
   Whom we loved,
   Echo still within our thoughts,
   Our words, our hearts.
   And what they did
   And who they were
   Becomes a part of all that we are,
   Forever.

   Posted 3 years ago by SoxsMom #

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   Lynnmo, Will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. I know it's tough when bad things happen in a series of terrible blows. You are understandably confused, hurt, depressed and grieving right now and the answer to "why" is unknown and unseeable. Hang in there. We will be here to help you on this journey.

   Posted 3 years ago by GizzysAuntie #

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   Lynmo, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

   Posted 3 years ago by tinafishfrombirthplaceofElvis #

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   I am sending prayers and showers of white light for you right now Lynnmo. Please know that your TDK family is keeping you in our thoughts. My deepest sympathies on your losses. I don't know the answers but know if we can surround ourselves with the love of friends and family, it can ease us. I pray that you have someone who can be with you and hold you while you cry. Wish I could do more than send you virtual hugs.

   Posted 3 years ago by paulajeanne #

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    Lynnmo, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Posted 3 years ago by sullis #

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    Lynnmo, so sorry for your losses and all that you are going thru. Prayers and white light coming for you and your family {{Lynnmo}}

    Posted 3 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #

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    Purrs and hugs to you.

    Posted 3 years ago by caroline #

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    Sending hugs, best wishes and prayers, Lynnmo. I am so sorry you're going through so much. Keep checking in with us and let us know how you're doing!

    Posted 3 years ago by GreatDane #

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    I'm so sorry for your losses Lynn.

    Posted 3 years ago by Buttercup #

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    Oh Lynnmo, I am so sorry for your losses. Its a heavy burden for you to bear. Do you have a spiritual advisor you can turn too? Someone already said it but bereavement groups can be a great source of support. You are in my prayers

    Posted 3 years ago by Cat talk rules #

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    Lynn..I'm so sorry and weeping w/you for all your loss. I'm so, so sorry! {{{Hugs}}} Lynn there are no answers to Why? None that ever seem to suffice when we hurt like this. Try to reflect on the good, warm memories of all your loved ones and remember that we all will meet again on the bridge way to Heaven. Be strong hon and please feel free to email me anytime.karenopa[at]yahoo[dot]com

    Posted 3 years ago by Karenopa #

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    Oh LynnnMo, I just read this and I am soo very sorry for your losses of late! All I can do is pray for better times and a more hopeful tomorrow for you as well as a quick time of healing! Stay strong and know here on the TDK we love you, you are a very important part of this family!

    Ange/LV

    Posted 3 years ago by Momma to 2 MaineCoons #

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    I am so sorry for your losses. That is so tough, and I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. I know that everyone says the same thing, and it doesn't seem to help, but this too shall pass! I will be thinking of you. Keep strong.

    Posted 3 years ago by skirty #

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    My God you have had a lot to deal with. I am very saddened by your post. I wish there was something I could say but words won't change things right now. Someday maybe this pain will make sense. Right now you deserve to baby yourself and feel the way you do. I am sorry for your losses.

    ((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

    Posted 3 years ago by petpntr #

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    Please find a survivor's group or grieving group to help you deal with your losses. They are usually low or no cost.
    Here are some in Mo;
    http://www.alz.org/stl/documents/STLReportGrief.pdf
    http://www.mts-stl.org/DonorFamilies/AddtlSupportGroups.phtml
    http://www.suicide.org/suicide-survivors.html
    http://www.survivingsuicide.com/cope.htm
    Lynn,please call up and talk to somebody in this group. If I lived anywhere nearby I'd be over there giving you hugs and helping you. Please do this for yourself. [[[[[Hugs]]]]]

    Posted 3 years ago by Buttercup #

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    Oh Lynnnmo, I am so sorry for your losses. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

    Posted 3 years ago by miu #

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    Lynn, I simply don't know what to say. I cannot imagine the grief and emotions that you are experiencing. My most heartfelt and sincere condolences.

    It's so little to offer, but we are here for you.

    Posted 3 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    I'm so, so sorry Lynn, you're having such an incredibly tough time of it...the only advise I can add is to keep talking, keep posting, don't bottle your feelings up. {{hugs}}

    Posted 3 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #

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    Lynnmo... I, too, am at a loss for words, and have no answers. Please know that you are in my thoughts. breathe deep... and please take care of YOU

    Posted 3 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    Lynnnmo...I'm so sorry your having so much loss in your life. Reading your post makes my own problems seem so petty. I wish I had answers for you. And if I were close to you, I would give you the HUG that you most definately need at this time.
    And please...don't EVER feel bad about coming here & unloading to your family here. We all need somewhere & someone to share our sorrows with. And you've definately had more than your share of losses for any one person to take.

    {{{HUGS}}}

    Posted 3 years ago by feral #

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    I'm so sorry for your loss and heartbreak Lynnmo, you are in my thoughts. {{hugs}}

    Posted 3 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

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    Lynnmo, I just read your post. I wish I lived close enough to give you a real hug. Please take the advise others have given and find a survivor group, and don't ever be afraid to talk about your feelings. Sometimes even just sitting down and writing everything out helps (even if it just for yourself). You are now on my prayer list so I will think about you every day. I don't have answers either; sometimes we don't see the answers until a long time later. We all care about you, please feel free to come here and vent anytime.

    Posted 3 years ago by NNGM #

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    That's what is so nice about this forum. We can vent, chat, express, or whatever we need... people listen & care! I'm so glad I found TDK

    Posted 3 years ago by AV #

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    Lynnmo, I am so so sorry for all your heartbreak. You are not alone, we care about you and wish we could hug you in person. You will be in my thoughts. Please, take care of yourself. {{{HUGS}}}}

    Posted 3 years ago by jcat #

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    Oh Lynnmo, I am so sorry for your losses. Is there a local church where you can go talk to the priest or a counselor that you could go to? You have had a lot of loss in a short time and this a lot to ask one person to handle. I am here and hope you will come back and talk with us. Sending you lots of hugs.

    Posted 3 years ago by SylMiaFelixMomma #

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