I'm looking for ways of coping with Christmas since Sultan passed away. He was so much part of the season for so long, everything reminds me of him. I can't even see tinsel without thinking of how he'd always jump in the box as soon as it came down from the loft, and the fun he'd have chasing it, and how kitten-y he'd behave about everything. It was like having a child in the house, he was so excited about everything, and on Christmas morning he'd run into the lounge and tear open my gift to him (always a hand made catnip toy) with his 4 paws. It's all so hard to think about, and know that he won't be there; it was his season and he loved it so much.
I've already nearly been in tears every time I've gone into town and I'm just looking for some help on coping strategies from anyone else?
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Advice for a cat-less Christmas?
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It's not easy is it Metsa? {{hugs}}
Are you able to spend Christmas Day with a cat household anywhere? Also, you may find a local shelter would love some help, many use volunteers to help socialise the cats, this could be a longer term way of having cats in your life even if you can't have one of your own right now.
Posted 3 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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A cat household probably wouldn't help, because i know I'd spend all day mentally comparing the cats to my Sultie. I know I'll be upset on Christmas day and missing him then and I'm ok with that really. Sultie deserves to be mourned, and he was special enough, and made Christmas so much his, that I'm ok to spend the day missing him. But I need to be able to get that far, to shop without crying, to think about it all without the tears etc. And I'm not coping very well with that at the moment :'(.
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Don't be too hard on yourself, or expect miracles - it's barely a month since you lost Sultan, that's no time at all, especially given the circumstances. Try to always go shopping with someone, they can help distract you so you don't get lost in your thoughts. And you'll have some us to distract you in person in just under 3 weeks! It will get better with time, keep posting, keep sharing and slowly it will get better. The first anything after the loss of a loved one is always going to be bad.
Posted 3 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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is that Sultan in your avatar? I don't have any coping advice, but I have been thinking of naming one of our black kittens Sultan after seeing your posts.
Posted 3 years ago by planetkitty #
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Metsa I am so sad to read your post. I want you to visit my website. There is extensive information on dealing with grief but in particular I would like you to read the story of my Fluffy. Fluffy was 22 years old when she passed on. I swore I would never get another cat and if I even thought of it I felt guilty and disloyal to her. Her story is entitled Fluffys Beautiful Exit but in addition to that there is also a section dealing the total feeling of loss. We all have different coping mechanisms and I hope that you will use the tools on the site to help you through this period. There are even telephone numbers for person to person counsellors if you feel the need to talk to someone about this. I wish I could take away some of your hurt. Please click on my Gravatar to go to my site and see the section "Dealing With Grief" I sincerely hope it helps.
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You read my mind, Nirmal, or she could adopt two kitties. What's better than one cat? TWO!
Posted 3 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #
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{{{HUGS}}} It is something that only time can heal.....
Posted 3 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Phoenix, AZ 10/8 #
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I can't have cats in the rented flat where I live, or else it'd already be full. I'll see about volunteering at a shelter, not sure if being around others I can't take home will help, but only one way to find out I suppose. Hopefully time will help Sheba's mom, this Christmas will be the worst I'm sure, since I can still compare it to last year.... sigh.
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