Sorry but I need to vent....Was feeling very depressed last night especially after finding out that husband had setup my computer to automatically sign on to his email account and forward my email to his account. I am so tired of this all. Feeling so violated, frustrated and now just plain depressed. Just put me out of my misery!
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Posted 2 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #
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Karin, were you able to fix that problem? Is your computer still set up that way?
Posted 2 years ago by anncetera2 #
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How did you find out?? That is so slimey of him!
Do I have to start swearing in Spanish again?!
Geez the nerve of that man!HUG hug Karin dear
Posted 2 years ago by PipasMumSpain #
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Karin don't use that account and set up a yahoo or whatever account to use.
That's what I do. I have a back up email account.I hope he didn't direct a yahoo one. Sounds like he knew your passwords.
Print out all your addresses and set up the new one and then email everyone you want your new email and not to use the old one.
Here come the hugs!!! Hug your kitties too~~ It will get better.
Posted 2 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #
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Karin, I've been following your story but not commenting since I'm kind of "new" here. Just wanted you to know that I think you're amazing and that I have tremendous respect for the way you've taken control of your life. Don't let this latest intrusion get you down. You are well on your way and I don't think anything can stop you now. Hugs and purrs.
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Big hugs from me
Posted 2 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #
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Thank you all. I went in and cleaned up my computer so it won't forward. It was an MSN account. I use only Yahoo and Gmail now and have changed the passwords on all my accounts. I even gave strict instructions to several vendors such as my car insurance to not give out any information on me. I guess what bugs me the most is I put my trust in him from day one and this how he repays me.
I need to go talk to a therapist but and once I am unpacked and organized in my new home, I will go find one that hopefully allows payment on a sliding scale.
Instinct also said he would help me re-initalize my hard drive to wipe it completely clean and start over. Just need to find the time to do that. Poor Instinct is already full with school, p/t job and homework. Not fair to load him with another item.
Posted 2 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #
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Karin, I am so glad that you found this out before anything else could happen. What a butt! I hate people like that.
Posted 2 years ago by Bogman, Clark and Andy's mama 2/27 Florida #
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Oh gosh, Karin. You certainly are doing yourself a favor by getting him out of your life. What a(n) (expletive deleted).
((hugs))
Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #
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I guess what with being tired and all the crap going on in my life, my defenses are at an all time low. I am hoping to get some rest this Saturday. Cable person will arrive between 3-5pm and I am hoping they show up at 3pm so I can get it over with.
Thank you for the hugs. By the way, I do have a pint of Haagen Daz mocha chip ice cream in the freezer but just haven't been interested in eating it. Maybe will try this weekend. For me to not to want to eat something like that means I am really depressed. Need to find a perm job so I can get health benefits.
Posted 2 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #
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{{HUGS}} I am so sorry to hear of the latest violation of your security, your space, your peace of mind. Make sure your lawyer knows of this as well. I cannot say that I've been down that particular road, but have had my share of bumps and potholes. You will come out of this stronger. You have amazed many of us with the strength you have shown already.
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Big Hugs for Karin, hang in there girlfriend, your on the right track. Just remember, one foot in front of the other...........
Thank goodness Instinct and Intuition are so close by for you, and never forget about your family sounding board. We all love and care about you, so please don't forget that.
Posted 2 years ago by debsterwiz #
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What a slimeball!!!!! {{{{{HUGS}}}}}
Posted 2 years ago by Rubia in CA, 4/28 #
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Karin, I am so sorry to hear of your latest intrusion on your privacy. Hang in there and hold your head high. You did very well to correct the problem. Good for you! We are here anytime you need us, just call. Hugs, purrs and Love, Lynn
Posted 2 years ago by Lynn from PA 6/8 #
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Sweetheart, hang tough. This is just one more confirmation of why you are getting rid of that jerk.
You've gotten your new place, your kitties are OK, and things are beginning to look up. If he calls or harrasses you, call the lawyer and the police.
Now, please sit back and remember that we all love you, we are all praying for you, and God is handling all of this with you.
God will handle your ex. God is bigger, stronger, has more time, and a much better imagination than any of us. Your ex will eventually regret a lot more than he ever dreams.
And another thing: God ALWAYS gets the last word.
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Emma, thanks for reminding me that God does ALWAYS get the last word. I had forgotten that with all that's been going on. so anyways, Big Hug to you for the gentle reminder. Love Terri
Posted 2 years ago by Bogman, Clark and Andy's mama 2/27 Florida #
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Remember-what goes around, comes around! He will eventually get his due! Just focus on the future and you will be OK-we are here for you, sweetie.
Posted 2 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Phoenix, AZ 10/8 #
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Karin, all I can say is I hope you did that one little thing that can drive someone insane --- I hope you took the can opener when you left.
Posted 2 years ago by Jo in Blairsville #
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Well, he got some nice things left by me...a microwave, nice toast/convection oven, a deep fryer, and a sort of broken vacume cleaner. He also got to keep the larger of the two couches and his bookcase. I left his room alone as well. I left the place a message - carpet needs to be professionally cleaned and so does my old room and bathroom. I left my bathroom with cat litter all over the place so he has to deal with that. Also, he needs to find a roommate by the end of this month or he will have to pay for the whole rent by himself. If the landlord comes after me for any part of the rent, I will encourage her to start eviction notice on him and make sure the eviction doesn't go on my record. That is one more thing I have to ask the attorney. I will be calling her tomorrow to discuss reducing her fee if I can do some of the paperwork myself.
Posted 2 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #
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Hi Karin -
First - and most importantly - {{{{HUGS}}}}
Second - paying for a therapist? You have us, and we're free!!! Vent in here, punch pillows when you're not online, and swear like a trouper about the *&%@@*" you married, and how you are SO well shot of him. Repeat after me : "I am great, my life is picking up nicely, and my prat husband can go (rhymes with duck) himself."
Third - eat that ice cream. It's a crime not to eat HD ice cream. Don't make me tell you off for this again!
Fourth - more {{{{hugs}}}}
You're doing great. Some reaction is only to be expected now you're in your "safe" place. Grab a kitten to cuddle and get some sleep. xx
Posted 2 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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I'd encourage you to find a good therapist, Karin. I have a lot of wonderful, supportive friends and a brother and sister to die for, but therapy gave me a whole different take on why I do what I do and am who I am. It's about much more than venting, it's about learning to work with your strengths *and* your weaknesses. Of course, finding a really good therapist can be a major odyssey in itself, but if you do find one you can work with, the experience can be invaluable.
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Big Hugs from me...and remember there will be a time when you look back on this and will just sigh that it is all over...keep positive (I survived learning my husband had two other wives, and now it is just interesting conversation over coffee)You have alot of friends here :)
Posted 2 years ago by peppercat28 #
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