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   I am currently working at a large biotech company that I temped at back in 2005 for about three months and then I left because I was no longer needed. Well, there was this woman who was so full of herself and seemed to have developed a dislike of me. She and the manager were in "cahoots" with each other and always made sure to make me feel like an outsider by talking about the lunches they had gone together, etc. Anyways, so I am now back at this company again doing temp and the stupid woman is still here. Well, what is now driving me nuts about her is she won't say hello or good morning and when I walk into the lunch room always makes sure to stop what she is talking about like you do when you are talking about someone and they walk in the room. She drives me nuts because she looks at me but won't talk to me. She loves to talk about herself to a lot of people...about how they are selling their houses, going on certain types of trips, etc and she has to talk so loudly that the whole office can hear her.

   I want to go up to her and just say SHUT THE FREAK UP and that I don't give a "rats patootie about the going-ons in her life. If I land a new perm job, I might just send her a note saying it was nice not talking with her and I am off to a better job.

   GROWWWWWWWWWWLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Need chocolate, nice quiet home, and Sylvester to curl up with. Oh the dream of being able to telecommute.

   Posted 2 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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   OH Sweetie, it'll get better. I promise!

   Posted 2 years ago by Bogman, Clark and Andy's mama 2/27 Florida #

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   When you get your perm job (and it WILL happen) send her this note and blind copy her manager:

   "It was real nice not talking to you and let's not talk again real soon, ok?"

   *hugs to Karin*

   Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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   Ok this looks like an emergency...

   *puts cuddly kitty + cadbry's chocolate + todays speciality (feet massaging Spaniard)*

   Hope this helps until Sylvester saves the day!

   P.D. Your co-worker has obviously some personality issues and hides her insecurity by deliberately ignoring you. She is secretly jelous of your strong personality and values.

   Posted 2 years ago by PipasMumSpain #

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   Hey Karin..Know the type. Just tell her to get over herself (loud enuf for the whole office to hear) & wash your hands of her. She'll learn some day that it was her loss not getting to know you. Chin up. Trust me when I say that things will get better. My TDK family convinced me of that.
   Have a nice day :)

   Posted 2 years ago by feral #

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   Hi HM...How's the pain-management doing? I hope your not in any.

   Posted 2 years ago by feral #

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   Karin, life is waaaaaay to short to let someone like that bug you. She obviously has deep insecurities to behave that way and you are the better person. Next time she does that stop talking thing when you walk by. Look directly at her and start to laugh, like it is so hilarious that she is such a petty small person. I guarantee that will get her goat and make her wonder for the rest of the day what was so funny. Remember that all of her money certainly hasn't bought her any class or grace. Heck it hasn't even rented it!

   Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #

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   Oh Karin - Here are a load of champagne truffles and today's kitten to cheer you up. I say that coworkers make or break a job, and it must be terrible to have to work with someone so horrible. Just think how sad her life must be if she has to behave that way to build herself up. Don't worry, things will pick up for you soon!

   Posted 2 years ago by Rubia in CA, 4/28 #

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   Yes, you are all correct. Thank you for the kind words, chocolates, foot massages and sharing todays kitty. Champagne truffles...wow! Pipa's Mum, Cadbury's chocolate is so rich and yummy especially their milk chocolate bar. Yum!

   I think she has such insecurities about herself that she reassures herself by talking about her life to a number of people and yes ppearson, she has no class not the even rented kind. A couple of times when she has walked by I have started laughing at her behavior because it is so childish and petty. This morning, I just couldn't laugh. She is so not worth my time.

   Posted 2 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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    Hi Susie (and everyone else!!)

    I actually have been 'graduated' to going to the doctor every 3 months - they are going to see if this will work. Evidently my neck is getting stronger and if I can keep from doing anything injurious to myself (that's a big if) they will NOT do the surgery until much later. Which is fine with me.

    I am not on any meds for pain, only take them as needed. However, smart girl that *I* am I left them at home on the nightstand and I have a KILLER pain in my neck right now.

    The man-friend is home today (he of the killer sinuses) so maybe I'll make him go outside and get in his car and bring me my medicine.

    Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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    Karin--the best thing to do is to walk by and be as 'sweet as pie'! Make sure that the "Hello" you give is sugary nice and dripping with sweetness. Don't let them get to you. There used to be a teacher in my hall that drove me, and everybody else, crazy! She was sooooo rude. I'd walk by every morning and give the sweetest, "Good Morning!" that I could muster. I did this for months without any response. Finally, I thought that I'd give her a taste of her own medicine. One morning, I walked by without saying anything. She practically came running out of her classroom to see if I was ok. SOME PEOPLE JUST DON'T GET IT! This ladie's last name was Burch, but we all secretly called her something else. Can you guess?

    Posted 2 years ago by FondaHonda #

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    Yes, Fondahonda it rhymes with witch. Hee hee!

    Posted 2 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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    Good one Fonda Honda! And good advice - the meaner the person, the more they hate it when the object of their bullying ('cos it's a form of bullying) is nice back. Does their heads in!! Overdo the sacharine and mentally flick her the V's (or, as I believe you guys says stateside, give her the finger!!)And drop her RIGHT in the sticky brown stuff when you leave for better things.

    Posted 2 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #

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    Years and years ago, I worked in a dental office, and everything was fine until this one woman was hired. This woman was one of the most manipulative, lying, backstabbing people I have ever met. What made it particularly bad was that she made this big deal about being a 'Christian'. She was the most UN-Christian person I've ever met!

    So all of a sudden, once she'd arrived, all these mistakes were being made, and my boss was blaming me. I would try to explain that I hadn't done it and that it was this other woman, but he wouldn't hear it. He couldn't understand why I was trying to blame it all on this other woman. She would act all flirty with him (but nothing inappropriate) and she just had him wrapped around her little finger - so as far as he was concerned, she could do no wrong. Well, after several months of this, I had had it. It wasn't just this woman - all sorts of circumstances were combining so that I knew it was time to move on. But just before I left, a third woman who worked there and I sat down with the boss and tried to lay it on line about how horrible this other woman was. I was hoping that he would realize that since I was leaving anyway, I had no reaason to lie - I was going to be gone, so what difference did it make to me how she behaved? But he still wouldn't listen.

    SO - only 2 or three months after I left, my mom went in to get her teeth worked on, and my former boss said to her that he owed me a BIG apology and that I had been right all along about that woman. After I left, this other woman could no longer blame all her mistakes on me, and it became pretty clear that she was the one screwing up all the time. Things went downhill pretty fast after that and she had been fired by the time my mom went in for her appointment. So at least I felt vindicated! But I will never forget how horrible it was having to work with that woman.

    Posted 2 years ago by Rubia in CA, 4/28 #

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    Oh, Karin, seriously, could it be possible for you to work at home? It would save time and money - not to mention all that personal friction. I wish you good luck for your job hunt!

    Posted 2 years ago by miu #

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    Hey, I took your words of advice and when she walked by this morning, I said a loud happy good morning and when she didn't answer I quickly followed it up with her name. She was startled and actually said good morning! Hee hee! Will try it again tomorrow.

    Posted 2 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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    You are SO bad.... and I am proud of you!! LOL

    Posted 2 years ago by Bogman, Clark and Andy's mama 2/27 Florida #

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    Go Karin!

    Posted 2 years ago by GreatDane #

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    You GO, girl!

    Posted 2 years ago by Rubia in CA, 4/28 #

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    Just keep on doing that, Karin, she'll come around.

    Posted 2 years ago by MaxandCali'sMom #

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    Yeeees! Well done that woman. Felt good didn't it? Hee hee!

    Posted 2 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #

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    Alright, Karin! The reason I gave the advice that I did was because it's my way of proving that I'm not the cause of the other person's miserable existence. I'll be as happy and jolly to others (in that situation) so that I know that I've done everything I can to make sure that it's that person's problem, not mine. If I'm rude to that person? Then, that's just giving them the ammo. that they need to continue being a *%$@# because, to them, I've been rude. Clear as mud?

    Posted 2 years ago by FondaHonda #

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    What keeps me sane in dealing with people who bug me is knowing that "time heals all wounds" and remembering that the converse is also true: "time wounds all heels."

    Even better is when divine justice hits, because then I can smile sadistically while enjoying their come-uppance, safe in the knowledge that it's their own "bad karma" that caused it!

    Posted 2 years ago by gatakitty #

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    Hey, Ginny! Would your boss having hemorroid surgery be the kind of Karma you're speaking of? I didn't sadistically smile about it, I swear I didn't!!!

    *covering up mouth so no one can see my delight*

    Posted 2 years ago by FondaHonda #

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    Works for me!

    The best example in my life was the boss Hubby had in the military. He was a Master Sgt. anxious to become a Senior Master Sgt. (or SMS).

    Every 6 mos., when the list came out and his name wasn't on it, he was insufferable and took it out on the whole shop. Finally he came within 2 years of retirement and decided to give up his dream and head off from Hawaii to Davis Monthan AFB in Arizona ("the place they send old personnel and aircraft off to die" was the unofficial motto, alluding to "the boneyard"--the outdoor storage area there for retired/obsolete aircraft).

    One year after his transfer (and well after he began getting excited about and making concrete plans for retiring and returning to his beloved California), his name appeared on the promotion list, which produced a delicious (for us) dilemma: did he take the promotion he always wanted (which would require a 2-yr. re-enlistment and reassignment on top of the one year he had remaining, delaying his much-anticipated homecoming), or did he retire on schedule (which would mean not accepting the stripe he had wanted forever)?

    Either way, he lost something precious, and we loved it!

    Posted 2 years ago by gatakitty #

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    Well done, Karin! All the best.

    Posted 2 years ago by DaisysMum #

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    Keep the moral high ground and the sweet smile Karin.

    Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

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    Well, co worker walked by and I didn't feel like saying an a hi to her. Not in the mood to be here. Wondering if I will still have this temp job as I snuck out at 2pm on Friday to go to a second interview at another company. Have phone interview today with Apple. It is only a phone interview so I won't get excited till they invite me for an in person interview.

    Posted 2 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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    Karin, how did the interview on Friday go? Anything good to report?
    I went out this morning to put in an application for a job which appeared in our paper this weekend, secretarial job for a school system. I could only fill out the application today, but asked the secretary at that office what the job consisted of. She said it was for the transportation dept., which means the buses, etc. She said they would probably call by Weds. for interviews--Yippee!! I hope I get called. The job sounds like it would be pretty casual, and I'd like that-don't have to get really dressed up every day.
    Will keep everybody posted.

    Posted 2 years ago by MaxandCali'sMom #

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    Karin, how did the interview on Friday go? Anything good to report?
    I went out this morning to put in an application for a job which appeared in our paper this weekend, secretarial job for a school system. I could only fill out the application today, but asked the secretary at that office what the job consisted of. She said it was for the transportation dept., which means the buses, etc. She said they would probably call by Weds. for interviews--Yippee!! I hope I get called. The job sounds like it would be pretty casual, and I'd like that-don't have to get really dressed up every day.
    Will keep everybody posted.

    Posted 2 years ago by MaxandCali'sMom #

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