So Toby darted out of her room today like the little spaz that she is, and ventured downstairs. She crept into the kitchen, through the baby gate I had up to keep Charlie from coming upstairs, and tentatively walked towards my dad and the dog. The dog didn't even NOTICE her for a long time cuz he was distracted by my dad eating, so I was able to get it under control.
Dad had Charlie on a leash by this point and Toby had left the kitchen, so I took Charlie somewhat close to Toby by the leash/collar and had him sit as best I could (I know up til this point I haven't mentioned that Charlie is deaf... long story but I was worried about being seen as a bad owner. He just had chronic ear infections which eventually got worse and worse despite the treatment from the vet, and Charlie ended up having an operation leaving him deaf after Dad was in the hospital for 9 months... it was HELL! But Charlie and Dad are both MUCH better now!)
Anyway, Charlie was pulling on the leash/collar initially but pretty much settled down. Toby at first was on edge, but then just lay down on her back and stretched! It was too funny. The dog and kitten were less than two feet from each other! All went really well... I think they'll be fine together eventually! But Toby sure is keeping me on my toes!