*says a prayer for Leeny - that she may see just how wonderful of a human being she is, that she is important, and that she is loved by her family here, and that it is NEVER TOO LATE*
Posted 3 years ago by owlwatcher_974 #
I'm here, but about to go home. Have been having panicky feelings and racing thoughts for a lot of the day, and I'm going to call the doctor tomorrow about it. Something needs tweaking.
Also going to call back the domestic violence shelter; it's been a week and I haven't heard anything. I need to have my contingency plan in place in case Mr. Leeny decides not to cooperate on April 3. Also have to find out where that clinic is where we have the appointment.
Thank you for your continued care and support.
Keep you chin up girl!
Posted 3 years ago by tinafishfrombirthplaceofElvis #
Wonder if chocolate or mint could be interacting with my med or my brain chemistry? I bought some Girl Scout thin mint cookies over the weekend, and that's all I've had to eat today. The racing thoughts and anxiety seem to get worse soon after I've eaten some. I'll have to ask the doctor.
Getting a monumental headache, too.
Leeny, I'd like to lend all my strength to you, as you deal with this difficult situation. Do whatever is needed to ensure that you are kept safe from harm if Mr. Leeny turns uncooperative on April 3rd. Please also remember to eat healthy foods in small quantities on a regular basis. After all, Thin Mints, as wonderful as they are, do not a balanced meal make.
You are not responsible for his behavior or his mental illness. His lack of respect is a bit telling. I hope he figures out what he needs to do to survive and cope in a world where his mental illness makes it difficult, because it is not your job to take care of him.
And last but not least, please be sure to get the help you need - whether it's help changing locks, finding a different abode, a TRO, psychological help... whatever's needed! You must reach out for the help you need to get through this rough patch in your life, if you are to see your way clear to a better future. Mental illness is no fun to deal with, especially with the way it can alter perception. But with some help, you can find a way to see yourself through different eyes; that can be a life-altering experience.
Dearest Leeny, please let us know how you're doing, and what you're doing to take care of yourself. Please also let us all know if there's anything we can do to help.
Posted 3 years ago by anncetera2 #
{{Leeny}} Prayers and white light.
Posted 3 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #
((Leeny)) You have all my prayers. We are all with you and will help you in anyway we can. Please think of yourself first and be safe.
Posted 3 years ago by cricketsmama #
Left a message with the doctor detailing my condition; he's to call back to let me know what we're going to do next.
Found out where the mental health agency's clinic where we have the appointment is located. Turns out it's their intake/emergency facility. Found out in the process that they have an 800 crisis number. Wrote it down in my address book.
Anncetera, I think I will lay off the cookies for a while. I get pronouncedly more jittery after eating them. Probably too many, without anything else on my stomach.
Going to take my medicine now and call the domestic violence prevention agency.
Talked with domestic violence prevention agency. After consulting their legal expert, they don't think I could get a temporary protective order to remove Mr. Leeny from the home until he gets help because the violence only happened once. Have a call in to the police department to see if I can still press charges even though I chose not to do it initially; an officer is supposed to call me. I wish I could go on and do what I should have done that day; that's what I need to find out from the police, if I can still do that.
Wrote to Mr. Leeny's sister, telling her what happened and asking her not to take responsibility for him if it comes to that and he calls her. She's not inclined to do it anyway, but I needed to let her know what's happening.
Have an appointment on April 2 to see a counselor at the domestic violence prevention agency. That, at least, may help me in dealing with whatever happens on the 3rd.
Heard back from my doctor; he told me to step up the new med to the next level. Feeling very calm now, in fact kind of drowsy. Not going to eat any more mint cookies, at least not until I eat a meal first.
Leeny, you have taken all the right steps to take care of yourself-way to go, woman! You are in my prayers each and every day. I think you are one courageous lady, and I am so happy to hear how you are taking charge of your life and your healing. I wish all the best in life for you, and I believe that with the actions you have taken, that life is just around the corner.
Posted 3 years ago by rainingwolf #
Heard from the police, and I cannot belatedly do what I should have done on the 12th as "leverage" to get Mr. Leeny to get psych treatment. Officer who called me said there are "other avenues" that can be used to pursue that, but not law enforcement action. Okay.
The impression I'm getting from the agencies to which I'm talking seems to be that they can help me with two goals: (1) leaving Mr. Leeny or (2) having him arrested and pressing charges. What I want is for (1) Mr. Leeny to get well and (2) me to be safe. No one else seems to be geared in that direction.
Important week next week:
Monday & Tuesday: Two-day turnaround for an important PowerPoint presentation; boss will get me material for it on Monday; is due Wednesday to be presented on Friday.
Wednesday: Appointment with my psych doctor.
Thursday: Appointment at domestic violence prevention organization.
Friday: Appointment with Mr. Leeny at local mental health agency. He's still dead-set against going to the hospital, and when I couldn't guarantee him that wouldn't happen (I can't predict, a week in advance, what a doctor I've never met is going to recommend), he asked what I'd do if he didn't go to the appointment. I told him I'd leave. (Don't know right now what I'd do when I left, but I plan to discuss that at my appointment on Thursday.) That got him cooperative, at least for now.
Leeny please take care of you. You are meeting with a domestic violence prevention organization. This isn't just a little issue. Mr. Leeny repeatedy has not shown at Dr. appointments and continues to disrespect you in your own home. You deserve better treatment. You have value and deserve to be treated with love, kindness, and respect. My prayers are with you that al goes well next week.
Sending you more hugs, Leeny. I wish you didn't have such a pressing project at work; you hardly need the added stress.
Please, try to focus on doing what is best for *you*. You are the only one you can absolutely rely to do that. You have done everything you can to help Mr. Leeny; you deserve to focus on helping yourself. You matter a lot to us here, and we all want you to be safe and well.
Found out this week from my sister-in-law that Mr. Leeny had a history of this sort of behavior in the family in which they grew up. She mentioned it in passing, thinking I knew; I didn't. If I had known, I never would have married him, or even considered it. I also would not have intervened for him that Thursday, and I've told him that, if he ever does it or anything similar again, he will be arrested and go to jail. And I'm not picking up the tab for bail, lawyers, or court costs, either.
Leeny, I can't believe, I am just now seeing this thread. You have my prayers for your difficult situation. (((Leeny))) You are valued and loved here and we all know that you are not a burden. Just a person, like all of us, trying your best to get by. We are all flawed and broken in our own way and all of us deserved to be respected, valued and loved and that includes you.
Posted 3 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #
Oh Leeny, you have just been thru so much! I wish there was more I could do for you! The best I can offer is prayer and sending positive thoughts to you. I also can listen, so please continue to post here! ((((((LEENY))))))
Posted 3 years ago by mollycat71 #
I'm with Buttercup. Leeny did Mr. Leeny show up for his appointment on Friday? How did the presentation go?
Most importantly, how did your meeting with the domestic violence group go? I am hoping that they can help you make decisions about how to proceed.
Prayers are still with you Leeny.
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