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   I have always wondered why people would work so hard to remember the day a loved one passed. Now I realize it is impossible not to. One year ago today, I lost my Mom.

   Mom - I think of you almost every day, and I miss you. You were so strong, yet gentle. You always knew what I needed before I did,and you provided it. You let me fall, and were always there to help me up. I miss your smile and I miss your laugh.

   I will get through the day by remembering all the fun things we did together, or that you did. Your creativy as a Den Mother when C (my brother) was in scouts was second to none. Story: We had a 'train table' in our basement for my brother's train set. It was very large - about the size of a ping pong table. One day, to keep the scouts entertained, she created a game. The idea was to split the boys into 2 teams; one one each side of the table. Ping pong balls were rolled onto the table and the idea was to get the ball over the opposing teams edge of the table. There was a small lip on the edges. No hands were allowed... they had to blow the balls across the table. That game still makes me laugh! I think the mothers were thrilled to pick up their boys after that game... it wore them out !

   You were always ready with a helping hand for whoever needed one and that will never be forgotten. I still hear stories from your friends when I see them... and from MY friends through emails.

   I love you and miss you, Mom

   Thanks for listening.

   Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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   {{{{{{{2P}}}}}}}}

   Your mom sounds like a treasure.

   Posted 2 years ago by Kilroy #

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   You are surrounded by love here, 2P, and you continue to experience your mom's love for you. Thanks for sharing the story about the game she invented. She sounds like a wonderful woman and mother. You are just like her! {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

   Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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   (((2P))) Sending you lots and lots of hugs and understanding. Been just over 2 years for me and there are days I still cry.

   Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #

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   2Popoki, I hope that today you feel the presence of your mom in the memories you have of her. You were blessed to have all those years and all those memories. Cherish them and her. Sending you some consoling hugs and gentle headbonks and purrs from Sylvester and Mia.

   Posted 2 years ago by SylMiaFelixMomma #

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   ((((2P)))) ...... 11 years for me and my Dad, seems like yesturday!

   Posted 2 years ago by AV #

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   Sending gentle hugs. What good memories you have of her.

   Posted 2 years ago by paulajeanne #

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   {{2P}}

   Posted 2 years ago by linda #

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   2P, may you be filled with wonderful memories and be sure to thank the Lord for giving you the years he did with her. I know what you mean about never forgetting the day....April 25 was 12 years since Mom when to live with Jesus!

   Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    It's been 17 months since I lost my Mom and I,too, sometimes tear up from just missing her so! Also been 5 years that my Dad has been gone.....we will always miss them...we have to find comfort in the fact that they ARE a part of us.....sending hugs to 2POP.

    Posted 2 years ago by katthays #

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    Thank you all.... very much.

    2bp - my Dad has been telling people that Mom left him for a better man... then follows that with - Jesus Christ. He's just too cute.

    Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    {{{2P}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by KarenCentennial #

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    2P, you most definitely have my love and hugs, and understanding. The anniversary of the accident in which my mom was killed was this past Monday, May 18. And Mr. WWM can tell you that I had a major meltdown on Friday. It was 12 years Monday and I still remember every moment of that horrible day as if it were just yesterday.

    We never get over missing our mothers. It leaves a hole that nothing can fill. There are no magic words, but I can only tell you that it gets a bit easier as times passes. There are still moments of heart wrenching pain, but there are far more moments of beautiful and happy memories.

    You are right - it is impossible not to remember these anniversary dates. And memories come flooding in on those dates. I used to tell my hospice families not to think that there was anything magical about surviving that first anniversary of such a profound loss. The sadness lasts far beyond a year and for people to think that you should be better after a year is not very realistic.

    I wish that I could give you a hug in person. I wish that we could sit down together and share memories of our moms. I wish that we could cry together. But please know that I am keeping you in my heart. I know only too well the pain that this day holds.

    Much love,
    WWM

    Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    Well said, WWM. I feel that way,too and it's been 19 years since my mom left us. Next year I will be the exact age she was when she passed and I know it will be a tough one.

    {{{{Hugs, 2P}}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by GizzysAuntie #

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    WWM - I just wish there was someone, anyone, HERE that I could get a hug from. My son didn't say anything this morning... don't know that he remembered the date. Man-friend is working in Texas this week. Perhaps a co-worker could be convinced.... although the one in mind would dampen my shirt with tears as I dampen hers. Not a bad thing.

    One of these days, WWM - I WILL get to Texas, and I WILL meet you !!

    Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    Oh, I understand that, too. Mr. WWM remembered, but I think he saw it in my calender. I didn't talk to any of my family on Monday because it's an awfully painful day for all of us. Everyone in my family, except for me and Mr. WWM, were involved in that same accident. It is a miracle that my sister wasn't killed. She is a study for the Scarlett O'Hara way of thinking (I'll think about that tomorrow). I don't think that she likes to be reminded of what happened that day.

    Maybe it is the same with your son. Some people can only deal with pain by trying to suppress it.

    You know what - you should call some of your friends who dance with you. Maybe get together tonight. Share a bottle of wine in your moms memory. They are good friends - let them know that you need some hugs and support today.

    Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    [[[[[[2P]]]]]]] You sound just like your Mom.
    I wish I could hug you in person too.

    Posted 2 years ago by Buttercup #

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    [[[[[[WWM]]]]]]]

    Posted 2 years ago by Buttercup #

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    WWM, I am sorry for the loss of your Mom. Sending you some consoling hugs. I like your suggestion to 2Popoki about contacting some of her "dance-mates". You always seem to have good ideas. I too hope to meet you in person some day along with Emma, Kykat, 2Popoki and other TDKers.

    Posted 2 years ago by SylMiaFelixMomma #

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    {{{{2P}}}} ((((WWM))))

    Posted 2 years ago by opahall #

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    WWM - I have a meeting tonight (we call ourselves the LITE group - Looking Inward Toward Enlightenment)...and one of the gals has been a friend for years. That will help. We are going out after our meeting so that may be the perfect opportunity for that glass of wine!

    As for 'dance-mates' -- I don't know any last names and have no phone numbers. They are simply people I see at the club regularly. They are more so acquaintances/friends of Man-Friend than myself. Even after 5 years, I'm still the 'new kid on the block' to many of these people. Hard to explain... they talk mainly to him and I get a 'hi' if I'm lucky. It is what it is.

    Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    ((((hugs)))) and lots of them! It is hard to make it through, you are a strong person. I lost my daddy last summer and i am dreading the 1 year mark prayign i dont fall apart all over again. We all love you tons and sned you many many hugs...

    Posted 2 years ago by Hizlilbrat #

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    *breaks out a case of chardonnay for all TDK friends who should be arriving soon*

    2P, I understand about not knowing names. A group of three of us are going to work with a trainer at the gym for a month or so. She called me this morning and has to put all of our names on the contract. One is my best friend, so that was easy. But the other one I only know from the gym. So I said, "Uh... Patti!"

    Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    HLB - if you DO fall apart - it's OK !!! I have a kleenex at the ready all day today. It has been put to good use. And yes.. I am at work. All those 'firsts' are so hard. You have hugs right back HLB !

    Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    (((2P))), sending you hugs and warm thoughts.

    Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #

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    Thank you

    Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    Getting in late today. I don't have additional magic....but here is your hug.

    Posted 2 years ago by Tigerlilly #

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    Oh 2p - I'm so sorry noone's there to hug you today! I'm sending you a virtual hug - best I can do!
    I'm glad you're going out tonight and keeping yourself busy!
    September will be 13 years since my mom passed and I can't believe it's been that long.

    Posted 2 years ago by GreatDane #

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    (((2P))), I wish I could hug you in person. It has been 17.5 years since I lost my mother my thoughts are with you. Hugs to WWM also.

    Posted 2 years ago by BoogerMercurysMama #

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    Big hugs, popoki!! Thanks for sharing the memories of her. She sounds awesome! :)

    Posted 2 years ago by crazycatladyinthemaking #

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