I just heard back from my husband and he refuses to do the rental truck like he promised. That means that the boys and I will leave everything behind, and I am not even sure about the cats at this moment.
I will leave here in three weeks in a 18 year old vehicle that I am not even sure will make it, with roughly $400. in my name.
I can't even think right at the moment. I am totally screwed. I am coming apart and don't know which way is up. Going MIA....tears.......
DM - I am sorry!!! I wish I could help somehow! {{{{DM}}}}
Posted 2 years ago by nawlins catmom #
Ohhh Julie I'm so sorry. I wish I could help. Please don't give up just yet. TDK is full of miracle workers. ((DM))
Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #
I am so sorry--perhaps someone close by can get you a truck?
Posted 2 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Phoenix, AZ 10/8 #
DM, please tell us how much the rental truck is. Perhaps we can help.
Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
2P - good point! How much, DM? Maybe we can work something out!
Posted 2 years ago by nawlins catmom #
DM, NEVER give up hope when TDK is around, they can always find a solution! I am living proof, trust me!
Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #
DM...we can help you with the rental truck! Don't give up home...Julie...((JULIE))
Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #
Chicago to Boise, Idaho, a UHaul will run about 2,000.00. :( What can we do? (((Julie)))
Posted 2 years ago by Bellantara #
Oh wow, DM. Why is ex suddenly backing out? Doesn't he realize that karma will get him eventually for all that he is doing to you? Is there anyway you could work something out with him? I wish I could help somehow.
Posted 2 years ago by SylMiaFelixMomma #
DM, please get some quotes on long distance moving. They can do the heavy lifting as well as the moving. You can save a lot just by packing things in boxes for them. I am also going to extend you an offer for shipping things UPS. I have a business account that you can use. I can even arrange for them to pick up boxes at your home so you don't need to bring everything to a UPS Store. Please email me, I think you have the address.
((((((((((((((((DM))))))))))))))))))))) Sending purrs & headbonks from the girls, Pumpkin & Nilla. Oh, and a little kitten belly cuteness :D ((((DM & her boys))))
Posted 2 years ago by AnimalLuvr82 #
OK how about a relay caravan?
Someone close by with a trailer and a towing capable vehicle starts toward IDAHO and meets the next tow capable TDKer until the destination is reached. Then the trailer gets passed back home the same way. This also ensures that DM and the boys are not traveling alone incase of a breakdown.
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
DM, does your husband not legally have to pay you support for the boys? How can he just back out?
Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
If I remember right, Daisy Mew's boys aren't her husband's; her ex is the father. I could be wrong though.
Posted 2 years ago by Bellantara #
Wrong X this is X#2 the soi disant "officer and gentleman" type with the military.
What I would give for some names, pictures and some time with photoshop!
Don't ask and I won't tell!
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
Oh..... so I guess he isn't legally responsible to assist financially?
Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
DM if you are forced to forget the stuff be sure to trash the stuff so he cannot sell it.
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
Not as far as supporting the boys. Otherwise, I don't know. When my parents divorced, my dad paid for my mom to move with me and my brother. But then, Dad is and was far more decent than Julie's husband seems to be. :(
Posted 2 years ago by Bellantara #
Wants me to sign an uncontested divorce papers. Agreeing that I get nothing, no support, insurance nothing. So not only no truck rental, no financial help to get cross country and started. AARRGGHH! Family can't help, and the $400. isn't gonna get me far. Sorry, gotta put the TDK stones on temporary hold for now. :( Many hugs
But DM, you don't have to sign that! Do you have an attorney who is acting in your interest?
Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
There is a fine and unambiguous legal response to his further attempts to grind you under heel with demands for you to sign your rights away.
NO
Not: No, but
Not: Maybe
Not: If you promise x
Just : NO!
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
First, DM, just like I told you in my email, I am very happy with a virtual stone....I have a feeling I have good company.
PLEASE tell us how we can help?
Stay connected here, we are all far away , but many minds often think better than one.
#2, I am not savvy in legal issues, others here may be...but, is there a social worker or someone like that who cna help? Maybe a local parish, even if you're not a member maybe they can give you good advice.
(((CM)))
Posted 2 years ago by Tigerlilly #
DM, whatever you do, DO NOT SIGN THOSE PAPERS! Sit tight, I have a feeling that you are about to receive some TDK "payback" for all the things you have done for others. Take a deep breath and don't make any moves right now that you might regret later. Next week may bring some changes in your situation.
DM! Do not sign the papers!!! Not that I'm suggesting this as something to do, but I know someone who refused a divorce and dragged it through nearly three years of court before the husband gave in and gave her what she wanted. Tell him no truck, no divorce. Tell him you will tell the judge you want time to work on the marriage and go to counseling.
DM, is your husband's Commanding Officer aware of what he is doing, and what is going on? I would really suggest that you speak to him.
Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
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