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   It's the middle of the night, and I've been packing, getting ready to move. Naturally I'm looking at things as I pack, and came across some of my favorite photos of Bob...asleep on my bed, head down like a human, with his paws crossed. He looks like a sleeping angel and, of course, now he is one. I miss him so much it physically hurts. I shouldn't look at his photos. I'm fine until I see them.

   I just needed to tell someone. Thanks for listening. I know you all will understand, when nobody else will. I still fall apart every time I see Bob's photo.

   (and looking at a photo of Tex is still strictly forbidden)

   Posted 2 years ago by lisaeylau #

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   {{{Lisa}}} It's OK -- you are allowed to grieve at your own pace. Bob was a special soul and you miss him. There is nothing wrong with that.

   Posted 2 years ago by Shelley #

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   Shelly, thank you for those kind words. I feel so weak and foolish sometimes. My mom keeps telling me it's time to *get over it*. And honestly, I don't go around with a long face and a hanky all the time. But once it a while, it still creeps up and grabs me...like something with big jaws and sharp teeth is crushing the breath out of me. And there I go, boo-hoo-ing all over again. I hate crying, it makes Misty get all anxious, and then she snaps at CJ.

   Posted 2 years ago by lisaeylau #

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   The heart has its own schedule

   Posted 2 years ago by paulajeanne #

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   It will take time, but there will come a day when looking at the pictures of Bob and Tex will bring a smile to your face, and less of an ache to your heart.
   ((((lisaeylau))))

   Posted 2 years ago by rainingwolf #

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   [[[[[Lisa]]]]]

   Posted 2 years ago by Buttercup #

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   {{{Lisa}}} Beautifully said, PaulaJeanne!

   Posted 2 years ago by katthays #

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   ((((Lisa))))

   Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #

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   My Ming has been gone for over 50yrs, Fritze and his bud Smokey more than 40, Jasmine, over 25 yrs, and Baby 6 yrs. There were others but these were my super special companions. Time has brought an end to grief and sadness but not two melancoly. Most memories are warm and happy and joyous. Still once in a while a memory stirs and tears will spring to my eyes.

   Believe it or not, while I do not seek them out, I welcome these stirings. They remind me that I am human and that I had these wonderful companions that accepted that without reservation.

   Tell you mom you have moved on. You are moving not staying put to live in a shrine to Bob. But that you will not forget him or his special life just as you will not forget her.

   Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #

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    Ailuromaniac that was perfectly said. Thank you.

    Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lisa}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

    I still cant look at pics of weeone. As much as it was a relief not to have to force her meds on her anymore and watch her decline, it still hurt to let her go. lots of love for you tex and bob

    Posted 2 years ago by TheKnittingNinja #

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    Lisa, Rainingwolf is right. Here is a little story. I had a Shih Tzu, Sophie for a long time. She lived to 16 years. I had a kitty when I was a kid but none since then. When Sophie was about 14 she was still active and so very sweet I had injured my knee and was waiting for surgery. The wait was horrible. I was sitting on my patio with her and noticed some movement against the wall in the yard. I hobbled over to check it out. Well, Ms. Kitty (who was a feral outside that I fed) was curled up with 4 babies. 2 tabbys and 2 black and white. I fell in love! Sophie adored the kits! Needless to say the 2 tabbys are T-Do and Wilbur. One of the black and whites was not doing well so Abbey and I took it to the vet school. Nothing we did helped. The little guy we called "Big Man" passed quietly in my hands. It was so sad. We still miss him. Abbey took the other black and white who has grown in to fantastic George. It seems that only a short time later my dear Ms. Sophie went to join the Big Man. She trained Wilbur and T-Do, loved them, played with them and always filled my heart with laughter. It was so hard. Abbey says they went on "vacation". I no longer cry when I think of them. I remember their sweet faces and how funny they were with each other. It makes me smile. The fond memories and smiles still make me feel good. It takes a while but you will have a smile in your heart. You brought them love and joy. It is all we can do is hold them in our hearts and remember how special they were. The love never stops, it fills us up and completes our lives. We are lucky to have had them. Hold the memories close. I will have good thoughts for your sweet lost ones when I think of mine. Sorry to ramble on but your comments brought back thoughts of my sweet ones. Love ya and lots of hugs to you.

    Posted 2 years ago by Puddytat #

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    WEll said, AM! My Desiree has been gone almost 10 years and my daughter and I can talk about her calmly, but Butterscotch's memory still brings mist to the eyes... It is a sign that we are human and caring, and were connected to other beings in a special way! {{{LIsa}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by nawlins catmom #

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    {{{{{{{{{Lisa}}}}}}}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    "Sniff"...tears still come for my sweet Molly......

    Posted 2 years ago by MaxandCali'sMom #

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    i know i still feel the same way about my kizzy. she passed away on dec 17th,one of the saddest days of my life. i still cry when i think of her. i miss her so much, i can't bare to adopt another kitty yet. i have been approched by a friend of my brotherin law's who is a vet, he wants me to take a kitten that was just born. they are still to young yet , so i am safe. i just will never forget kizzy and still talk to her. your feelings are normal and don't rush yourself in greiving. i have tears in my eyes even as i write this. you have given alot of good advice here, please know that bob is with many others who are at the bridge and not alone. he is waiting for you, you will see him again. i send you hugs and lots of love !!

    Posted 2 years ago by beth #

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    Thank you, everyone! I just have these middle-of-the-night Bob meltdowns. If I'm up late and am stressed about anything, I find that I still need his big, strong strong boy-cat presence so much it just hurts.

    Thank you so, so much for understanding and making me feel normal. Thank you also for sharing your own stories of your grief journeys. It takes courage to revisit them, and you are angels for writing them to comfort someone else.

    I know someday there will be another special boy like Bob and Tex. What I feel about Tex is still so raw, it's not even grief. It's closer to trauma. I can't even think about it. Tex was so young, he was more of a baby. Bob was my friend-protector-knight-in-shining-armor. You know, if it weren't for Bob, there wouldn't have been a Tex! Sweet brave Bob. So ferocious outside, such an angel inside.

    I'm sorry, I'm rambling...

    Posted 2 years ago by lisaeylau #

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    "same old thing"...no such thing here with your TDK family. I still miss and will forever miss all of my lost babies.
    (((lisa)))

    Posted 2 years ago by Tigerlilly #

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    Thank you, Tigerlilly! I'm feeling much better about it all tonight. CJ is being especially rambunctious, and that always does magic....it also creates havoc I'll need to clean up in the morning, but that's ok.

    Posted 2 years ago by lisaeylau #

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    Bob isn't trying to make you sad. He's just pinging your memories to let you know that he still loves you and he's watching over you. It will probably always be bittersweet to think about him, but that's the part of life that makes us what we are. Talk to him, you'll feel better.

    Posted 2 years ago by CheetahBoysmommy #

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    Give yourself time to heal, sweetheart. PaulaJeanne is right; there is no timetable for grief.

    There isn't a day that doesn't go by without thinking about my Daisy, and my KoKo, two Siamese brat cats who stole my heart away. And I know how much your Bob and Tex meant to you.

    Every bit of life that we know, that passes through our hands, is a prayer, long or short. And some prayers are longer than others. But they are all prayers to the Father. And these prayers, these lives continue when they return to the gentle hands and the great, beating heart of our Father.

    Daisy, Jazz, KoKo, Tex, Bob, Ming, Sultie, Butterscotch, Kizzy -- they have not died. They all play forever in the Meadow, next to the Brook that spans the Bridge. For them, the sun is warm and breezes blow cool, the clover beds are sweet, clouds tumble and roll above their heads, and the Wolf watches over them all from the rise of ground.

    You will see them again. You will. We all will.

    Posted 2 years ago by Emma #

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    (((Lisa)))

    Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #

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    Lisa, you are definitely not alone with this. I know exactly what you mean about it creeping up and grabbing you all of a sudden sometimes. The same thing happens to me about my Calvin. May 3rd was one year since his passing and that was so hard because that same weekend I was at the emergency vet with Mogley. Very erie reminder. We just moved too and came across a lot of pictures of him like you did. The thing that really got me though is while going through the basement I found his old bed and lost it. Even now writing about it is hard not to tear up. Was also hard for me to leave our old house having a lot to do with the memories we had there with him and that is the last place he lived. I just have to remind myself that we are not leaving him behind because he will always be with me in my heart and my memories. No one can tell you how to greive or for how long, some people don't quite understand but we do here. You have every right to feel what you do.

    Posted 2 years ago by ama58873 #

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    {{{Lisa}}} Can't add much that hasn't already been said. Grieve at your own pace. Some holes left in our hearts can never heal, but eventually, eventually, they start to fill with memories of happier times.
    I've still not forgiven myself for not holding Aja, my brother's cat, one last time before she went outside so many years ago. I had come down with hives from head to toe and was too sore and itchy to do much of anything. She was hit by a car shortly after she went out.
    Obviously, there's never a day when I don't think of Jiggs and Shaddo...

    Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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    ((((Lisa)))) Don't ever feel weak or foolish at the pangs of losing a loved one.........If loss was not painful what would that mean about LOVE iteself? I still am hit from time to time with the yearning for my beloved pets lost years and years ago. Most recently (1 yr.ago today) was the loss of my sweet dog Abby (14 yrs.old).
    So pass the tissues sweetie I'm right there with you!

    Posted 2 years ago by Karenopa #

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    CBM, I hadn't even thought about talking to Bob. I can tell him what his sisters are up to, especially CJ the Twerp who tormented him--she was so little and he was so big, it was sort of like a flea attacking a polar bear.

    That's a great idea!

    Posted 2 years ago by lisaeylau #

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    *Makes a note to give Lisa an EXTRA big hug in September*

    Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    I can't wait to see you I can't wait to see you I can't wait to see you!!!!!!!!!

    Posted 2 years ago by lisaeylau #

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    Lisa! How are you doing today? I think of you often, friend.

    Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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    I am sooooooo looking forward to this meetup!

    Posted 2 years ago by Emma #

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