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   I got this in an email this morning, I choose to believe that it is not coincidence but a message from the family members we have lost. I pass this on to all of you from Chester, Renee, Sharon and most recently Terri.

   Let's all remember to take the time to LIVE!!!!

   A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package:

   'This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package.'

   He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box.

   'She got this the first time we went to New York, 8 or 9 years ago....She has never put it on. She was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is it.' He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral house. His wife had just died. He turned to me and said:

   'Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion.'

   I still think those words changed my life.

   Now I read more and clean less.

   I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.

   I spend more time with my family and less at work.

   I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to not survived through. I no longer keep anything. I use crystal glasses every day....I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket if i feel like it.

   I don't save my special perfume for special occasions. I use it whenever I want to. The words 'Someday....' and ' One Day....' are fading away from my dictionary. If it's worth seeing, listening or doing I want to see, listen or do it now....I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning. This nobody can tell. I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends. She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels. I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favorite food. It's these small things that I would regret not doing if I knew my time had come.

   Each day, each hour, each minute is special. Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no one.

   I think they would all want us to remember them fondly, with laughter and happiness and shed no tears for their passing.

   "God cries for the living"

   Posted 2 years ago by Crazycatman - CA #

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   Thank you Chuck and it's so true! yet sadly we all don't live for today.

   Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #

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   Thanks Chuck!!!

   Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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   That's beautiful... Thanks Chuck!.....

   Posted 2 years ago by AV #

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   Thank you CCM. I use my crystal glasses every day. I pet Leela before I leave the house like it's the last time I will see her.

   Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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   Thanks for sharing that Chuck! It made me cry (doesn't everything lately?) and I know that I am that person. The one that says "someday" or "when the time is right". I really need to live for today and quit worrying so much about a tomorrow that might never come. Well said!

   Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #

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   This is beautiful, Chuck - and so appropriate. Sometimes we get so caught up in the day-to-day grind that we put off really living for "later". Live today - a valuable lesson.

   Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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   My parents gave us "kids" lots of notice that they wanted a reunion via a cruise to Bermuda. In July 2003, my parents, five kids, 3 spouses, and 5 grandchildren had a wonderful time together. I caught my parents looking on proudly quite often. Dad left us to help prepare our place in Our Father's Home just 1 1/2 years later. Whatever it is, don't wait, do it now.

   Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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   This email fits right in with what I've been thinking the past couple of days. What is the best way I can spend my time? What do I want to do? I spend a lot of time on what I have to do and deny myself even the small pleasures. They are for later. I plan to change my life

   Posted 2 years ago by Cat talk rules #

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    Thank you Chuck, I have been telling my mother those very same things. She keeps 'saving' the things I have sent her for those special times.

    Posted 2 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #

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    My Dad made several barrels of wine at least 50 years ago. He checked them after the flood of '84 and deemed them air/water tight. I remember asking him to tap one around his 70th birthday, but he didn't :(

    Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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    Thanks for sharing that, Chuck....it is beautiful and so, so true!

    Posted 2 years ago by katthays #

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    This weekend has been one of loss for both of my families - the one I have here and the one I have on TDK and has made me do some extensive thinking on what this email reads - time is of the essence with all of us and doing what needs to be done (work, etc.) is just not as important as doing what we want to do with our lives. What I want to do right now is share my love with all of you and tell you again how glad I am to have you in my life.

    Posted 2 years ago by KarenCentennial #

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    Thanks Chuck,very nice.

    Posted 2 years ago by Buttercup #

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    Thanks for the reminder Chuck. I, too, use my 'special' wine goblets often. Usually for cold milk with breakfast on the weekend. Bless my Mother for instilling that in me as well. She would burn the beautiful candles I bought for her - as intended. She would remind me, when we were out of town, to try whatever it was... because we may not be back and when I get home I won't have think "I wish I had...."

    Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    I visit TDK a lot but have only posted a few times, reading through the posts about Terri and past postings about Renee, I can see what a caring group of folks you all are. The poems and postings all brought tears to my eyes, but I especially related to the post from JoanFromNewJersey.....my Dad was so excited in the planning of he and my Mom's 50th Anniversary party back in 2004, we had 8 kids and a big family so it was a wonderful event that generated many happy memories. But those memories took on a new meaning after my Dad passed away three weeks later, it was surreal seeing the same folks from the party at his funeral. Cherish your family, friends and kitties every day as if it could be your last.

    Posted 2 years ago by Annie R #

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    Amen, Annie.

    Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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    Hi all I was driving today....and heard the song "live like you were dying" by Tim McGraw....and just started crying because we never seem to find the time to tell people how much we loved them and how grateful we are for the kind things and tell them that we are sorry the things that we did to cause them heartache... I want to take that time now to tell you that I thank you for being an amzing family....and I am very honored to be part of this kit kat clan...

    Posted 2 years ago by opahall #

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    Thank you, Chuck.

    Posted 2 years ago by paulajeanne #

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    It's sad that it takes something like this to remember to say the things we want, to live the way we want to, and to cherish life the way it should be.

    Posted 2 years ago by LadyKat of IA #

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    I always use nice tings every day--why else would I buy them if not to bring me pleasure? The china closet can't enjoy them! I never keep my jewelry in a vault--I wear them, otherwise why buy them? And as I said on terri's thread, we need to tell those we hold dear that we love them. I LOVE YOU, MY TDK FAMILY!

    Posted 2 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Phoenix, AZ 10/8 #

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    Opa, that song always makes me cry! I listened to it over and over again right before my brain surgery and said "IF I make it thru, I am going to do just that, live like I was dying". Terri's passing at such a young age gave me a swift kick in the hind end and made me recommit to that promise I made myself!

    Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #

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