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    Karin, can you go talk with your boss and explain that you are not being given the tools to support him as much as you want to? Sometimes that can clear the air. Also, just let him know that you sympathize with his stress, and you need him to exert some of his influence that will help you improve his workflow (ie, phones, computers, etc).

    Stress is infectious and contagious. Please don't let your boss pass that nasty bug along to you.

    One of the best bosses I ever had was a maniac multi-tasking micro-manager. My first week of reporting to him, I sat down in his office, smiled, and said, "I am worried that you aren't getting the support from me that we both want to achieve. The reason is that I am so new to this place that I have no influence over other people to get what you need, and I need your backing. Could you please help me to help you?"

    It worked.

    You are in my prayers, sweetie.

    Posted 4 years ago by Emma #

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    Very nicely said, Emma.

    Posted 4 years ago by SharoninAustell46 #

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    Forgive me if I'm out of line here...I'm not in a highly paced environment where those I work for are rudely, and inconsiderately reminding me that I haven't performed their every need perfectly....I believe venting can be good for the soul...we all have our days, eh?

    Posted 4 years ago by Karenopa #

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    Karin, sorry you are having difficulities with the new boss. But I didn't see Sharon's blog as a criticism. You are under so much stress in every area of your life right now, you may be oversensitive to some remarks that are made. I haven't seen anything but loving and caring in this TDK family.
    Please take that into consideration as you back away for awhile. Take some breathing time for yourself. Maybe by the passing of a little time, you will be able to see that.
    We do all care.
    Hugs and purrs.

    Posted 4 years ago by artistabobbi TX 1/17 #

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    It is no fun being in the middle of a pressure cooker unable to do anything about the stress level. I can see why you need to vent, Karin (and others who have posted here). It is better than blowing up at work. I don't pretend to have the answers for your issues in the workplace, but please know that no one here is attacking you. We all want you to succeed and achieve your dreams.

    You have been experiencing a massive amount of stress, Karin. The idea of learning some things that you CAN do to relieve your stress is a very thoughtful suggestion. I hope you pursue it. I think it was meant very kindly.

    Take all the time you need to regroup, but come back. It would not be TDK without you!

    Posted 4 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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    Karin Sharon was trying to offer contructive advice. I thought this place was a place where we could exchange ideas. You are trying to stop the Freedom Of Speech that this country has enjoyed for centuries. We all come from different backgrounds and expierences which can be helpful in understanding what you are going thru. If all you want is people to agree with you you are not asking for help.

    Posted 4 years ago by Susan-KennesawGA #

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    Karin, it was the thread of your life that I followed and which finally convinced me to join this community. I too get overstressed and oversensitive, but pleasedon't leave TDK. I agree Sharon was just trying to be gently helpful. Unfortunately, these public blogs can come back on us.
    I know it may sound silly but have you considered keeping a Journal? There you can vent, rant, and rave to your heart's content. I do. I go on and on. It does help. I let it all out. I go back into the past, forward intothe future, zig-zag all over until it is out of my system and then I turn the light out and go tosleep. I say whatever I feel, at the time and noone gets hurt. Of course before I die, I'll have to burn/delete everything but I'll face that problem in the future. You might want to consider trying it. Do take care. Trust me, it does work.

    Posted 4 years ago by yankee #

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    Yankee, very sound advice. I too keep journals. I keep one for my venting and ranting when needed, and then when full I shred it so no one else ever reads it. I also keep a journal where I explore my thoughts and dreams and learn about my inner self (yes, even at 63 I'm sill learning). I seldom have to pick up the venting book anymore, but I know I can when needed.

    Posted 4 years ago by Elene_YorkPA_7/21 #

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    Elene, mine is just one it contains both plus the mundane daily items that I managed to achieve that day. At 64, I still have dreams, but most have been dashed or are in the past. But a safe place where I can yell, is still important to me. I'd just get confused if I had two, and besides sometimes when I get it out of my system, then I go on to other things.

    Posted 4 years ago by yankee #

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    Karin, honey, please don't let the stress that you are under take you away from us. We all want to help and there is some really good advice going on here. Please listen to Momma Terri, OK?

    Posted 4 years ago by Bogman, Clark and Andy's mama 2/27 Florida #

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    I apologize to all if I sounded very childish with my response to Sharon and all last week. I was overly sensitive last week what with all that is going on.

    I do have to say that there is no reason what so ever for a manager, boss, director, etc to be rude to their support staff. We all have a common goal which is to be successful at what we do so that the company is successful.

    What was mentioned by Sharon may have been constructive criticism and I wasn't in the right frame of mind to receive it. I have to say though it did lean towards sounding like bosses have an excuse to be rude to their staff. So in hindsight, yes the boss may be under a lot of stress but a very good boss will not take it out on their support staff. Without their support staff, they would be under even more stress.

    I have had both good and bad managers. I have been yelled at when I didn't deserve it and actually that boss who yelled, got fired later on for bad management and supervision at a large stockbrokerage branch. I have worked in hostile work environments and a class action was started by my coworkers and they won. The good managers back you up when you have to say no, they motivate you to work hard, and they provide the option to succeed. I had such a manager before.

    All, I can say is I hope to learn from all of this experience. I will try to set some time aside to speak with my manager to find out more of about his work style and what he expects of his assistant. It is a brand new week to try a new approach.

    Posted 4 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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    Karin... you make me smile. Well written, and glad to see you posting again. Having a one-on-one with the boss to determine his style and needs is a great idea.
    I understand the hypersentivity.. I'm in the middle of it myself. No fun ... and right now I don't see an end in sight.

    Posted 4 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    Glad you're back, Karin - wouldn't be the same here without you!

    Posted 4 years ago by GreatDane #

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    Glad you are back Karin. Its not the same when you aren't here.

    Posted 4 years ago by Cat talk rules #

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    Glad to see you're pro-active, positive, and motivated, Karin! Atta girl!

    Posted 4 years ago by Jo in Blairsville #

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    Go get 'em, Karin! And remember your TDK family is supporting you every step of the way.

    Posted 4 years ago by Emma #

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