1. GP wants to put Mr. L. on Lexapro for OCD.
2. Lexapro isn't the insurance company's preferred med, so it'll cost $40/mo.
3. GP puts Mr. L. on generic citalopram instead.
4. Generic citalopram does nothing; Mr. L. gets worse.
5. Mr. L. makes urgent appointment with GI dr. for IBS-D, which is also getting worse; appt. was last Monday.
6. Mr. L. cancels appt. with GI dr. "because of OCD".
7. I start giving Mr. L. Lexapro from the samples my psych dr. gave me.
8. Mr. L. calls dentist, GP, and psych dr and tells all of them about it.
9. GP's nurse calls; tells Mr. L. that GP says not to take my med under any circumstances, and to come in for an appt. if something's wrong. That has a snowman's chance in the Sahara of happening.
10. I call nurse and leave two messages--one very nasty, one very apologetic--telling her that. Second message asks for a call ASAP, as we are having a lot of problems.
11. GP calls and very regretfully dismisses us from his practice; says giving Mr. L. my med was a violation of trust and that "there are a lot of things going on" with us.
12. I call Mr. L. and tell him this; he says he "better not be blamed for this."
13. I call psych dr.; waiting for return call. Want to kill somebody; haven't decided if it'll be me or Mr. L.
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Leeny you must have deleted the post. Please know you have support here. You must hold him accountable. This is not your decision, you have done what you can with him. You need to protect yourself and do it now. I would think you could go to a shelter and get help. He is back into his old habits. How long before he physically abuses you again?
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I put the post back. I wish he would physically abuse me; I wish he would kill me. that would save me doing it myself
I tell these people we're really in trouble here and they just get rid of us. Not the first time people have decided they just can't cope with me, not likely to be the last. Probably the psych dr will throw me out of his practice, too.
Just look at the tag. Never mind.
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Leeny, don't talk daft. You are important and we do mind, so stop thinking about hurting yourself or letting him hurt you. Get yourself the help you need.
Posted 2 years ago by Pollys_Mum_in_UK_2605 #
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Leeny you need to do something for yourself. You are allowing yourself to wallow in self pity and you can not go back, you must go forward. You have made great strides in your life. You have friends here that are begging you to not give up. Wanting someone to end your life or you wanting to end your own life it truly a serious cry for help and we are listening. Hearts are being ripped apart with a desire to help you and the fear that you will do something that can not ever be helped. Call your doctor. You need to move on with your life and heal yourself. Please listen to the friends that you have made here, show the strength that you have had in you so many times.
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I'm sorry that that happened Leeny,I can sure understand why you're angry and why you wish he'd hit you so you could finally call the police on him. Emotional abuse is the worst,it erodes your self esteem,eats away at motivation but worst of all isolates us when we need people most.
You are still making progress getting away from this person,he's playing these childish games to try to get a rise out of you. Can you consult the attorney about his behavior and how it is impacting on you,his behavior is depriving you of a doctor and needed medical care and that is not right.
I wish I lived closer Leeny,you have my prayers.
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Mr. L is rsponsible for his medications. If he needs one not covered by insurance than he needs to turn to the state and file all his disability paperwork so that he has the funds to cover his medication. He has cable TV the bane of your existance--cut it off and use the money to buy the medication he needs. Until he can stand up and contribute cut off paying the cable. He keeps breaking appointments--that is not your responsibility. He needs to be held accountable.
You need to take your medication as well. It will help you to see clearly so that you can make good decisions for YOU. You are the important member to this community and you are loved. It is time to take care of yourself and he will have to learn to take care of himself. This roller coaster you are on has to stop. Please Leeny you must understand that you are valued and loved by so many here. Please take care of yourself.
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Get the law involved. Mr. L is mentally incompetent and a danger to both himself and you; most especially to you. He may not mean to be this difficult, but he is jumping up and down on your last nerve, and he doesn't even have the good sense to know what damage he is doing to you.
Is there some place that will take him so that you can get some room and some peace of mind and breathing place, at least long enough to figure out your next step?
This is a terrible situation, and when I read that you are feeling worthless, it kills me, honey.
You are worth EVERYTHING. And you are loved and honored by all of us here. ALL OF US!
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Oh Leeny, he is doing his best to sabotage you and drag you down with him. No one would blame you if you just plain walked out. Get a friend to keep the cats for a while and just leave and go to a shelter even if for a few days. Shoot, spend the night at work if you have to just to get the space and peace! He is deliberately dividing you from your support network as a way of holding you hostage. You have tried so hard and he is trying harder in the opposite direction. You are valued here. Don't ever forget that.
Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #
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Leeny, I have some thoughts that I don't want on a public forum. Email me at ppearson 23 at yahoo dot com and lets chat.
Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #
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Leeny, he IS trying to drag you down with him. You are not responsible for his irrational and irresponsible behavior. He wants to destroy you by whatever means he can. That's not a relationship and it sure as hell isn't love. You have just got to get out of there. He has made these horrible choices - you have tried your best. Now he has succeeded in making you doubt your own self-worth. That's exactly what he has wanted to do. You could leave and go to a shelter. Consider yourself, not him.
Leeny, we are all so very worried about you. You have more than fulfilled any obligation that you ever felt you had towards him. Please don't let him destroy you.
Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
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Leeny, this man is holding you hostage just as much as if he was tying you up and depriving you of food and water. This is horrid emotional abuse and you need a break from the tension. Please go to a shelter and let them help you get started on getting away from this situation. They deal with this all the time and can hook you up with an attorney who can work out payment terms you can afford. You need at least a few days/nights of peace and rest. Your thoughts of hurting yourself are so understandable given the pressure you are under, but you are NOT the bad guy here; you are a strong, lovely soul who is just plain worn out from all the abuse - anyone would feel exhausted with what you face every day-that makes you normal, not crazy! You are loved, respected and cared for here at TDK - please give yourself a break and start letting Mr. L. be responsible for himself or fail if he won't. It's not your problem any more. Your priority is taking care of YOU. Please remember how much we all care about you, & do something TODAY to begin getting out from under all this pressure. We will help all we can. Love, prayers. amd hugs.
Posted 2 years ago by rainingwolf #
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Leeny, please, please, don't think of hurting yourself or putting yourself in a position to be hurt by Mr. L. You are worth so much more to yourself (even if you can't see it right now) and to us, your extended family of TDKrs. Sending you all the prayers and white light I can muster.
Posted 2 years ago by GizzysAuntie #
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Called the DVPA's hotline. Am about to leave to spend the night in a hotel under a pseudonym. Tomorrow they will help me make long-term plans. They assured me that I won't lose my cats.
Had to run from my parents like this 27 years ago, but then I had my best friend to run to. She's dead now. I feel so alone.
Will check in tomorrow if I can.
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Who is contributing to society here, You or that "socially unacceptable descriptor here"?
Who is paying the bills?
Who got the church to help with the dentist?
Dr. cannot deal with you? You are the middleman.
Tell Mr OCD he is on his own Lock Stock and Barrel. Best yet get out and get out now even if you have to live in your car for a bit.
Make him make and break his own appointments. Let him OD on drugs and you call the ambulance but don't take any responsibility or shit from him or the authorities about it.
Cut off all his cable and tell cable you will not pay (If you have to go dial-up or DSL for a bit)
He is strangling you just as surely as he is tightening a garotte about your neck. The sad thing is he is also doing it to himself.
ILIGITIMI NON CARBARUNDUM (bad latin I know but it fits)
THANK GOD! for you post that was entered as I was working on this.
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
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Thank you Leeny! You will be so much safer and better with him out of your life. Physically I would give anything to be there to hold your hand--there are a number of people here that would give anything to be with you and give you support. A squeeze of the hand and a hug are just not the same through a computer, but it is the very best I can do. Please Leeny close your eyes and see all your TDK friends--we are with you in spirit. We will hold you close and you will come through this and be so much better when he is completely out of your life!
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Just chiming in. You definitely are NOT alone. We're all behind you. Is there anything I can do to help? I think I live closest to you, other than Catwoman. Email me at endingerb at hotmail dot com; I'd love to help you if I can. (((Leeny)))
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