ok i have a 28 year old brother whom im bout to disown is such a prick to me hes rude hes abusive and nasty i cant even talk to my mother without being hit and told to go on and when i ask him whats the deal he reply by saying "your not dead yet" im sick and tierd of it! im tired of being emotionaly abused by him im tired of being hit all the time and my mom wont do anything cuz shes afraid of him and no1 believes me they say its all my fault i dont do crap! i even started cutting because of him its like no1 cares and im balling while i type this i just cant take it anymore he complaines bout me not having a job when he doesnt even have 1 hasnt had 1 in 2 years and i wld have a job but couple years ago he hit me in the back with a broom soo hard it broke the broom in 3 pieces and i cant stand or lift things for long hes even kicked my rabbits cage b4 and dented it which killed the rabbit i cannot trust him with scooby he has to be with me the whole time i know this is not like life is supposed to be sometimes i think that if i wasnt born then none of this would happen and that yall are my only family cuz yall care so muchhh and i feel loved when im talking to yall (and dont worry im not gna kill myself or anything) lifes too important
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Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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Oh sweetie, for your sake, your family's sake and yes, even your brother's sake, you must call the police, press charges and FOLLOW THROUGH. My brother was a terrible heroin addict but until we stood together and followed through, he didn't get the help he needed and our family went through hell. It took years but he has finally turned around. A protective order is needed and again, you need to follow through. I know you didn't ask for advice, you just wanted to "get it out" but by doing so it showed (and you even said) you don't want to live like that anymore. If it takes YOU going to a shelter then so be it. And by sharing this with your family of choice, who does care and love you, you were reaching out and asking for help. That is my take on it anyway. What state do you live in?
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time at home. If your brother has assaulted you, you may be able to get a restraining order that would require him to stay away from you.
Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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i live in georgia and i've called the cops he put the blame on me and i was the 1 sitting in jail for 6 hours i've done everything he gets worse and i wld go to a shelter but i dont want to lose scooby hes all i got at home andplus im 18 they wont take me
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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Why won't a shelter take you if you are legally of age? Some shelters help women leaving domestic violence by providing temporary foster homes for pets who are at risk of being hurt by an abusive family member. If you are physically disabled by the injury caused by your brother, you may qualify for social security disability benefits which would allow you to afford moving out on your own.
Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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Go to your local police department and file a restraining order. That is step one. You have to document and follow through. Get photo's of any bruising, cuts, etc., that he has caused. Look up on the internet "help for abused women" and call them. They will help you do all the right things to end your nightmare and they have shelters. If you cannot locate one look up "The House of Ruth." They are here in Baltimore and they will help you find help in Georgia. I guarantee it. I have a sister who has been badly physically/emotionally/mentally abused and they helped me. I wanted to hit her myself because she wouldn't see the light of what was happening. They are awesome and they will help you find help. Please promise you will do this now. They are there 24/7.
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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i didnt know that i thought that if ur 18 u cldnt be in a foster home? is that different then what ur saying i cld be wrong
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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ok i promise i'll do that right now
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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A foster home is different than shelter and yes, 18 is the cut off in the foster system. Let whomever you call know, as KW said, that you have a beloved pet that is all you have and see what they can do.
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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I am talking about a women's shelter, not a foster home for kids. If you are an adult (18 is considered adult in most states), I don't know why you wouldn't be able to get help at a women's shelter.
Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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ok thank you iii just cant think straight and my blood preasure is through the roof i can just feel it
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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Foster home and shelter are different. Your local Catholic Charities are another resource to pursue. They should be able to help.
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
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ok thank you
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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I have to go to bed but I'm glad you reached out and there is tremendous love and support here, as we all know. Feel free to email me at laineylives at aol if you need support or advice... if I can help I will. I am so proud of you for reaching out and getting help!
Love,
LaineyPosted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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For your sake, run, don't walk, to a friend's house and take Scooby with you. Keep calling the police on your brother. If someone doesn't straighten him out now, someone will straighten him out later, and it will be the funeral home director. My mother illegally evicted me from a house she owned that I lived in; it actually turned out to be the best thing she could have ever done for me, other than giving birth to me. She was abusive to me, she beat me well into my twenties, she entered the house whenever she felt like it unannounced (often while I was having sex with a guy I loved) and brought her friends over, she even tried to kill a boyfriend of mine -- because he's white. Sometimes, you need to create family wherever you can: welcome to ours.
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If you could get to NC, I need a room mate. I've actually told my apt complex this past Friday that I need a 1 bedroom... I now have 2! If you think this something you'd be interested in, please let me know.
As others have said, you don't need to be in a situation like that! I wish I was closer to you because I've had personal experience with friends who have gone through this same thing. If I could, I would pick you & Scooby up tonight!Posted 2 years ago by cathi in nc #
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yeah i just got off with my friend shes letting me stay with her untill he calms down which in my case is neverr i just wish i could find my dad his name is Larry Gamble does that sound familar to anyone if i find him im gna live with him and get the h** out of this torment and im gna continue to call the police untill they open there eyes and realize what hes doing
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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I agree with Vicki when she says to RUN, not walk away from this situation!
Posted 2 years ago by cathi in nc #
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Do you know where Larry is currently living?
Posted 2 years ago by cathi in nc #
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oh believe me i would move in with you Cathi in NC but i have no way at all and i have no job and i would feel bad for not helping with the bills and food and scooby is cat agressive i would be afraid for your cats
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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no my mom is keeping us seperated
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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I'm sure you could find some type of work where you don't have to stand or lift heavy items... If you were truly disabled, there is always Social Security Disability Benefits as Kitten Whisper stated before.
The only thing I see a problem with is that Scooby is cat aggessive. My Gali would be terrified, but Max would kick his butt back!
I'm VERY good with researching things and if you could just give me a city or state, that would be very helpful.Posted 2 years ago by cathi in nc #
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Do you think he lives in GA?
Posted 2 years ago by cathi in nc #
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If you have some basic information about your father, like his age and last known place of residence, you can google his name and may be able to get some idea of where he is. He might be on facebook or myspace. If you are in any kind of contact with his side of the family, they may be able to help you reach him. If he is or was paying child support for you, the support enforcement agency that was collecting it may be able to provide you with contact information. Please remember that just because he is your biological father does not necessarily mean he is going to welcome you with open arms and act like a concerned parent. He might, but he might not so keep your expectations reasonable. Good luck, ILMC! :)
Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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I've already located a lot of Larry Gambles...
Kitten Whisperer gives excellent advice, by the way. (Who is that pretty girl in your gravatar KW, by the way?!)Posted 2 years ago by cathi in nc #
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well see i dont even know where he cld be city or state i only know his name would a middle name help? and yeah i mean scooby wld eventually be nice but it wld take alottttt of work hes stubborn and why i say hes cat agressive is cuz u can just show him a pic of a cat and he goes nuts and he eats like a horse so yeah lol
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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LoL... What's the initial???
Do you want to contact me directly so we don't chat in cyber space all night? My email is:
cat74s (at) yahoo (dot) comPosted 2 years ago by cathi in nc #
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yeah i'll do that
Posted 2 years ago by ilovecatsforever #
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Cathi, that is our newest kit, Boots. She joined the family in March and is just one year old. More photos and video of her and her two older sisters on Catster. :)
Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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She is adorable! My parents have a kitty named Princess Elizabeth who looks just like her!
Posted 2 years ago by cathi in nc #
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