Because she was sick she was out today. She was just called by her section leader and told she was kicked off. She has to do all the work, but for competition she will sit on the sideline and watch. This means she loses her scholarship. She is devistated. Our family is devistated. I am in tears and there is nothing I can do to make things better.
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Daughter was kicked of marching band.
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SM, I am at a loss for words. Can this be appealed? That is so totally unfair that there must be some recourse.
Hugs to all of you. I wish that I could offer more.
Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
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OhmiGod, Sox's Mom, this is so UNFAIR. Whatever happened to natural justice? And to lose her scholarship? I don't understand! How can you lose a scholarship for being sick for one meeting and a day or two?
Many {{{HUGS}}}. Maybe, when the shock has worn off, you can put your heads together and find a way to challenge this injustice.
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That is horrible, SM!!! Would it do any good to provide documentation from her doctor that she was too ill to participate today? Were band members told this would happen if they missed for any reason? Heartless!!
Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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That is totally wrong and I hope that something can be done. That is total B.S.!!! Big Hugs to you and to your daughter. That really chaps my hide! What jerks.
Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #
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Oh No! I'm so sorry......this seems soooo unfair! Didn't she just go into emergency yesterday with severe dehydration? I hope there's some way you can appeal this decision because it's just not right to take away people's dreams when there are legitimate reasons for missing practice. How about a verification from the doctor that she's ill? This is just awful SM!!! (((SM))) (((Daughter))) =(
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OMG, this does NOT make sense. Can you contact the principal? There must be some recourse.
Posted 2 years ago by Tigerlilly #
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This is absurd. They just can't do that...how is that legal? I would definitely speak to the principal, or the school board, and like suggested...get a note from the doctor.
Posted 2 years ago by KaylynSueG #
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I think you should contact your local news... all the stations, all media. This is assinine!
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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Ridiculous! We're gathering our whack-bonk sticks and heading for New Mexico, people! Definitely start contacting the powers that be about this and get that doctor's note. Hugs to you all.
Posted 2 years ago by KapitiKats in NZ #
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I truly do not see how it can be legal to withdraw a scholarship (especially if it has some monetary value) because of a temporary illness that involved a collapse in front of witnesses and necessitated a trip to the ER. Surely they have to give an acceptable reason.
Especially when it was probably partly the band director's fault that she collapsed -- being denied water breaks when you have a kidney infection can't have done her any good!
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When I spoke with the band director yesterday he said nothing about this happening. He said that he was "very sorry that the students were being worked much harder than he wanted." That is when I found out about the person from the base that has been running the band. I asked why they were not being given water breaks. He assured me that they would be given more breaks. She has worked for this scholarship for 6 years. She has also worked so hard to earn her senior blanket. Now it is all taken away because she missed today. She is now writing her resignation from the band. She said there is no more point. She did it because she wanted money for college and they took it away. There is no more point to marching until you puke in 100 degree weather and having your feet bleed. This is just killing me.
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First of all, you need to talk to the band director not just some section leader. Make it clear to the director that you will be discussing this with the school principal. If the director and the principal won't listen, then you need to talk to the school board. If they won't listen, then talk to the local media (paper, TV, radio) and let them know what is going on. There is no way that they should get away with this.
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Tell your daughter resigning is going quietly and she should not go quietly. She should kick and scream up and down the chain of command, Band Director, Principal, superintendant, schoolboard, lawyer, and media. If reason doesn't work, use shame and suit for damages. The school could lose a full scholarship + damages.
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
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Don't let her put in her resignation yet, SM. If this affects her money for college, then I truly think you need to talk to a lawyer, just to read the terms of her scholarship and get some advice. A lawyer's letter might make the school think again.
And yes, if the school won't listen to reason, go to the media, including consumer help programmes. Kick up a stink. It's amazing how quickly some things can get put right when bad publicity is involved.
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Don't let your daughter submit a resignation letter. Get written verification from her MD first thing in the morning then march it and her to the head person in charge of this decision. Model how adults problem solve when faced with injustice.
Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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Amen! She has you and her family and US to support her and she should definitely not go down without a fight. I think calling on the media is the place to start. You are a military family and they eat that stuff up. This is too important to not fight. Even if she doesn't win, she will learn the value of standing up for herself, for what is right and for justice. That is valuable. A shame she has to learn these things now when she should be having a blast as a senior but unfortunately life isn't fair (gosh I hated it when people told me that.. still do as a matter of fact!)
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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Wow that's totally not right. Band was 30+ years ago and were really great years for me. This warrents a call to the section leader, then the band director, then the supervisor of music, then the principal. Then...go to the Superintendent of Schools. Go to the next board meeting. There is at least one portion of the meeting that the public is permitted to speak by law.
{{{daughter}}}
What does she do in the band?Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #
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That just sucks monkey toes SM. Totally nonsensical. After all the hard work, blood sweat and tears your daughter has put in over the years, to have it taken away because of one missed day. I wonder who is likely to get the scholarship now? Just a thought. Please don't let her resign, it may seem like the only thing to do at the moment but she really needs to make a stand for herself and for the future.
Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #
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I just re-read the first post of her heat exhaustion/dehydration event and if it were my daughter I'd go to the police and charge him with RECKLESS ENDANGERMENT if not out-right attempted murder.
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
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She is part of the Clovis Wildcat Marching Band--at least she was. I keep reminding myself at the end of life no one ever says I wish I had marched in more competitions. Normally it is I wish I spent more time with family and close friends. I know this is high school and will be over one day. I know that no matter what I will see her through college. But the hurt I feel is almost more than I can take.
Thank you all for the advice, believe me I am listening. I just don't know how to function yet. We will speak with the band director tomorrow morning. I am praying by then I can stop crying.
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Once your daughter is calmed down a bit, talk to her about how to respond to this decision. Ask her if she wants to take the lead in confronting those in charge with you there as a support person or if she'd like you and her father to take the lead.
When our daughter was in high school she witnessed a substitute teacher make a racist remark in her class. She came home very distressed and told us about it. We asked her what she wanted to do. She decided she would go to the school administration and report this incident by herself. She did go in the next day and the substitute teacher was terminated. It was a very empowering experience for her.
Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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I can only imagine the hurt you are feelin for your child. It's so unfair. Just please don't let her quit. Not for a while. Not till some cooling off can be had and to see if resolution can come. If no satisfactory resolution, I do hope that you will seriously consider what has been offered here. Gosh I wish there were word that would make a difference. Many hugs and lots of prayers for you and your daughter.
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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