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Daisy Mew
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Posted 2 years ago by Tigerlilly #
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I am just having a VERY difficult time right now Tigerlilly. Things here are not going well. Work is cutting hours and I will barely be able to make rent with what I earn. I hardly get to see the boys, I think they think my sister is their new Mother. Had met a nice guy, at least I thought so. My brother introduced us, that should have made me run. Things went very ugly with him and he didn't understand the word NO. Needless to say I am in a bad state of mind currently. Praying things work out and I am not pregnant. Time will tell.
So needless to say, I am having a rough time. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers.
TIGERLILLY-Thank you for the clothes for the boys! They loved all of it.
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DM please take some time for yourself and the boys. You do not need to meet anyone, you just got out on your own. Is there anyway that you can talk with Walmart and get more hours? Are you getting any child support? I know it is very difficult, but I assure you your boys know you are their Mom. You are doing a hard task raising your sons alone. Please talk to someone. I am taking this to mean you were raped. Date rape is still rape. Please, please talk to someone. You were violated and are the victim of this crime--but don't let it take hold of you. I am so very sorry this happened to you--no one has this right. You and the boys are always in my prayers.
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DM, you and the boys continue to be in my prayers. I think you are in a vulnerable spot right now, and that guy took advantage of you. I would really suggest that you stay away from the guys for awhile. It's just one more thing that you really don't need to deal with right now. You are so gifted when it comes to crafty things; I wish there were a way for you to make money using your skills. Any brainstorms, TDK family?
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Julie, it breaks my heart that you sound so discouraged. If your wages aren't enough to get the bills paid maybe consider going to social services. With the two boys to care for there must be some help available for you. I remember how much I missed my kids when they were small and I was working fulltime. I know you're strong and with some hard work and local resources you're going to make it. Stay focused on you and the boys though. Once you have your lives moving along then you can relax a bit and consider a really nice man to go out with. Wish I could give you a big hug right now. Have the boys started school yet? I've really missed your posting here and think about you everytime I look down and see my TDK stone. You aren't alone Julie...we're all here with you. =)
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((((DM)))) Every time I look at my little "TDK stone" I think of you and your boys and say a prayer!...... and that is almost every day!....... please take your time and "listen" to your heart, and to God...... you have so much love and support here...... we love you and are praying for you daily!.... (huggs)
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I think I lost my breath for a minute there....DM, please check in with us once in a while. I pray that at the very least we can be a support system for you. Many minds think more clearly than one.
I'm feeling a bit of guilt here for being way too diplomatic in regards to this dating issue. Well, no more....I cannot imagine how difficult it must be to feel so alone, but this is not the time for any more drama in your life or the lives of the boys. I can only begin to imagine, but I would think that a divorce requires a period of mourning, it is a major loss after all. You need time to grieve, heal, find yourself, regroup, prioritize your kids etc etc. I know you don't need any more pressure, but your sons now have only you as their role model. These past few months thye have seen a strong decisive woman who is determined to make it on their own. How wonderful is that. Because of a lack of a male role model, they also need to see from you how women deserve to be treated with respect...sooner than you realize, they will be men.
DM, please listen to SM. Is there anything we can do? Of course. I hope you know that you have my prayers big time, every day. My TDK stone is next to my computer, so I am reminded of your kindness daily.
(((DM)))Posted 2 years ago by Tigerlilly #
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Just had to add: PLEASE DM, you need to seek counseling,. There should be something available through women shelters etc (hopefully someone with more knowledge here can make a recommendation). You have been traumatized and, as anyone would, need help to get through this.
My heart goes out to you.Posted 2 years ago by Tigerlilly #
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{{{{{DM}}}}} Please listen to Sox's Mom and Tigerlilly. If you said no and he wouldn't listen, that is rape, pure and simple and it is a horrific experience for anyone to go through. Please talk to someone you trust about this. This is not the kind of experience you can get through alone. Sending you all my love, you are a strong proud woman, you will find other women friends to talk to about your worries and fears, YOU DO NOT NEED A MAN!
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DM, I suspect that whether you realize it or not you are giving off a vibe right now that will only attract the wrong kind of guy. Concentrate on yourself, your boys and settling in socially within your new community. By concentrating on yourself I mean things like time with cats, doing things you enjoy, exploring your new environment, joining a book club, etc. I find yoga great (or did before my surgery) maybe at the Y or a community center. Tai Chi is good too. Center yourself, and then you can be there for the boys, who are the most important men in your lives right now! You have made great strides by making the move. Build on that. We are here for you. Big hugs! And I also think you need to talk to a hotline/shelter about your most recent interaction!
Posted 2 years ago by nawlins catmom #
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Lots of good advice and support for you from your TDK family. No one deserves to be abused. You have been abused by this so-called nice guy. Please speak to a sexual assault support organization that can help you deal with this. It may be that counseling will help you figure out how you end up with abusive men. Going slow and being very observant early in a relationship is important. Being rushed into a relationship is a red flag. Someone who doesn't understand and respect boundaries is not worth a second thought.
It is not to late to report this incident to the police. The choice is yours. A sexual assault support group can help you decide what to do about that. I would hate to see another woman victimized by this jerk.
{{{{{{{{many hugs}}}}}}}}}}
Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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DM, You have been given good advice. Get counseling ASAP for this incident. And remember this jerk may be a known case and if he is it will bolster your case even with the delayed report. If he is not, there is more awareness about women delaying reports of sexual assault because they wrongly feel at fault.
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
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{{DM}} Julie, I am praying hard for you too. This is such a terrible time for you. You have gotten excellent advice from your TDK sisters. I pray you are happy soon.. .. Hugs to you and the boys.
Posted 2 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #
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(((Julie))) everyone here has given you good advice, and I can't offer much more in that respect. What happened to you, happened to me Julie. The feelings, the confusion and the hoping of no conception, I understand. Please, Please, Please talk to someone. I went down the road of beating myself up and the relationships I had showed it. Once I liked myself and got over everything that happened in my life, it all sorted out. My heart and prayers are with you. You are loved.
Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #
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{{{{{DM}}}}} Praying for you, DaisyMew, that things turn up and turn over so that you find some peaceful water and calm sailing in your new life.
Posted 2 years ago by GizzysAuntie #
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