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   And maybe a few Prayers as well. I have an appt. Monday morning (11:15 am) to see if I'm eligable for some state assistance. I've never had to resort to such drastic measures in my life before. Some of you may not agree,but, to me,It's quite humiliating to have to do this. Just going down to fill out paperwork & set up the appt. was enuf to make me crawl in a hole. It truly is a feeling of failure. I know I wouldn't be at this point in my life had I been more careful in choosing a partner. Now that partner has turned his back on me after I was there for him every step of the way thru his prostate cancer diagnosis,his treatment, & ultimately being there to find out his cancer was gone. And yet he still turned his back on me. Worse yet,I think he's more embarressed than myself at the thought of me trying to get assistance. What a jerk he really is. After spending 26 yrs. of my life w/him. A true jerk.

   I'm scared to death they're going to refuse me (altho I qualify already according to their checklist). If they refuse me,all this humiliation will have been for nothing & I'll feel like an even bigger failure. I'll be carrying my TDK stone w/me,but, will feel so much better knowing your all rooting for me. {{{TDK FAMILY}}}

   Posted 2 years ago by feral #

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   Susie, I can understand how you feel but you shouldn't, you pay your taxes, well, this is what they're for, we all need a helping hand once in a while, I am sending all the positive TDK energy and white light to you that I can, that you qualify and that you get all the help you need, without any problems or hassle. {{{HUGS}}} and good luck!

   Posted 2 years ago by jcat #

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   The emphasis here is ASSISTANCE. You are requesting aid you have earned by years of taxes and the service rendered keeping the Jerk out of the nursing homes with his cancer treatment.

   If he is embarrased by your request for state aid, he should be. He is the failure. If he had the grace and gratitude he should have to honor you for your sacrifices and loyalty, you would not be in this position.

   Go in head held high with the positive position that this is to get you a new start.

   Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #

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   Susie, Girl you hold your head high! You are not in any way shape or form any type of failure. You are a beautiful soul that deserves so much more than what you have had from the Jerk. My prayers are with you. {{{Susie}}}

   Posted 2 years ago by BoogerMercurysMama #

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   Bump!

   Posted 2 years ago by jcat #

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   Susie, I'm sending a ton of positive Vibes over for you. You're nowhere near close to being a failure, and all your TDK family know that. Keep your DM stone close and know that you have my good luck wishes.

   Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

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   Susie, you are not a failure. You just need some help to survive and there is no shame in that. I can totally understand you feeling embarrassed, that is a normal feeling. However, you need to eat, to survive, and if assistance will help you do that, then so be it. We love you, we are here for you and you have all my wishes and prayers. (((SUSIE)))

   Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #

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   Yeah, what they said :) Susie, you have to do what you have to do to get away from the bozo, you deserve that. Hang in there, and know that we'll all be there with you this morning and every step of the way (((Susie)))

   Posted 2 years ago by Kilroy #

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   Susie, you march right in there, you have absolutly no reason to be embarrassed or ashamed. We are all shoulder to shoulder with you in this. Keep the TDK stone right close. We have all either been in your situation or could be one day. Many blessings coming your way.

   Posted 2 years ago by paulajeanne #

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    Susie, we all know that you are not a failure. In fact, state assistance (and charities) are meant for people like you, who have paid into the system over the years and now need some help to survive. I get so tired of seeing people who "work the system", always taking money out without ever contributing anything. I know it is hard to ask for help, but you really need it to help you get back on your feet. We will all be with you in spirit today.

    P.S. If you do qualify, (and I am sure you will), I urge you to use it for yourself and your kits, and not a dime for The Jerk. There, that's my 2 cents.

    Posted 2 years ago by NNGM #

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    Thanks for your support you guys. Most of you know I've been struggling off & on for some time. For most my yrs.living here, I've always been proud to tell people I did housecleaning. You all know that it's by far,a very strenuous job & doesn't pay as well as it should. It's been painful enuf to lose all my clients 1 by 1 as passed from age-related illness(some I will never ever forget). Then adding the difficulty of animal rescue,well,it's wasn't planned,but, I found it impossible to turn my back. All the while, wishing & hoping things would turn around for the best.I didn't expect that best would or should be standing in line for state help. :(
    I agree...Mr. Useless should be embarressed of himself for not helping me when I directly asked for it from him. He so easily forgets I invested 26 yrs. to him. His very own family never came to his side during his cancer & treatment. But I was...taking all the abuse because I was the closest thing he had to family that cared.

    NNGM...anything I have ever been sent or given for help has always been used on my furbabies & myself...well,mostly furbabies since there's 14 of them & only 1 of me. It seems to be my nature,no matter how hard I try not to be, that I think of the kits before myself. As for Mr.Useless...well, someday he'll meet his maker again. And only then,will he see the whole jist of his actions. No bad deed goes unpunished.

    Off I go now to feed my furr bunch & I'll be holding you all close w/my TDK stone w/me. {{{HUGS}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by feral #

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    Susie, all I have to say is....It's about time!!!!!!! That is exactly what those programs are for!! Yes some people abuse them, but you sure don't fit in that catagory!! There was a time in my life I felt bad about it too, but broke down and signed up for state assistance! and guess what?? I got back on my feet and things have continued to improve ever since! It takes a while sometimes, but that's okay...I'm so happy you have made this decision!! Proud of you!!!!

    Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    Ditto 2Bpur...go girl...it is your chance to pick yourself up & brush yourself off & start all over again...Hugs/prayers & kitcat headbonks!

    Posted 2 years ago by jeankit #

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    Susie we'll all be with you today. Please listen to everyone when they say there's no shame at all in getting help. It's been the lazy loafers in history that have given social services a bad rap and there's not a person you know that could EVER call you a loafer!!! You've always worked hard at whatever it is you decide to do, whether it's housework, yardwork, auto mechanics or kitty care. If you feel a bit heavy across the shoulders today, it's my arm resting over your shoulder little sis. =)

    Posted 2 years ago by Karenopa #

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    Susie, I'm behind you all the way! Hold your head high and think of how proud you'll be when you come to a time when you no longer need assistance!

    Posted 2 years ago by LadyKat of IA #

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    Susie, you shouldn't feel embarrassed. You earned the right to use this assistance. When you go for your appointment, hold your stone tightly as you feel the collective hug of all of us TDKers. We will be there with you the whole time. I am so glad you are finally doing this as you deserve a much better life. Sending you some positive hugs.

    Posted 2 years ago by SylMiaFelixMomma #

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    {{{Susie}}}, hugs and prayers coming your way, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. You are a compassionate and caring woman who deserves a break. I hope everything goes well with your meeting and you can be off to a new start very soon.

    Posted 2 years ago by Annie R #

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    (((Susie))) Hoping to hear good news later today.
    I for one, will be glad that someone who really needs it gets help, as I know there are many in the system that do abuse it.

    Posted 2 years ago by Tigerlilly #

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    Susie I understand the feeling. My family is military. Most enlisted military qualify for federal and state assistance. One would think that a member of the military that defends his/her country and pays taxes would not have to look for help. I see families everyday that have to ask for help. There husband or wife is deployed and they don't have enough money to survive. These families get help and get back on their feet. You are no different. You have worked, paid taxes, and supported this country. Now it is time to let the country give you help. There is a big difference with needing some assistance after contributing, and never contributing and always trying to scam the country. There is a HUGE difference. I know it is horrible, but you need help. Please know you are loved, and you have a chance to turn things around.

    Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    26 years....that is a long time Susie. How shocking that he has turned his back on you after so much time and support. Truly a jerk. 14 furbabies...fantastic. You are an admirable woman, always present on TDK with invaluable advice, help and sympathy. Sending you supportive thoughts and energy now, and hoping you get the assistance you need.

    Posted 2 years ago by eleniki #

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    Just wondering how you're doing this afternoon Susie. Hope things went smoothly and you were able to get some help. I know you're probably exhausted after it all, especially with the heat you've been having there. Just want you to know I'm sending my love and prayers to you that everything will straighten out for you soon. ((((Susie))))

    Posted 2 years ago by Karenopa #

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    Susie, I had to do just what you are doing 13 years ago. I was humiliated and embarrassed as you feel now. Looking back I admire that woman who was strong and able to walk in and fill out that paperwork. I learned so much during that time and became a better person because of it. There is nothing to be ashamed of, NOTHING! We are all in awe of you here, you are the picture of strength to me! I am behind you 100% and always will be. You are part of our "family" here and deserve nothing but the best! Hugs and wishes your way! Praying for you!

    Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #

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    Bump. How did it go, Susie?

    Posted 2 years ago by jcat #

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    Bumping. Thinking of you Susie.

    Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

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    Susie??

    Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    Susie/Feral, Please update us. We are concerned.

    Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #

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    Thanks you guys for the Wishes & Worries. Yesterday...well...if not for my neighbor friend,I would've ran (or hobbled) out the door screaning. Sunday night I managed to fall on the back deck due to unrepaired boards on the decking (thanks Mr.Useless for your uselessness). I hairline cracked my ankle on one leg & pulled the thigh muscle on the other trying to right my fall. Not to worry. They still work,just sore. Even tho I had an appt.set,it was every man or woman for themselves yesterday for chairs. I stood most of the several hrs.there. Only to come away w/food privelages. They recommended going for SSDI. That'll be a whole nother day & probably not till next week.
    Long story short,my tranny may be okay after all (of course w/me doing the looking over). The monies I have left are for getting the part that was purchased put on it. That's no-touch. The unexpected smog-check for it screwed me up. Altho the registration is now renewed,I can't have the tags till I have it smog-checked. So I have to wait till after Saturday(when my 1 elderly client gets his house cleaned from me) before I have the $ to do that.
    You all are aware of how the system works. And d**n, I've never seen so many drug addicts in one place,not to mention,pregnant women hauling 4-5 kids already(like they really need another one). They were limited on what they could help me with,but are recommending a couple things(but are limited w.no bus service to our area & me having the junk car I have) I'd rather have had help in other areas than the food & live on crackers. My age(55 yrs.) is really putting me between the cracks. Just hoping SS Office will help me next week. I'll try to get down sooner,but,w/no guarantees. I'll keep you guys in check w/any progress. Love You All!! Meow >^..^<

    Posted 2 years ago by feral #

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    {{{{{{{{Susie}}}}}}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    Good for you Susie for going to the appointment! I am so proud of you! I hope the SSDI office can help too. One step in front of the other and keep up the good work. Sending you some hugs.

    Posted 2 years ago by SylMiaFelixMomma #

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    So glad to hear good news, Feral. Here's hoping 'the system' can help you out. Isn't that what it was supposed to do? Help those who really, really need it? WIll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Posted 2 years ago by GizzysAuntie #

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