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   Hey hey TDKer's,

   Well i got a call tonight from my bro. Yesterday they took Eric off the respirator and he had a panic/anxiety attack. From there it has sorta all gone down him. He is now back fully on the respirator. They are gonna try to have him go in for surgery tomorrow for a trek. If this happens they have no hope of him ever goning home. he will have to be in a convelesent home. The worse part since my brother is not in control of his medical issues he has no rights concerning what Eric's designated power of attorney. Eric's power of attorney is an ex of his from before my bro who he stayed friends with. Well should Eric flatline at anytime whether or the table or in his icu room they are not allowed to resitiate him. So from here on the outlook is not good. We are all broken hearted and pissed at the guy. But none of us can say a thing. My brother was told to get a hold of Eric's family. Well the only number he had was for a sister and she no longer has that number so there is no way to notify his remaining relatives the only family Eric has is mine!

   When it rains it sure does Pour!

   Posted 2 years ago by Momma to 2 MaineCoons #

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   I am headed out for the night. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers! Our family is not ready to tell him goodbye yet!

   Posted 2 years ago by Momma to 2 MaineCoons #

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   I'm sorry Eric failed being weaned off the ventilator,they should give him more tries than one,sometimes it takes a while.As for having a trach he would probably have to go to a convalescent home at first but if he becomes strong and can breathe on his own they can remove the trach and he could come home. All is not lost. I will continue to pray for Eric,your brother and you,his family. [[[[[hugs]]]]

   Posted 2 years ago by Buttercup #

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   That sort of news is hard to take Ange. Positive Vibes for being able to contact Eric's family somehow, but he has his 'other' family now. sending truck loads of White Light and Healing Energy for Eric and {{{hugs}}} for all your family.

   Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

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   Eric is in my prayers. I hope all goes well with his surgery and that he is able to go home in time.

   If Eric is mentally competent to do so, he can revoke his power of attorney for his ex and give it to someone else. He can also create an advanced directive for his doctor which explains what he wants should he end up in a persistent vegetative state. (The hospital most likely has forms available for this.) These are hard things to talk about, but if Eric truly does not want to be resuscitated at a given point, it is his choice.

   The American Red Cross may be able to locate Eric' sister. It is one of the things they do.

   Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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   That is so awful to hear.... I am praying for you guys! sendng lots of good positive thoughts your way!

   Posted 2 years ago by SugarBee #

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   I am so sorry to hear this news. I will continue to keep Eric, your brother, you and your (his) family in my prayers. Prayers that his family will be found. The Red Cross is an excellent idea. So is www.pipl.com if you know the names and state(s) of his relatives. Keep the faith!

   Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #

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   I'm so, so, sorry to hear this, Ange. Sending Eric more truckloads of healing energy, he has a whole convoy coming over from NZ.

   Posted 2 years ago by jcat #

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   I am sorry to hear of Eric's setback, Ange. I am keeping him and your family in my prayers.

   Posted 2 years ago by Lynn from PA 6/8 #

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    A lot will depend on if his mind is clear and if he has paralysis. I have had a trach for over 50 years, and am on a ventilator and in a wheelchair. I have a full life, have married and have 2 adult children. I've gotten a Masters Degree in Counseling and worked as a mental health counselor until retiring. What I am trying to say is that just being on a vent and having a trach does not mean someone will automatically be sent to a nursing home for life. A lot has changed over the years--my vent is only 10 lbs and fits on the back of my wheelchair. If Eric recovers to where he has more strength, he need not be confined even if he ends up needing a vent for life. I am so sorry for the stress this has caused you, and I will pray for Eric's continued healing.

    Posted 2 years ago by rainingwolf #

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    RW, you are an inspiration!.....

    ... (((Ange)))) you have my continued prayers for Eric.... I hope you can get in touch with his family!.......

    Posted 2 years ago by AV #

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    I pray that Eric will take a turn for the better!!! How sad this is. {{{MT2MC}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by katthays #

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    RW you are indeed an inspiration. White light and prayers to Eric and you Ange.

    Posted 2 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #

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    Ange, don't give up hope at all! RW is living proof that life doesn't end with a trach! I worked exclusively with trach patients the first five years of my life. Helping people with proper breathing techniques, relaxation and learning to speak with speaking valves as well as training them on eating with speaking valves in. Its amazing to see how far they would come. It isn't easy and it doesn't happen overnight but it DOES HAPPEN! Keep the faith, I know you can't see the forest for the trees now but there is hope! (((ANGE)))

    Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #

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    I can't say anything more inspiring than RW. Keeping your family and Eric in my prayers.

    Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    {{{MT2MC}}} Prayers going up for Eric and all involved in this heartbreaking situation. And WOW, RW, I did not know that about you. Blessings to you, too...

    Posted 2 years ago by corzak #

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    Ange...I'msorry to hear the news on Eric. I agree with Buttercup...they should continue to try weaning him off the ventilator. It took numerous tries w/my Mom when she was on one. They do tend to panic at first,but, with continued attempts,Eric can be weaned off.

    Sending Special {{{HUGS}}} & Prayers & Healing Light for Eric & for you & your Family.

    I am so in Awe at Ginger's accomplishments. Eric can be there too. I'll be Praying.

    Posted 2 years ago by feral #

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    Thank you everyone. My seocnd mom emaile dme this morning. They decided sometime last night to not attempt the surgery. So now we are at a place where the doctors say he will have to stya on the machines and be moved into a convalescent home. Where they hope he doens't catch an illness on his already trashed immunity system. The doctors feel at this point he may be there for the rest of his life unless he can get stronger and then they can try for the trach. I will let my brother know about the red cross and the other site to try and locate his blood relatives though if they are unsuccessful it will not matter since we will be here for him. I am so happy they aren't doing the surgery and yet crushed by the news he may never return home and that he could still die do to illness from the convalscent home. Now it all runs to the POA as to which place and such. I just pray he stays strong and determined and that he can get better and they can try again. Such crushing news all the way around to be sure. But, I guess we are on borrowed time so we will take the time we have left and be grateful for it. We jsut feel so helpless with the POA out of our hands. We can only hope he confers with Michael to find the best place for him or would be nice if he let Michael choose and then just tell them the location. But all will ahve to wait until his POA gets back from his trip!

    Thankn you all for your continued prayers and well wishes.

    Ginger you are amazing and thank you for giving me a tiny flame to light my hope with that he can still pull through this!

    Posted 2 years ago by Momma to 2 MaineCoons #

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    Is Eric conscious? Is he aware of his surroundings? If so, get a lawyer and a notary to go to the hospital now and communicate with him. If they feel he is mentally fit to make a decision, he can change his POA right then and there.

    If Eric does know who he is and where he is, it might be that his current POA doesn't even have any authority. Most POA and Durable Health POA forms say they are only in effect if the signer is unable to handle decisions. And they almost always have a second POA listed in cast the first one isn't available.

    Posted 2 years ago by CheetahBoysmommy #

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    [[[[Ange]]]]]

    Posted 2 years ago by Buttercup #

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    Continuing prayers and white light for you, Eric and all involved.

    Posted 2 years ago by GizzysAuntie #

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    CBM makes some very good points. I'm my dad's POA and my sister is the second. When he was in ICU I was mad as they were waiting on permission to give him blood. When I found that out I ripped them because my dad has all his mental faculties and could make his own decisions. Even if Eric isn't verbal, if he can comprehend and commicate in some way I would recommend the new POA be done or at least communicate what his wishes are. Is he able to write? Continued prayers for all involved.

    Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #

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    White light coming from Ireland to Eric too. RW, you didn't mention your situation when we all discussed things which made us unique on another recent thread. You are truly a uniquely strong soul, and I salute you. Hopefully Eric can take control of his life the way you have.

    Posted 2 years ago by eleniki #

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    Amen! I forgot to mention that. Wow, RW, what an inspiration. Bless you.

    Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #

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    Special prayers for Eric along with you & your family.

    Posted 2 years ago by jeankit #

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    I want to thank everyone for there wishes and thoughtfulness. I have passe don the information to my seocnd mom who will go over it with my brother later today. As of right now my phone is a tad tied up with insurance callers and the like. But perhaps this will help them as well.

    Not sure i have mentioned lately how amazing our TDK family is but I think it every day. You men and women are a strong force that helps every member in struggling times find the will and strength to push forward.

    Love ya All!

    Ange

    Posted 2 years ago by Momma to 2 MaineCoons #

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