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   I just got the call and I am devastated. She has had Alzheimers for the past 8 years or so. Unfortunately, due to living far away, I only got to visit her during 3 days at Christmas every year. When I was a kid we saw my grandparents much more often; probably a good 20 days out of the year. She was always so fun and so loving and took such good care of me and spoiled me like grandmas do.

   Now I'm so scared and full of so many regrets. I wish I found the time to see her more. I wish I told her I loved her more. I wish I got up there just one more time to hold her hand. During the visits the last few years, she did not remember my name or my face. However, if I held her hand she would instantly feel comforted and show love and I knew that even if she didn't know me, she at least knew I was safe. I hate that I'll never be there again to hold her hand and be with her. and what I hate the most is that I can't be at the hospital right now. My car got a flat tire on Sunday and we only have a donut on the car now and it could not make it that far. Plus I don't have the money for the gas. The best I can do is pray and be with her in spirit.

   My mom is driving there now to be with my grandma in her passing and be with my grandpa to help him through this hard time. My grandpa is such a strong amazing man who took care of her until the very last day and kept her in his house against the advice of others who thought she should go to a nursing home. He was there for his wife all the way through. I will update you all when I get to know more, but the doctors say its only a matter of time and they do not see her making it through the day. She is in what they call comfort care at the hospital. Her brain has been dying and she will not recover. Today is a very sad day. I don't know what to do or how to feel.

   I'll miss you grandma :(

   Posted 2 years ago by gini #

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   I'm sorry, Gini. You certainly don't need to feel guilty; your grandma obviously knew how much you loved her. Alzheimers is such a cruel disease; it takes our loved ones away from us long before they actually die. Your grandpa sounds amazing. Many hugs and prayers for you and your family.

   Posted 2 years ago by NNGM #

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   *HUGS*

   You and your family are in my prayers.

   *HUGS*

   Posted 2 years ago by owlwatcher_974 #

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   {{{Gini}}} I'm so sorry to hear this. As NNGM says, your grandmother knew how much you loved her. That doesn't make it easier to be far away, though.

   {{{Gini}}}

   Posted 2 years ago by Kilroy #

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   Oh Gini, I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

   Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #

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   {{{{Gini}}}} You and your family are in my prayers. Don't feel guilty for the time you didn't spend together, just cherish the times that you did.

   Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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   She always loved cats. Even when she didn't remember 90% of people anymore, every time I'd visit she'd be sure to let you know at least 10 or 20 times that "This is my cat Shadow. I've had him since he was this big!" and she'd hold up her hands to show you how small he was. Last time I visited I brought Taco along and he just sat in her lap and purred away for her.

   Posted 2 years ago by gini #

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   Awwwwwww. That is so sweet Gini. Your Grandma will always live on in you and your love for animals.

   Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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   I'm so sorry Gini,your Grandma knew you loved her and was proud of you. It was so nice of you to bring Taco for her to love on.

   Posted 2 years ago by Buttercup #

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    I am so sorry, Gini....I know of this well, as my Mom had Alzheimers and died a year and a half ago from it....it IS a very cruel disease. It is so heart wrenching to watch them decline and know you are powerless to help them! I am sending you my hugs and prayers, and know I understand what you are going through....God bless you, Gini.

    Posted 2 years ago by katthays #

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    My thoughts and prayers with you, Gini, and with your grandma. She knew your love and kindness and she will know when she has crossed to the other side. She will be whole again and she will know you came and you were with her. her heart knew and her soul knew... just her mind didn't. Peace to you.

    Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #

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    Praying God will comfort your heart, ginirosaru, and the hearts of all in your family. {{{Hugs}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by corzak #

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    Prayers of comfort Gini. And may your Grandma go in Peace. {{{HUGS}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by feral #

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    {{Gini}} {{Grandma}} Grandmas are special and she will live in your heart forever.

    Posted 2 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #

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    I'm so sorry *hugs*

    Posted 2 years ago by Arcalian #

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    Ohhh Gini!! I feel your heartache and am sending you Hugs 'n' Prayers. ((((Gini)))) Hold tight to your warm and wonderful memories. Your grandma held onto hers for as long as she possibly could and once she passes they will all come flooding back to her and she will smile over you with so much joy! You can always make her happy by being happy. It's what all grandmas want your their loved ones. ((((Gini))))

    Posted 2 years ago by Karenopa #

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    Gini, I'm very sorry to hear about your grandma. Please don't live in regret, but try to remember the good times you both had together. I know that's easier said than done.

    She sounds like such a wonderful person. I know you will miss her. We are all here for you. ((hugs)))

    And don't fret, there is no certain way to 'feel' or 'do'. You are sad, and that's normal.

    Much love,

    HM

    Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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    I'm so sorry Gini. Your Grandma knows how much you love her.

    Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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    (((Gini))) I'm so sorry. Your grandma sounds like such a sweet, special lady. Prayers for you and your family.

    Posted 2 years ago by GreatDane #

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    You and your family are in my prayers, Gini. {{{{hugs}}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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    ((Gini)) Honey, I am so sorry. I have been there with my mom passing. Try not to think about your regrets, just think of the happier times with her. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. You are loved and if you need us, we are here.

    Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #

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    I'm so sorry Gini... as for feelings, feel what you feel. There is no right or wrong. However, if you can curb the regrets you'll do better. You're grandma understands.... ((Gini))

    Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    Gini, I am so very sorry. My grandmother was also very special to me and I miss her. But please don't make yourself sick over regrets. Rather, focus on all of the wonderful times that you shared with your grandmother, and remember how much you loved her and she loved you. There is no need for regrets - she knew that you love her.

    Alzheimer's is a terrible, terrible disease that takes our loved ones away from us long before the actual passing. I hope that the memories that you carry in your heart throughout your life will be of your grandmother before she was lost to this illness.

    Many hugs and prayers.

    Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    {{{{{{{Gini}}}}}}} Your grandmother knows you love her, and that's a love that crosses every dimension: time, space, the universe.

    Posted 2 years ago by Vicki #

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    Oh Gini, I am so sorry. ((((Hugs))))) to you and your family.

    Posted 2 years ago by tinafishfrombirthplaceofElvis #

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    Aw, Gini! Please don't hold regrets from your time with Grandma. I can think of a notebook full of regrets I have from when my dad died. That is what comes to mind nearly 10 years after his death. It is just not a good place to be. Please remember the good times, that is what your grandma would want. Just remember the kittehs at the bridge are preparing a place for her in the next life. Oh how they will fill her lap with purrs. Hugs and prayers your way.

    Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #

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    prayers and hugs for your entire family

    Posted 2 years ago by CSBM #

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    Your Grandma would hate you to feel sorry that you didn't spend more time with her - she would regard ANY time you were able to be there as a wonderful gift. She knew/knows you love her and saw her as often as you could. She would probably tell you off, if she had all her faculties, for thinking of "wasting" money you can ill afford on travelling to see a body that doesn't really house the spirit of your grandma any more. Be pleased you knew a wonderful lady and that she loved you as much as you loved her.

    Posted 2 years ago by Pollys_Mum_in_UK_2605 #

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    Gini, I lost my only grandmother nearly 30 years ago and still experience an ache when I visit her grave. But then my brother and I look through my albums and "Do you remember when Granny raised rabbits?" or "Remember how she always made us clean every last bit of food from jars and bottles?" [because she grew up in the Depression era -- this is a habit that annoys my husband]or "Remember how those mulberries in the back yard stained everything?" For us, the sorrow is outdone by the good memories and the happy times. I pray that time will ease your sorrow and make your memories shine, too. {{{{Gini & family}}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by GizzysAuntie #

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    Gini, so sorry to hear about your Grandma. It's always hard to lose a grand parent as they give us a place in the past, living history. Get out all the photos you have and relive those occasions. It is difficult when you live some distance away from them and can't be there as often as you would like but I'm sure Grandma knew you loved her as much as she loved you. {{{hugs}}} and prayers for a gentle passing.

    Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

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