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   I've been at my dad's for a week now. I'm tired of being jammed into a corner, I miss my Lady, I'm sick of Chinese cooking. I want a job, I want my own place so bad I can taste it.

   Then, to top it off, in a moment of weakness, I signed up for Match.com. Had a guy respond to me. We were talking good, I thought we had hit it off. . . until he asked for a picture. I posted one to my profile, and he responded, "Thanks. I don't think we're a good match." I just want to go somewhere and cry. I know I'm fat. I know he said in his profile that he was looking for someone fit. I thought we could get past that though.

   I can haz hugs?

   Posted 2 years ago by Bellantara #

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   {{{Bellantara}}}

   Posted 2 years ago by Leeny #

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   {{{Bellantara}}} Lots of hugs from your friend...me!
   Leela sends leg rubs - she's really good at them. They are proven stress-reducers and will help you feel better.

   Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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   Sending hugs and special Hang in There Blessings...it will get better!

   Posted 2 years ago by jeankit #

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   Oh Bellantara.... my heart aches for you. Sending you HUGS galore, and positive energies to find employment so that you can, once again, be independent.. and most of all, wishing you to find happiness within yourself.

   Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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   I will pass you a virtual martini (or 2)...It must be difficult having to move back home, I remember staying at my parents years ago for a couple weeks...dad sent me back to my room to put a slip under my skirt!!! geeesh! It was a very heavy black skirt, mom even said he couldn't see through it he was just guessing I wasn't wearing one!!!

   Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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   ((Bella))
   I wish I had words that would take all the frustration and the hurt away. It's so hard for you right now and if there was a way to make it better I would. Hang in there friend. You are loved!!

   Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #

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   (((((Bellantara)))))

   Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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   Yes, you can haz many hugs from me and Kira (avatar, although she's grown-up now). Kira is the best of my kits for comforting me when I need it most. {{{Bellantara}}}

   Posted 2 years ago by corzak #

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    ((((((Bellantara))))))
    I'm so sorry honey.

    Posted 2 years ago by SugarBee #

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    You can haz lots of hugz! ((((((Bellantara)))))) Sorry things are trying for you. I really hope things get much better for you and that a job opportunity comes soon.

    Posted 2 years ago by SylMiaFelixMomma #

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    Here are tons of hugz [[[[[[[[[[[[Bellantara]]]]]]]]]]]
    Bella I started talking to some guy online and pretty much the same thing happened to me. Most of the time the guys asking for "fit" women are not fit at all. Too many people are too superficial these days. You'll find someone who values you for you.

    Posted 2 years ago by Buttercup #

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    (((Bella))) I'm so sorry! What a stupid, superficial guy - you don't need someone like that!
    You've got big hugs from me and prayers that this trying time for you will come to and end very soon. Take good care of yourself!

    Posted 2 years ago by GreatDane #

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    Sending you mucho hugs, Bella! You wouldn't want that guy anyway - if he can't appreciate you, he is obviously socially challenged. Not to mention being a jerk.

    Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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    {{{Bella}}} - here's looking forward to wonderful things in your life - a job, a new home, Lady - and a man who can really see you for who you are. It will happen.

    Posted 2 years ago by KapitiKats in NZ #

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    {{{HUGS}}} I had enough of those on-line dating sites with the losers. I didn't date for 3 years. Then I went to a singles dance, had to get through a couple losers there, then met my husband.

    Posted 2 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Raleigh, NC #

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    Thanks, y'all. I knew I shouldn't have done Match.com, but. . .I don't know anyone here but my dad, his wife, and her daughter. Dad's wife doesn't speak very much English, daughter isn't much better, and I just wanted to connect with somebody. And I did, we were getting along well until he saw my picture. : ( Gah. Where's the Ben & Jerry's.

    Posted 2 years ago by Bellantara #

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    Don't let the jerk get you down, Bellantara. He is passing up on a special woman. His loss!!! :)

    Is there a meal you are dying to have? Maybe you could offer to cook one night this week to add variety to the menu in your Dad's house. :)

    Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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    Hugs!!!!! Can you volunteer to help somewhere? That way you could meet new people and get out on your own for awhile.

    Posted 2 years ago by LadyKat of IA #

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    That really stinks... what a jerk. That is probablly really true what Buttercup said about those guys aren't fit themselves. He obvously has some major flaws himself. I constantly see these guys dressed like slobs and look like they just rolled out of bed(unshaven, hair not combed) walking around with these women that are all done up and trying to look nice. My partner and I call it caveman syndrome. I'd say he did you a favor, now you can find a nice guy.

    Good luck on the job search!

    Posted 2 years ago by ama58873 #

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    (((Bella))) My best suggestion for when you are in a new town and want to meet people is to join an organization or start volunteering. I did both when I moved 5 years ago. I wasn't looking for a date, I am married, but hubby and I were looking for friends/social group. A lady I met and I, with the help of a community calendar website, formed a 40+ social group. We don't do anything but meet twice a month at various restaurants in the area. We meet after work, have a drink and maybe something to eat. We are open to singles and marrieds. We get 30-50 people every time we meet. See if you can find a club in your area that centers around a hobby you like or a professional group and at least get out there and make some girlfriends. My friend Pooh signed up for match.com and experienced the same as you. We now refer to her emails as "freaks" of the day.

    Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #

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    that guy sounds like a jerk and i am glad you found out now.. what a creep.. i have alot of hugs for you !!!things will get better i promise ..you are in my prayers tonight and always ,,,,

    Posted 2 years ago by beth #

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    Oh ! What KYKAT said ! Go to meetup.com you can put in your zip code and search for things you are interested in. There are TONS of groups already set up.

    Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    Awwwww..{{{{Bella}}}}..Please stay away from those stinking online dating grps. I think you're beautiful just how you are and men shouldn't order their relationships by looks or size!!! What are women??? SHOES??? =(

    Posted 2 years ago by Karenopa #

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    {{{Bellantara}}} You can have as many hugs as you want, my friend, that guy was a jerk and he'll never know what he's missing! I second what KyKat said, volunteering (maybe at a shelter) really helped when I was unemployed and plus it means you can get your quota of kitty hugs while you and Lady are apart. Like KK, I wish you wonderful things, a fabulous new job and home, Lady back home with you and a good man. I know things will get better, it's the waiting that's so hard. {{{Bella}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by jcat #

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    (hugs bella) and I agree, stay off the dating sites. I am sorry for your bad connection, but remember, it was his choice not yours. If he is that hung up on a picture, he wasn't right for you. Look over your shoulder as you move in your daily day, he may be right behind you. (hugs and love to you) Mama Lynn

    Posted 2 years ago by Lynn from PA 6/8 #

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    Bella, you are a beautiful person, and I don't care what "he" thinks, he's shallow if he's going off some picture!........ dont' waste your time on idiots like him!..... I believe things happen for a reason, and in a reasonable time!...... trust yourself and your instincts!.... you're a smart lady and one worthy of respect!!!!.....

    Posted 2 years ago by AV #

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    Bell, don't let the jerks get you down. I'll have to email you the story I wrote about my experience with eHarmony. It was enough to make one embrace celibacy happily. I went back recently for a free weekend, and the same thing happened to me! I was grilled about my weight and how often I exercised. I found out the guy who grilled me had shaven ten years off of his age and was in no better shape then me, despite his 6 day a week workout and my lack thereof. I suggest Meetup.com. It is not a dating site, but you plug in your location and interests and find like-minded people around you. I joined a local book club on there and have met wonderful people who have enriched my life. Hang in there sweetie, this is just a season.

    Posted 2 years ago by Catwoman #

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    Way to go, Cw and good to see you again! You gave some stellar advice and hope you are finding new friends and enjoying their company. Love to the kids and you!

    Posted 2 years ago by Lynn from PA 6/8 #

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    Hi there Lynn! I keep turning up like a bad penny. :-) Glad to see you too! give my best to Kay. Glad to read on another thread that you are seeing your son soon.

    Posted 2 years ago by Catwoman #

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