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   i have an adopted cat she was 10 yrs old... 2 months ago we found out that she has oral cancer her sinus and oral cavity were open and it was really bad! we brought her to the vet but they said they cant do anything about it unless we want her to have surgery for $1500 but not sure if she gonna make it because she was too weak...she was having difficulty with eating & drinking also with defecating & urinating. vet told us its better to put her to sleep it was so hard for me so we waited 1 more month thinking that she might be ok soon but it got worse. so yesterday 09-26-09 we went to the place where they gonna put her to sleep before we put her in the cage she was rubbing her body to my legs and he was purring & while we were in the car she was crying & i was talking to her telling that shes not gonna feel pain anymore & when we were at the place i kissed her head & she just looked at me and she was purring & then thats it she was gone...it really breaks my heart til now! i cried my eyes out & i wasnt ashamed even though there was a lot of people in that place...i just miss her so bad! i remember when i first saw her looking for food in the trash, she was abandoned, & when she saw me she started following me to my apartment i felt so bad coz cats are not allowed to my place before. so the next day i bought some dry & wet food & everynight after work i always go & walk to the abandoned property ( where i put some small pillow & a fleece blanket ) just to feed her....then 2 yrs ago i got a place where cats allowed so i brought her home....

   i dont have any pictures bcoz my husband put it away for now coz i never stopped crying...my husband told me it wasnt my fault but i feel bad coz i put her to sleep, but he said its ok instead of seeing her in pain everyday & hearing her crying everynight....my brother said that im so stupid coz im crying & grieving about my cat but i dont care! i have another cat he's 8 weeks & he's sad too he was looking for her yesterday & today makes me more sad!

   im so sorry if this is too long...im just really sad & just wanna let it all out....

   sorry and thank you!

   Posted 2 years ago by Lhen<3 #

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   Oh Lhen, I am so incredibly sorry. Don't feel bad about making a long post. I am glad you have this forum to get it all out of your system.

   Its not stupid at all to grieve the loss of a cat. The kitty meant a lot to you, I can tell. What was her name?

   I know you blame yourself right now, but you have to know you did the right thing. I recently put my cat, Sid, down and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. But remind yourself of what a wonderful place your kitty is in now. Animals have a very special place in heaven. She is probably frolicking around in green pastures, chasing butterflies, and hitting up the all you can eat wet food bar. And she is looking over you now, and always will be.

   I am not sure if I dealt with my situation the right way or not, but I will tell you what I did. My grandmother lost her cat a month before we put Sid down. I had lots of kittens in my house, but I just wanted to see an adult cat. I decided to head over to the shelter and save an adult cat, because people almost never give them a chance. My mom told me about a cat that had lost his owner to old age that was at the pound so I went to meet him. I fell in love with him and adopted him for my lonely grandmother. After about a month, it wasn't working out and so now he lives with me.

   I know that Sid would have wanted me to save another kitty, just like we saved him. Barkely, my kitty, is very special to me, and I am glad I did what I did, even though it was on impulse. I will miss Sid forever.

   Sorry for the rambling. You will get better with time Lhen. In the meantime, please keep posting here and we will all help you through this.

   Posted 2 years ago by Court #

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   I am sorry for your loss--it is never easy to deal with the death of a beloved friend. I have been through that pain a few times. I hold my darling Sox, Basil, Menden, Sassy, Sam, and Murphy close in my heart. They knew I loved them and I know they loved me. Someday I pray that I will see them again--at a bridge in a meadow with warm sun and cool soft breeze.

   Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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   thank you so much! Her name is patches, its really hard & until now i still cry ...

   i miss her if only she could just stay more and spend time with me but i know she was really in pain. she knw that i loved her, & her purring everytime she sees me & rubbing her body to my legs i know she loved me.....i hope she's happy now im sad that she's not here with me but im happy that she's not in pain anymore....

   Patches <3 -- mom loves u a lot it sounds weird but i know ur watching us me & lil Lazy =)

   Posted 2 years ago by Lhen<3 #

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   Oh Lhen I am so sorry. This is little Lazy's sister isn't it? I remember you telling us about the little guy and keeping the fan on for him. He's so gorgeous - I just checked out his catster page. You are such a good mom to your kitties, this is so sad. I know EXACTLY how sad you are - many many of us here do know your complete heart-brokenness. She had a good life even though it was too short, and she know so well how much you loved her. Poor patches - she is not in pain anymore. She is resting and playing happily at the bridge now and she remembers all the love and care you gave her.

   Posted 2 years ago by eleniki #

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   Lhen,
   *A furry calico cat carefully approaches. A gentle rumbling purr announces her arrival, but she waits for a moment to avoid startling you as it is obvious she is a Rainbow Bridge kitty (one who has left this world and now resides in the meadow just this side of heaven). C.C., who has made this journey many times to deliver messages to people who are missing their babies, softly makes her over to you and gently climbs up into your lap. The purring cat's green eyes gaze softly into yours as she offers you a post card. On the front of the post card is a picture of a beautiful meadow. A rainbow stretches across the crystal blue sky bringing out the soft green color of the grass below. It is a beautiful, peaceful image. On the back of the post card is a single paw print made by Patches. C.C. meows softly trying convey the message Patches wanted her to give you - that she is okay, she is alive and well in a beautiful place and she loves you. After giving you the card and the message, the furry calico cat jumps down and slowly fades away.*

   Posted 2 years ago by owlwatcher_974 #

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   Lhen, take the time you need to grieve. Cry and cry. I've lost two beloved cats in little more than a year, so I know the desolation of it. I lost Cloud July 24, 2008 to Chronic Renal Failure; I lost his "brother," Salem, to cancer only last August 3. I found a Yahoo group helpful, called Angel on My Shoulders. It's for people who are grieving the loss of cats. You can find it through Yahoo Groups. Blessings to you. Gradually your sadness will lessen, and you will remember the joyful times you had with your friend. She knows you loved her and did what you had to do. Sometimes the hardest gift to give is releasing our friends from their bodies when they are in pain and there is no hope of recovery.

   Posted 2 years ago by Mojo #

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   Owlwatcher! that really made me cry but made me happy at the same time....thank you so much! while i was crying my lil Lazy jumped on the table & sat n front of my computer & was staring at me.... i was thinking maybe Lazy knws that patches is ok now i dont know sounds like im crazy.....oh well i guess....

   thank you so much again!

   Mojo, thank you so much too.... thats what i do cry and cry until i get tired of crying, its hard to keep it to myself & showing to my family that it was nothing.....i'll check the site that u gave me....thank you!

   Soxsmom, thank you again....u were right atleast she's not in pain anymore =)

   Posted 2 years ago by Lhen<3 #

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   You will never forget Patches--she will always live in your heart and someday she will see you again. In the meantime you know that she isn't in pain any longer.

   Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    Lhen you gave and showed Patches so much love, and that's something not every cat is lucky enough to experience. And then you did the hardest thing you've ever had to do, but the kindest thing for Patches - one last act of love. Grieve, but don't regret {{{hugs}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #

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    I'm sorry you came to the end of your journey with Patches yesterday, Lhen. You showed her great kindness in letting her go and releasing her from her pain. There was no way she would have gotten better. We always second guess ourselves when that time comes, but somehow our cats tell us it's time to go. You might find comfort in a poem called The Rainbow Bridge. You can find it here: http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/rainbowb.htm

    Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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    I had a Patches, too a calico and she had sooooo much purrsonality. She went to the bridge nine years ago and I tear up thinking about her right now. I still miss her and my sweet Spooky who went to the bridge eleven years ago and last Dec my sweet Tess made the trip. They are a part of our lives and we love them so much I think it would be strange not to grieve It gets better and helps knowing they aren't sick or in pain but you will always miss her but giving love to another kitty is good way to deal with it

    Posted 2 years ago by Cat talk rules #

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    "time heals all wounds". i am much calmer about Velvet's passing 15 days ago, but i still miss her very much. i have overcome my doubts about having her PTS. i asked myself many times after it was done if i did it because i was selfish, was i tired of taking care of a sick kitty for 6 months, that every downhill drop was like a stab in my heart, that i couldn't deal with the stress. i shall always miss her, but Spice is healing my heart with her purrs...

    Posted 2 years ago by CSBM #

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    The time you shared was a blessing for both. We do not know how long we have together. Be thankful for those monthes and continue in hope that someday you will meet up with your special kit in a Purrfect world (at the Rainbow Bridge)!

    Posted 2 years ago by jeankit #

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    eliniki, madcat, kitten whisperer, cat talk, court, cheri & jeankit THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! im a little bit ok now im just trying not to look at her pictures for now coz it makes me cry so much....i know its kinda crazy that im like this bcoz of my cat but its just that im really attached to her....

    so yah thank you so much!!!

    lazy is driving me crazy & that makes me busy everyday ... he's chewing everything in our house... =|

    Posted 2 years ago by Lhen<3 #

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    I am so sorry for your loss......in time it gets better. It's been a month since I lost my little guy and I have better days now than in the beginning, but there's at least one or two times a day where I just stop and get an awful, sick feeling and the tears well up. You loved Patches and did all that you could, but in the end, sometimes the letting go is the best thing we can do.....giving her back to God ensured that she will always be safe, warm, loved, and healthy.

    Posted 2 years ago by IronMaiden #

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