Got a call from my youngests school this morning while I was at work. Had to leave right then to speak with the Principal. Youngest was upset with his teacher and called her "a big fat jerk" and wrote on his refocus paper that he wished everyone would just die. Needless to say he has been suspended from school until next Wednesday.
I am at my wits end here. Feel like the worlds worst Mom. What can I do? What type of punishment do you think is suitable? I need advice. PLEASE!
DM
At this point, Daisy, I'd look for counseling rather than thinking about punishment. You and your family have been through a lot, and for a child to act out to this extent is often evidence of a need for help. The fact that he put in writing that "he wished everyone would just die" particularly concerns me. Talk to your pediatrician or family doctor, if you've found one, or ask another parent for a referral if you haven't. Tell the doctor what happened and ask for a referral to a good child therapist.
You are not a bad mom. This isn't your fault. Just concentrate on helping your child.
DM, I completely agree with Leeny. He doesn't need punishment - he needs help and is calling out for it. I would seek a referral to a counselor. Here in my city we have an organization called Centers for Families and Children. They have pediatric counselors and there is never a fee. If you aren't certain what services are available where you are, you could call the United Way to inquire.
Posted 2 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
I have to concur with Leeny and WWM. This is a cry out for some help. He has been through so much and needs to vent to someone that is not related. Does the school have a counselor that can refer you to someone or can they help? I know money is super tight so explore the options for low cost to free help. ((DM))
You are not a horrible mom, just circumstances have happened that he needs some help with.
Posted 2 years ago by cricketsmama #
Yep - I'm in agreement with the above. He's crying out for help. I don't recall his age, but there are play-therapists who can help those too young to be able to express the 'why' behind their actions.
Just a 'this may make you feel better' note: My grandson, in 1st grade, called the teacher a b**ch... and kicked her. Yep... he had some issues to resolve. He's in 3dr grade now and doing better. :)
Sending you prayers. The first place to start is to talk to your son and ask him why he is feeling that way. Let him know that you are concerned and love him and want to help him be happy. Let him know that you are on his side and you will all get through this together. Involve his brother in the conversation as well. Do seek out what free or low cost services are available and if they also offer family counseling so that all of you can have some sessions. You have been through some traumatic and stressful times in the last couple of years.
Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #
DM...I wasn't blessed w/kids in my life so I really can't say how I would respond in your circumstance but, I do know that,your son lashing out like that sure came quickly after the 'episode' between you & your sister. Could he have gotten stressed out after your family feud? It might be a good idea for you & sis to get some counseling as well
DM I have been called much worse. There is normally a much bigger issue going on. Ask for a counselor and a behavior contract. It will help him to cope with his emotions. If he is frustrated with his teacher, and he has it in his contract to leave the room and go to a designated area, he can use that instead of blowing up at the teacher. He needs to know that what he did is inappropriate, but he needs immediate assistance and possibly anger management. Please remember it is really hard to deal with emotions at his age--it gets easier as he gets older.
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