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i think i failed my physical - cheri

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  1. its looks like i failed part of the test, the part i was sure i would ace. the psych dr. is calling me mentally unstable and therefore unable to do my job at the present. this was before even half of his half of the test was done. i did pass the memory/cocentration test where he gives you nine letter and numbers and you must recite them backward. or recite the numbers first from low to high and then take the letters and do the same, he says i have too much on my plate at this time because of my mom and dad and that i need to have a private psych doctor, see him, stabilize my life my life and when he feels i'm ready, i go back up to Albany for more testing. I did not sleep well last night - got only 4 hours sleep last night. i went up to Cohoes yesterday afternoon to get reasy for today.

    he pretty much agrees that i need to seperate from my parents, yet i am going to need to ask them to supplement my income soon as i am almost completely tapped out. i can't think of where i can borrow more money to live modestly on, i have maybe 2.5 months of money left if i play it really tight. i make too much money for welfare or food stamps...

    on the other hand i may have just passed the medical part with the medical doctor.. he is fine with the wound on the hip not healed yet. he says it's well on its way and to follow the wound care center's recommendtions. he i think is comfortable with the progress i have mad with the bowel. it is not solved, but is well managed. he would like to see a lower A1C blood suger, but my doctor and he and i realizes it's a work in wogress. and i need mre leg/foot stability work, which i will get a 2 x 6 and some poles as my first workout equipment.

    the only good thing about today is being loved by Spice. cat fur does soak up human tears...

    Posted 2 years ago by CSBM #

  2. i'm so sorry you had a rough time with the psych part of your test .. you need to get away from your mom and dad .. they are really adding stressors to you that don't need. i'm sorry you have to ask them for money , i wish you could just break free from them. honey it will all work out, i promise... in good news you passed the medical part .. that is good news,, you are always in my prayers and thoughts.. i am sending you hugs and white light of healing headed your way.. yes spice loves you .. she probably wondered where you were.. did she run to you when you walked through the door? what is spice's middle name? i know velvet's was rose what is spice's? (((((cheri and spice)))))) ...

    Posted 2 years ago by beth #

  3. i don't know. i'll have to ask her some day...

    Posted 2 years ago by CSBM #

  4. Cheri, think about what you would do about money if your parents were no longer around. Then, try putting that plan into action if at all possible. If you ask them for money, it's going to create a vicious cycle: the money binds you to them, they mess up your life, because they mess up your life you can't go back to work, you need more money, and on and on and on.

    I'm not sure what the examiner thinks that having a bad relationship with your parents has to do with your job, anyway? Until they got cured of their mental illnesses, I had miserable relationships with my parents, but that never disqualified me from working.

    Posted 2 years ago by Leeny #

  5. Cheri,

    I agree with Leeny - what do your parents have to do with this? Who among us doesn't have some sort of problems with our family members? The issue isn't whether you have a 'perfect' home relationship, it's whether you can do the job you are trained for.

    I assume you are collecting some sort of disability? If not, shouldn't you be? Or is there other monetary help you should be entitled to if your employer's doctors deem you "not able to work".

    Don't let these Bozos put you in a box. People who go berserk at work and shoot their coworkers are unstable. People who have stress because of their personal lives aren't unstable, they are just human.

    Posted 2 years ago by CheetahBoysmommy #

  6. I too agree with Leeny on what does your relationship with your parents have to do with your job? Do they think you will make mistakes because they think your mind is not able to stay on your job? If you fail that part of the physical, can you appeal the decision and ask for second opinion? Definitely need to ask the doctor a much more detail explanation on how the doctor thinks your relationship affects your job. I am very glad to hear your health part passed. Your hard work is paying off. Hopefully you can qualify for some disability benefits as your taxes have paid for some. Might look into a possible paid medical leave of absense. Send some hugs to you Cheri.

    Posted 2 years ago by SylMiaFelixMomma #

  7. Sending big {{{hugs}}} for you Cheri.

    Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

  8. You definitely had quite a day Cheri. Sending you lots of Prayers and Hugs. {{{{Cheri}}}}

    Posted 2 years ago by Karenopa #

  9. The only thing I can think of that might make your relationship with your parents relevant to your ability to do your job is if your stress has gotten to the point of being debilitating. If it is so distracting that you can't focus on what you need to do at work, it might impact your job performance. I think the doc's suggestion that you see a counselor would be helpful to you no matter what. Good luck with this, Cheri. I know it must be stressful to be worrying about whether you can get back to work before your savings run out. You are in my prayers.

    Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

  10. Sending many many hugs your way Cheri.

    Posted 2 years ago by daisy mew #

  11. well i am not going to mope around and feel pity for myself. i am going to tackle these problems head on, get them solved, and get back to work somehow, someday...

    Posted 2 years ago by CSBM #

  12. Good on you, Cheri, this is a blow but I know you can deal with it. Many, many {{{HUGS}}} and we are all pulling for you.

    Posted 2 years ago by jcat #

  13. Many many hugs your way! What a bummer! Prayers for you and Miss Spice. Hang in there friend!

    Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #

  14. You hang in there Cheri, I know you will come out of this stronger. Sending prayers and hugs to you and Spice.

    Posted 2 years ago by Lynn from PA 6/8 #

  15. Special +Prayers & TLC+ coming your way. This is another step toward healing and recovery. May you feel stronger and your situation improve as you progress to the next step.

    Posted 2 years ago by jeankit #

  16. bump

    Posted 2 years ago by CSBM #

  17. Are you tackling things? You must move forward!

    Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

  18. one of the first things i will be starting tonight will be to have more "normal" wake sleep patterns. i'm going to bed at 10 tonight and getting up at 7 am - no naps during the day...

    Posted 2 years ago by CSBM #

  19. (((Cheri))). I hope you can find a counselor that can help you find a way with dealing with your parental situation and who will advocate for you with the state guy. I think if you can determine your course of action with your parents and have a clear plan it will help.

    Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #

  20. i'm going to try to see if i can find my counselor that i had a year ago. the building he was in failed inspection and the building was shut down...

    Posted 2 years ago by CSBM #


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