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    nah...i dont dissaprove of intterracial marraige if both are from western culture...colour doesn't matter because morals r similar. but i do dissaprove of western girls who marry eastern guys due to the natural nature that girels are emotionally driven to fulfill their fantasies and seek attention and approval different than guys. and eastern guys are more desperate to look for those gullible enough to fall for their act because they are looking for other things like easy greencards and ways to escape theiur families undecected (read cheating their wives). it's not so much culture as it is behaviour which is ingrained naturally. that was the basic point.

    lol@ vicki...yea crazy na?

    Posted 2 years ago by Nirmal #

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    Because I was brought up way differently than most people, I have never had a problem with interracial marriage. When you grow up an Armed Forces brat, you are surrounded with people who are different than you are. It's not like a regular life where you usually hang around with/live with people who look just like you. So, because I was brought up in so much diversity (before diversity became a buzz word), people of other cultures never made me bat an eye.

    Also, I have to thank my mother and father, who were both southern and faced some pretty terrible things at a young age. My mom's dad was Mexican, and her mom was black/Native American. Eventually when my mom was about 6 or 7, my grandfather was deported back to Mexico because the marriage was illegal. My mother never held any bitterness in her heart towards the people responsible - or if she did, never did she pass any of that onto her kids. She knew what could happen - because it happened to her and she lost her dad over it.

    My father's story is even a little sadder. His grandfather (my great grandfather) was lynched in Mississippi because he was married to a white woman. My father wasn't born when this happened, but because of my family's dogged determination to pass our history from generation to generation, of course I found out about it. The paternal side of his family also lost some relatives in Rosewood. It's just horrible all the way around.

    Each could have passed some sort of vitriol on to myself and my siblings, but that never happened. I never heard one racial slur, one put down, no anything. My parents didn't even curse in front of us and never ever did I hear them utter the dreaded 'n' word.

    I myself have had only a couple of lasting relationships, and none of those guys were black. I was married to a Mexican, engaged to a white guy and now I'm with the Fink, who's - in his own words - a backsliding Jew. Then again, whenever I fill out a questionnaire and it asks for race I always put 'other', because my whole family is mixed all to hell anyway. (African, French, Native American, Hispanic) I rather like that.

    Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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    HM, you grew up in a healthy family; many of us are not so lucky, but we have to either break through or break apart. I chose to break through, and I have never looked back. My mother is dark chocolate, and I am more butterscotch in skin tone. My mother kinda went off the deep end when she found out my preference for vanilla men, going so far as to chase the only man I ever was deeply in love with away (she tried to kill him, but then she claimed the gun she brought with her wasn't loaded). The point is that toxic people don't need an excuse to spread toxin, but they'll find the stupidest excuses to do so. I will not speak to my mother unless and until she removes the toxin from her spirit and realizes we are all human and have come into the world through the same means, no matter how we were conceived.

    Posted 2 years ago by Vicki #

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    That's neat, Vicki, giving people flavors: dark chocolate, butterscotch, vanilla.

    That JP did resign, I think it was sometime last week?

    Posted 2 years ago by Leeny #

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    HM, You have to be so proud of your parents. What amazing character and wisdom you were surrounded by. Between yourself and your siblings many, many lives will be touched by your parents wisdom.

    Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    Vicki - the thread title says it all: idiots in the news

    Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #

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    2B, I am very proud of my parents for the way I was raised. They really did a good job - not because I turned out the way that I did, but because they cared enough to raise me the way they did in the first place. Hope that made sense.

    Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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    It made perfect sense. I believe that you possess those qualities as well, they are rare these days.

    Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    Bless them for that, HM! Only wish there were more like them, the world would be a better place.

    Posted 2 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Raleigh, NC #

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    Huddy hon, in your case it's a shame the way things worked out. and it wasn't your family's fault for that it was the law's side that held their prejudices. also, i too always try to put other, but because im pale enough, even though my facial features show diversity, they always put me as white and i hate it. i hate it because they r hiding who i am and i dont want this forced on me.

    Posted 2 years ago by Nirmal #

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    I taught my kids to put down the following answers when asked these questions:

    Race - write in "human"
    Color - write in "always in the lines"
    Sex - write in "still too young"

    Needless to say, I got a few phone calls from their schools, but eventually the schools figured out that they were wasting their breath. I assume someone in the administration completed the forms for them, because my kids (40 and 43) still use those answers.

    Posted 2 years ago by CheetahBoysmommy #

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    LOL @ CBM!! I love those answers !!!!

    Posted 2 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    Race - No, thanks, im too tired to run and i have athsma.
    Color - yes, as many as possible, i'm an artist.
    Sex - yes please with a cup of coffee.

    :) you know, i love how we can all share our thoughts and feelings here, and it's a healthy enviroment. we have some different view, but we agree on alot of stuff...even on this tipic, and we have fun. we rock!~

    Posted 2 years ago by Nirmal #

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    CBM, do they still write in "still too young" at 40 and 43?

    Posted 2 years ago by Leeny #

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    Leeny! LOL

    One of the few TV reality programs that I enjoy watching is The Amazing Race. Do any of you watch it? One of the couples on the show right now is an inter-racial couple (Brian is white, his wife Ericka is black and was Miss America 2004). At one point they said that they were competing together partly to prove to her mother that they can work as a team, since she hates their marriage. Brian said that his mother-in-law won't even call him by his name. That just made me sad. I come from a mixed race family myself so I have a hard time understanding why it is so difficult for some people to accept.

    Posted 2 years ago by NNGM #

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    NNGM....thats wierd......that's what i don't get.....the only difference between them is skin colour, they're basically same culture, same morals, same ways of life, etc....maybe a few differences way back, but not too different. im almost curious to see that show. im really sick of most of the reality shows.....except for those house renovation ones where they switch ppl's houses n make over each other's place...n iron chef......

    Posted 2 years ago by Nirmal #

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    Leeny, they probably write "too darn tired". The eldest has three teenage boys and the youngest has a three year old and a full time job.

    Posted 2 years ago by CheetahBoysmommy #

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    Nirmal, I'm not sure how long you've been here or if you were born here, but to a lot of people it makes a VERY big difference. It's a big 'only'. Unfortunately.

    Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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    I must admit my family (fathers side and not including parents or siblings)surprised me a few years back; I had often wondered what their reactions would be when the color barrier was broken. I'm sure it has been broken many times in the past,just not talked about. Two years ago my niece gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. She had told the family that her and the father decided that they were not getting married or even live together, but they would both take care of the child. They had already stopped seeing each other when she found out she was expecting. My family accepted this as a wise choice; after giving birth (only a few of us knew the father was black) she proudly sent out birth announcements. Much to my very pleasant surprise the gifts and well wishes poured in from every far corner of the family. Not one made any issue at all of the mix race. We are all very proud to see that our family has stepped up and stepped beyond the small minded attitude that many once had.

    Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    Aww 2B, what an awesome and heartwarming story!! Ahlurveyew!!

    Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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    My RFP and his wife have custody of their biracial grandchild (her single mom has a chronic illness and can't take care of her), and I've never heard of her not being accepted for who she is. As far as I can tell, she's an outgoing, well-adjusted child.

    Posted 2 years ago by Leeny #

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    yea i came here when i was 3. but in uk its just as bad in many ways.....it's a shame that we can't learn respect for others and promote the right things.

    @ 2 b thats great that they didnt seem upset...though if you don't mind my saying there should have been some kind of guidance to have taught them both btter than to produce a child and not wish to spend their life together. this could be potentially tragic to the child later.

    @ leeny i feel for that child. it makes you want to run up to them and hug them and say there r people who care about u.

    even for me growing up....most of my family looked the same...except for my grandad and 1 uncle. i used to have alot of questions and concerns, and always felt a little different. when i found out about our heritage mix (my grandad's mum being india indian n his father being white polish man) - after i got married, it was interesting. it made me have to choose a new journey. do i continue to be who i was raised...which was a very insecure, often gullible and ignorant person, or do i take that step and do a 360? i chose the latter which to some was a surprise. but despite some tears n bloodshed, overall it has been a great thing, one that has made me a better person n i hope will continue to make me one. on another note, one of the local dollar stores i go to sumtimes is run by an indian guy and his wife who is morroccan. again these are also technically sort of interracial, but the cultures are so similar, they make a great pair and have a daughter whos at the store with them. she's a lovely young lady. i wish it wouldn't be so much a matter of skin colour as it would be morals. micheal caine is married to an indian woman, and and they have a good bond.

    Posted 2 years ago by Nirmal #

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    Ok I do have to chime in here, my kids always came up with the 'other' answers to these questions. Most about the same as those expressed above, but the best was when the school admin folks got a bit upset with my son's answer for
    Sex - Not allowed, my Mom said so and maybe by the time I am 30 if ever!
    Race - was always 'human'
    Color - why yes pls, out of the 64 Crayola box pls; except for Sarah who would just reply, 'why does it matter, I am Sarah!'

    Posted 2 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #

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    lmao i love that deb! brilliant!

    Posted 2 years ago by Nirmal #

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