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   So I've got two gripes, about two cats: the kitten for starters, doesn't really come to me. Most times when I try to reach for her she runs away (I don't make sudden movements or anything like that, and I try to be lower to the ground) or when I get her, she makes a little whine sound. Is she saying "don't touch me?" or is she just being a kitten?

   And the mom..now...I just discovered that she just started going into heat, but it's only exasperated her behavior. My cat is a "grunter". She doesn't meow, she just utters a little growl/grunt. But after awhile she started making these really awful (and sometimes funny) guttoral sounds; most sound like actual meows, while others are so odd sounding--to top it off, it seems like a great effort to produce even a normal meow. Is THAT normal? Like is she having trouble making anything besides a grunt or what? And since she's in heat, she's making these sounds all the time now...plus, she keeps meowing at the dressers (where her kittens usually sleep) like she can't find them, even when I point them out to her, not three feet away on the floor. What's up with her?

   Posted 4 weeks ago by Tobert #

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   Being in heat will cause her to make different noises and for most of the time until she is out of heat. Are you going to have her spayed when she is done weaning the kitten, that would help a lot. As for the different meow, cats are just like people, they all have different voices and sounds. The kitten may just be shy, try sitting on the floor and letting the kitten some to you. She may never be a 'lap' kitty (again like humans, some just don't like the touchy feely stuff) but she may choose to admire you from a distance.

   I am sure that others can offer much better advice than I, welcome to TDK.

   Posted 4 weeks ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #

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   Eventually the mom will get spayed, granting we can find a cost efficient way to do it. And I just think she's weird.

   It would be unfortunate and a little disappointing if the kitten we kept didn't turn out to be as affectionate as we'd like because that's one of the reasons we wanted a cat, in hopes it would be a sort of 'lap-cat'. I made the difficult choice between two of the three kittens but ended up saying good-bye to the one I'm most positive will become a lap cat for the one I just can't help but love and adore (her expression is just too adorable!) But, maybe once her sisters are in new homes and its just us two humans, her, and her mom, she'll open up a bit more.

   I've also read that littermates tend to bond closer to each other than they do with family members...will the same be true with a mother/daughter? If we keep them together, will they bond with one another but not so much with us?

   Posted 4 weeks ago by Tobert #

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   Bump for other TDKers.

   Posted 3 weeks ago by jcat #

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   Hi Tobert. They say that you can really establish an affectionate nature in a kitten by lots of play and cuddling at an early age, so you can work with your baby there. Even if she seems a little distant now, you can turn that around with inventive play, so she will get excited to see you, and when you have tired her out, she will allow you to pet and cuddle her. Likewise the mother, as she is still so young. It's funny that she isn't super-affectionate now she's in heat. But you can encourage her the same way. Don't actively try to cuddle - do it indirectly with play stimulation, and hopefully after a while, you'll find that they seek you out. My two girls find me in whatever part of the house I'm in, and use my lap as a stepping pad for my desk, or the couch, or the bathroom sink or wherever, then they sit on whatever I'm working on and generally make their presence felt. If you haven't had your cat and kitten very long, it may take a while longer. Be patient, it always pays off with cats. Another idea is, if you are leaving food out for them so they can graze whenever they feel like it, stop that, and just feed them at certain times of the day, so you create anticipation and affection that way. Wet food is best for this - my girls headbump me and are little love-balls at meal-time!

   Posted 3 weeks ago by eleniki #

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   I adopted a grown mother/daughter pair of Persians. The former owner said they were not affectionate and she didn't want them anymore. They turned out to be the most affectionate cats. The daughter slept by my head every night. My Patches was never a lap cat until she was 3 years old--now she fights Sheba for it!

   Posted 3 weeks ago by Sheba's Mom in Phx, AZ #

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