{{{LEENY}}}, {{{VICKI}}} stay strong, you are both wonderful women who deserve the best.
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Leeny & Vicki, Stay strong and keep your own dreams for yourself and put yourself first, you both deserve the very best. Also Vicki, I wonder if St. Johns Wort would help you, I have never used it myself so before you try it please ask you pharmacist. (((HUGS))) to both of you.
Posted 2 years ago by BoogerMercurysMama #
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People can change, especially if they realize the game is up, no one around left to fool, and nasty actions have nasty consequences.
Learning those three lessons are truly life-changing.
Certain behaviors in a husband can be endured by a wife, but not all. By indicating your tolerance levels and re-drawing the boundary lines, Leeny, you've given him a very clear indication of expectations. You've also set a level of competence that H must adhere to, or H must leave.
And if he doesn't keep his end of the bargain, wave bye-bye.
My opinion is that miracles happen, prayers are answered, etc. But give yourself time to make sure that this isn't a case of rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.
And another opinion: BRAVA! You are magnificent!
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Yesterday H told me that staying in the second bedroom with the TV all the time is making him feel bad. I told him that was a very good sign; if he were happy under those conditions, I'd be concerned. At his next appointment with his therapist, he's going to talk about this obsession with television. Nothing but that obsession is making him stay back there.
He just called me to get the telephone number of the place where we'd like to have his last four teeth removed and where he's going to get his dentures. Because of his speech difficulties, I may have to call myself, but at least he is taking the initiative.
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I promised NNGM the story of the Great Sewage Flood. This is it.
Several years ago, the sewer pipes connected to our duplex were clogged with roots. (The pipes were replaced after this incident.) This caused periodic backups in the residences. Roto-Rooter would come and clean out the pipes, and that would control it until more roots grew.
One night, though, the problem became more severe than usual. The other side of the duplex was flooded with sewage to a depth of a couple of inches. The young couple living there had to go live with a nearby relative for a couple of weeks while the plumbing problem was fixed and the landlord tore out the carpet, scrubbed everything down with bleach, and had new carpet installed. Our side did not get flooded, but of course we couldn't use the plumbing and had to leave.
Because we had no one with whom to stay, we had to go to a hotel. On that night, the only thing I did was drive the car. H got on the phone (he must have used directory assistance because I don't remember even looking up phone numbers) and called several hotels/motels. He found out which ones accepted pets and got their rates. He chose one and made a reservation. He packed everything that he, I, Katie, and Buttercup (our kitties at the time) would need for several days' stay. He loaded the car, and I believe he got Katie and Buttercup into their carriers and loaded them, too. Then it was my turn to make my contribution: driving from home to the hotel. When we got there, H took the cats to the room and I stayed with them in the bathroom while he unloaded the car. (I'll always remember Katie climbing up on the bed when I let her out of the bathroom, walking to the head, and flopping down comfortably between the pillows as if she owned it.)
This shows what H is capable of doing when he wants to do it.
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