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   Now i didn't think it was that hard; and given the "replay all" war we had back the beginning of the year where it was agreed "replay all" was NOT a good way to address unwanted emails...it would seem there are still some people who think it is.

   Why would it be so hard to simply (politely BTW) ask the sender of the email to not send you these such emails, remove you from their contacts etc.? Look at the alernitive...I sent that email to more then just TDK "family"; i sent it to my 97 year old grandmother, who just learned how to use email and is now scared to use it again because people she doesn't know have some how "stolen" her email address. I sent it to my brother in Falusia, who gets a total of 9 minutes a week to check his email and respond to his loved ones. Instead of being able to respond he is sifting through emails of people he doesn't know and now doesn't get to reply to his wife for another week.

   I understand and respect everyones religious views...it was not meant to "shove religion down your throat"..it was about a Christmas card to a company who wishes to remove religion from the meaning. I didn't mean to offend anyone...

   NO "snopes" is not the tell all of what is right and what is fake. If you read snopes you would see what they are saying is FALSE is that 2 tons of Christmas cheer would not clog up their mail room...they also stated they did not play a part in a law suit to remove religion from the holiday....no where in my email did it say they were a part of any law suite.

   With that being said...why would be it SO hard, if you disagree, don't like, or don't care for an email/person to ask THAT person as opposed to starting this "reply all" war we all disagreed some months ago was distasteful to begin with?

   Posted 2 years ago by Hizlilbrat #

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   HB, We did agree not to "reply all" when replying only to the sender. If it is important to reply, do so only to the sender who the comment is meant for, or just delete. Sorry your grandmother was made uneasy and your brother had no time for his family. Maybe you can show your grandmother how to "block sender" so she can stop unwanted emails.

   Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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   I have no idea what you are talking about. I take it that you sent and email and someone is not happy about it and used the reply all button. I wan't on that email list obviously so I do not know what is happening. I am surely hoping that there are no TDK family members that are getting stressed over an email. If there is a problem please say what the issue is so that it can be resolved quickly. This is the season that feelings are out of whack--Christmas isn't the happiest time of year for many. Please lets handle issues quickly with out hurting each other as adults.

   Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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   That was my point SM, but instead of addressing the issues about not being religious and the "CHRISTmas" card email being offensive...once again there was a need for "reply all" when it could have been asked directly of me..i did not see the need for the reply all, clogging up people's mail boxes who are not even a part of TDK.

   2B, My Gran lives in Nebraska(I'm on Oklahoma) and it is so very hard to explain things to her. Like i said she is 97, lol but i think if i can talk her in to giving me the password i am going to set it up where she only receives emails from her "contacts".

   Posted 2 years ago by Hizlilbrat #

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   Wow...and the names you get called for simply doing as someone asked you to do......

   Posted 2 years ago by Hizlilbrat #

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   I never saw this email so I am obviously not on your list so I can not speak to the email itself. As for the reply all perhaps this is an opportunity for you to contact that specific person that used the reply all button and remind them that to get ahold of you to just email you. I certainly understand having an elderly grandmother that gets concerned about people having their email address. For many years now elderly people have warned because they are the largest victims of internet scams. It is hard to explain that. I make a seperate email to my grandma and my Dad. That helps them both have piece of mind and is easy for me to do to take care of them. As for the person stationed over seas. I was a military wife for over 20 years. Those precious moments that they are allowed to answer email or make a 3 minute call are worth more than words can say. The day they came to my door--the commander and his group I knew that it was bad--normally signals a death call. I was told that his condition was unknown that his bus had been attacked and they had no idea of anyones condition. I waited 2 weeks to hear he was in a hospital and the worse he had was a few stitches and food poisoning. I have been there and am a card carrying member of the military spouse club. Again when I emailed him I never had anyone elses email address with him. It was easier for me to do that. I agree this is very upsetting to you. Please contact the person that hit reply all and let them see this post. Perhaps they don't even understand the trouble that they caused.

   Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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   Who in the world is calling you names? Are you sure this is a TDK member? This is very distressing.

   Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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   Yeah it is a TDK member...one who has always been fairly nice to me...and i did contact both of them directly respecting their wishes and got called "a sh**" by one and got told by the other "i wouldn't have to use reply all of you wouldn't send these emails that weren't checked" with the indecation she had no intentions of stopping.

   This is crazy...it seems like every time i try and come back here B.S. starts all over again and the claws come out(no pun intended...ok maybe a little) by people who had previously said they had no problem with me participating on TDK.

   I can send you the org. email if you would like SM, i did not realize i did not have your email address.

   Posted 2 years ago by Hizlilbrat #

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   Sorry to see you go through this, HLB. I've occassionaly used reply all but only when responding to things like the bucket list email, etc. If I think something is an urban legend I now address with the sender and no one else. if something offends me because of my beliefs I just delete it. No harm to anyone. I try to live that with all my email lists. A way around that issue is to use the BCC (blind carbon copy) feature, then reply all cannot be used, it would only reply to you, the sender. Another thing for you to do: delete them from your email list. I, for one, am happy you are here and you are welcome to email me anything, anytime! laineylives at aol

   Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #

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    Believe me you are very welcomed at TDK. I have missed you when you were gone. It was so soon after cleaning from the fires and I have to say I worried. I was delighted to hear that you were getting life together on your terms--that will be the best always. I know you love your husband, but he needs to respect you and be a part of your life--and the kids too. I think you should delete those email addresses. There is only 1 TDK member that I have seen be ugly like this and she is no longer on TDK and has asked for her to be deleted. I am hoping that isn't the person you are dealing with. She was very harsh to members that liked her and wanted to include her in emails. Delete them and move on--by the way another thing to remember several TDK members had their email address highjacked--it was horrible. I know this was difficult because I got an email from a long time TDK member that I know and it was horrid. I then found out her address had been highjacked and it wasn't even from her! Again I don't know what has happened specifically but I can assure you that you are welcome here.

    Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    I have no problem admitting that I am the one who responded w/the 'I wouldn't have to reply all if you wouldn't send these emails out without checking them first' person'. My point is this---don't send these types of emails w/out checking whether they are true or not. My reasoning for 'replying all' was so that everyone who received the original email wouldn't get involved in something that happened in 2005!!! Was that wrong of me? Mayhaps. Please accept my heartfelt apologies if you feel so. And, yes, I have learned my lesson and will not 'reply all' ever again. :)

    Posted 2 years ago by FondaHonda #

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    HLB,
    I saw the email you are talking about, and I agree that the person should have simply emailed you instead of your entire list. I am having email problems of my own - coming to two different addresses. This is why I have decided to take a break from things. Too much negativity coming toward me from people I thought I could trust.

    Posted 2 years ago by owlwatcher_974 #

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    FH I know you and I have a very hard time seeing you as calling someone names! I do not think you are the one that is being talked about with this! I also like getting the facts so I am with you on that end! HLB said that she was called names--FH that isn't your style never has been. You get the facts straight and call them like you see them--that is what makes me value your opinion so very much.

    Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    OW apparently you are on the email list as well. I always miss it all. I have to wonder if I should be concerned that no one is emailing me.

    Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    FH,
    For the record (I posted before I saw you post) I agree with checking out things before sending them. My post was not challenging this point of view (or even your reply - which I did not receive), I am simply saying that it is better just to reply to the sender as there are other people on the senders email list that might not welcome email from someone they do not know.

    I will now go back into recluse mode.

    Posted 2 years ago by owlwatcher_974 #

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    I have added you Lainey =) Thanks

    SM, that is a great idea actually...but i use hot mail and i am having a hard time figuring out where the BCC is..i have never used it before to be honest. It is usually just right under the regular send to...i feel like a dunce!

    Posted 2 years ago by Hizlilbrat #

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    and for the record no, it was not FH who called the name..no "s" just one name....still hurtful never the less. I have removed you from my contacts so it doesnt happen again FH

    OW, i feel in the same boat to be honest.

    SM, i could have sworn i had your email address...i do wonder now if i have been emailign the wrong persont hinking it was you all along...ha

    Posted 2 years ago by Hizlilbrat #

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    I must admit I'm guilty of the reply all thing, though not in this instance. I DO reply all when I find somebody has sent me something that turns out NOT to be true.

    For example - I got an email from one of my really close girlfriends about taking "In God We Trust" off the coins, which is simply not true. I got so mad (because that was about the 3904712389047th time I'd gotten that email) that I went on a tirade and hit reply all. The person who sent it to me was really upset (I used quite colorful lanugage, which is something I've been known to do) because she said she sent the email to some of her church members. My reply?

    "I'm really sorry, and I'll reply all and apologize to everybody I offended.......right after you let them know that the original email you sent out was pure BS"

    Was that wrong? Probably. But hey, I can't be right ALL the time.

    Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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    I am hearing that old rhyme:

    No body likes me
    Every body hates me
    Guess I'll go eat worms...

    Then again I am always the one that misses everything!

    Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    HM sounds right to me!

    Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    Thats not even close to the case SM..but if you see it that way feel free. Its not like the the only member that feels attacked every dang time they try to come here.

    Posted 2 years ago by Hizlilbrat #

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    No one is being attacked.

    Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    Nobody is attacking anybody!

    Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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    "I am hearing that old rhyme:

    No body likes me
    Every body hates me
    Guess I'll go eat worms..."

    yeah i guess your right..that wasnt a personal jab at all...........

    Posted 2 years ago by Hizlilbrat #

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    Finally...I couldn't log in for about a half hour...
    HM...that is so funny because I was going to tell a story almost the same as yours..except I'm unaware if I offended church members, but I had got the "coin" email dozens of times too and did the "reply all" in order to try and stop the spread.

    I will leave all attacks to my kitties...they have so much fun with them.

    Posted 2 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    HB, SM was not attacking you, she is not that kind of person. I think she was trying to lighten up the moment is all.

    Posted 2 years ago by HuddysMama #

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    Thank you HM. I certainly did not intend to respond to you personally. I have UNCONDITIONALLY supported you as I would any TDK member. I am sorry you feel that I am attacking you. I was merely pointing out as a TDK member of many years, long before KittenMaster developed this chat area, I used to be on many email lists and have since found out I am not. This aso refers to a conversation I had with Owlwatcher because she has had a hard time too, and that breaks my heart as she is a wonderful person.

    Posted 2 years ago by SoxsMom #

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    Hello all, yes I'm out of lurk mode for a moment but I needed to speak up here on this subject. I generally don't forward lots of silly emails, chain mails etc. as I just don't have the time for such silly stuff. I must have received the CHRISTmas email a dozen times. Simplest way to deal with it was read the individual comments and then hit delete. No reason to send out again. I never do hit the respond to all as depending on the source of the email, I don't want to send stuff en mass to people I know probably already recieved it. If I do respond to the email, it is always personally to thank the sender as I enjoyed it. If I didn't like it or agree with it, I just hit DELETE! Nothing else is needed to be said as I know everyone has different beliefs and they are entitled to them. I also know that no one here would ever send me anything to intentionally hurt or offend me. We are not that kind of community.

    It seems to me that at this time of the year, this situation always rears it's ugly head again. Do we need to revive the "Foot in mouth oath" again? LOL.

    I love you all! If anyone has not received an email from me lately, please let me know. I may not have you on my email list. I have to admit that my email list isn't very well organized and I have addresses that I have no idea who it is. I just assume TDK and send away! debsterwiz2000 at yahoo dot com

    Posted 2 years ago by debsterwiz #

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    Sigh, the only thing I send out to a few ppl is the nightly icanhascheezburger, and I share it because 1) I am up during the time it come out and 2) I think that those I share it with enjoy it....if its too much please let me know.

    Posted 2 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #

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    I think this is a good time to clean up email lists. If someone doesn't want to be on a distribution list please let the sender(s) know. I don't have a TDK email list right now, I don't usually send much stuff, but I do enjoy getting emails. I'm of the ilk that I'm responsible for deciding if what to do with my email. yes, sometimes my email is overloaded with "junk" (not just spam), stuff i've seen a billion times, etc. I just like to be inlcuded (okay, I'm a brat and hate to be left out!) I think I'm gonna set up a TDK only email addy and ask people to put me on that one (I do use my Lainey email for family stuff, have a freebie addy, bills addy, etc). I truly believe that with this group no one wants to intentionally hurt another, offend another. We are all responsble for our own actions/reactions.

    Yes, this time of year is hard on many, me included. I haven't had the spirit of the season for about 20 years, but I try to not let it show to others.

    Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #

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