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   I am so devastated, I can't see straight.

   I was sitting in my living room Thursday evening, in my recliner, unaware that my kitten had crawled up under my chair. When I reclined, I crushed my 11-week old kitten, breaking his back, and killing him instantly. It's now after 4:00am Friday and I'm still up.

   I can't sleep due to the level of grief I'm dealing with. The tears will not stop.

   I got this little guy, who we named Truffles, only 3-weeks ago. He was purchased from our local Humane Society after I was forced to put down my beloved cat Pickie due to him having Cancer. My remaining cat, Baybe, was very distressed over the loss of Pickie and continued to display her grief by slamming her body against the wall and wailing out loud like she was wounded.

   I wasn't prepared, mentally, to get another cat quite so fast but less than one-week after having Pickie put down, I made the decision to get Truffles in order to help Baybe handle Pickies death. I had a feeling getting a new kitty would help her to deal. And it worked.

   Now...Truffles is gone.

   The fact that I caused this, accidentally or not, is absolutely so hard to deal with. I don't know how to handle the loss of 2-cats in less than 1-month.

   I also don't know if I should try getting another kitten or not. I'm so ill over this happening.

   Posted 2 years ago by Pickiesmom #

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   omg, you poor dear. That's a horrible thing to have to go through... please know that it wasn't your fault. You gave little Truffles love and a place to call home. This was just a terrible accident and no one will blame you.

   When the time comes to give a lost new kitten a loving home, you will know.

   Posted 2 years ago by Butterflyjam #

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   :(

   Posted 2 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #

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   I'm so sorry PickiesMom.

   Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

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   I am so sorry .........

   Posted 2 years ago by Debbie #

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   Pickiesmom, I'm sad to hear of your losses. I can imagine the shock and horror you must have felt, and desolation, at accidentally killing Truffles. Please be kind to yourself. Accidents are part of life. Truffles knew you loved him, as did Pickie. Each of us needs to decide when to get a new cat after losing one. I personally feel a period of at least 3-4 weeks is appropriate after losing a kitty. It gives one some time to grieve and process the loss. Blessings and prayers to you in your time of sorrow.

   Posted 2 years ago by Mojo #

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   I'm so sorry....nothing I say will take away the pain of your tragedy. These accidents happen far more often than you may think and it's important now for you to remember Truffles loves you and knows you'd never harm him intentionally. It will take time for your pain to ease. You are in my thoughts and prayers. {{{pickies mom}}}

   Posted 2 years ago by Karenopa #

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   Pickiesmom,

   I'm so sorry. Forgive yourself, it was an accident. I'm so sad to hear about Pickie and Truffles. You'll find your strength and get through it for you and Baybe.

   You'll know when the time is right to adopt again. You'll just know - you'll know what's best for both you and Baybe. I lost my Simba in June and still don't feel like the time is right for me. Everyone is different. Do what you FEEL is right for you and Baybe but try to come to terms with what has happened before then. A mom can only take in so much stress at once.

   My prayers go out to you, Pickiesmom. And to Baybe as it sounds like losing Pickie has been an ordeal for her. Take care. Time will heal and God will help.

   Your little family is in my thoughts and prayers.

   Posted 2 years ago by Simbas Mom #

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   I'm so sorry for your losses, Pickies Mom. You are not the first person to find this website after accidently causing the death of a kitten. It is a painful tragedy. Please don't beat yourself up over this. I hope you and Baybe can comfort each other. You need each other more than ever.

   Please keep posting. You will find lots of support here.

   If you click on the pink tag "killed" at the top of this thread you will find another person's experience with this.

   Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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    TO ALL THOSE WHO REPLIED TO MY POST....FROM PICKIESMOM

    I am so amazed by the level of kindness you all have shown to me over the tragic death of my kitten Truffles. I can't even put into words what it has meant to me. The shock has now worn off and the reality has set in. This really happened. I'm so horrified.

    I had to get up and work BLACK FRIDAY...dealing with a very grueling day at work...after this happened. It's now 11:30pm and I am finally home where I can finally grieve in private.

    My heart is so broken.

    Oh my goodness...it's such a sickening pain. I can't get the gruesome scene out of my head. I'm doing all I can to comfort my poor wailing Baybe but she's a mess. I may take her to the Vet for sedatives. I'm serious. She's really a mess.

    I actually tried to get her another kitten today, at the Humane Society, but I simply couldn't do it. I'm too worn out from grieving 2 lost cats in less than a month and I now know that I need a bit of space in between this incident and another kitten. I will have to try and help Baybe though this some other way.

    My poor little Baybe had to be here all day without anyone to play with her. I felt so bad leaving her but had no choice. I had to work a very long day. It's really a black friday for me...or more like a bleak friday. My house feels strange without little truffy coming up to me and waiting to be snuggled and hugged.

    Thanks so kindly for your loving support. I truly appreciated it so much.

    Pickiesmom

    Posted 2 years ago by Pickiesmom #

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    I hope you get a good night's sleep, PM. You can't replace those kits you've lost. You and Baybe both need to take the time to grieve their passing. Another furbaby will choose you for its caregiver in time. You might want to get some Feliway to help Baybe get through this. It is sold in the form of an infuser that you plug into a wall socket. It emits pheromes that calm anxious cats. You can find it at local pet stores or order it online. Here is one website: www.feliway.com You can also try www.entirelypets.com for a better price.

    Posted 2 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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    Posted 2 years ago by sweetamy189 #

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    Thank you for the Feliway suggestion. I did get some spray Feliway from my Vet. I don't know if it will work as well as the plug in (which I was unaware they made) but will try it first. If there's no change, I will try the plug in.

    Thanks for your suggestion.

    Kindly,
    Pickies(tired)mom

    Posted 2 years ago by Pickiesmom #

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    I just read this post and I am so sick at heart for you and Baybe. What a terrible tragedy for both of you to have to endure.

    Posted 2 years ago by CheetahBoysmommy #

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    I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Do try the Feliway plug in if the spray doesn't work. You won't notice the effects immediately, but within a few days or maybe a week, Baybe should start to calm down. It works wonderfully to keep our Lady Coco calm when somebody leaves the inside gate open and she accidentally meets Sophie (our resident tomboy and major stress factor in L.C.'s life).

    Posted 2 years ago by GizzysAuntie #

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    oh honey this thread brought tears to my eyes. I am sorry you had to see that sort of thing. Just focus your attention on loving your Baby now when she needs some comfort. The kitty you are supposed to have will find you. Take care sweetheart

    Posted 2 years ago by TaraRose #

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    Pickiesmom,

    I feel your pain. You WILL get over it with time, because you know that it's not your fault and there is nothing that you could have done to avoid it.

    Would adopting a new kitten and naming it Truffles or Pickie help? (Just a suggestion) In this way these cute little names will be associated with joy, and not grief. Guess it would also help you (and Baybe) psychologically.

    Prayers and best wishes.

    Posted 2 years ago by onlinebuddy #

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    I know this is an old post, but I just HAVE to comment on it.
    I did the EXACT SAME THING to my beautiful 9 week old kitten, Luna, just yesterday morning. I am going through the worst feeling in my life. I know exactly how you feel.
    I am ovveraught with guilt and horror and pure sadness at what i've done... she was just a baby. I can't help but keep thinking that she was just a little baby, perfcectly happy, and if I hadn't had adopted her, she might've lived a long happy life with someone who wouldn't have crushed her. :'(
    I adpoted her when she was six weeks old, as the people who had her wanted to get rid of her as fast as possible, and even though I'm sure this was much too early to take her, I did, and tried to take very good care of her. She was such a sweetheart. She liked to take naps on my laptop keyboard when I was using it, and liked to climb up my leg to sleep on my lap. She made this cute demonic sounded growl when playing... it sounded so evil, that I found it irresistably sweet.
    I feel grief and horror at myself that I can't put into words. I don't know what to do. I camn't even pet my other kitten now without thinking of the stiff dead feel of Luna when I found her...

    Posted 1 year ago by Britanii #

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    My other kitten, Leia came from the same litter as Luna and they both played together all the time, and curled up with each other to sleep. Now she cries on and off. I feel so bad for her, that I killed her sister.

    Posted 1 year ago by Britanii #

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    I am truly VERY sorry. But please do not blame yourself over this. You didn't know she was under the chair, it was an accident. I really hope you feel better soon, it's going to be okay. I know I would feel just terrible if I had lost one of my kitties. D: It's okay, it's okay. Just try to remember all the happy memories you have shared with her.

    Posted 1 year ago by Cheez-it's mom #

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    My heart goes out to you. I would wait a few weeks give yourself time to recoup. I Know how you feel about loosing a beloved pet. My prayers go out to you in your time of need.

    Posted 1 year ago by mamas #

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    can you get rid of the chair ? it sounds like a bad chair to have...

    Posted 1 year ago by CSBM #

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    Why isn't someone running an information campaign on these chairs and their danger to kittens? Is anyone writing to the manufacturer or to cat protection/kitten adoption groups to let them know? This should not be happening so often, people should be alerted to the danger to their pets. If I were in the US, I would be writing to the major newspapers and consumer groups about this.

    Posted 1 year ago by jcat #

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    Troll????

    Posted 1 year ago by oakcrone #

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    Thank you for pointing this out... I was so distraught that I didn't realize that I could help prevent this tragedy from happening to other owners and kitties/other small pets. I have since emailed spca international and all of my local SPCAs here in Newfoundland and told them to let any potential owners of small animals know that reclining chairs pose a lethal danger.

    Posted 1 year ago by Britanii #

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    Pickiesmom, my heart goes out to you, its been just over 2 hours since i sat on my 9 week old rag doll and she went into shock and passed away, we did everything we could and i just can't stop blaming myself at the moment.

    I love her with all my heart, and my older boy Blaze is a little lost cause he cant find her, i just hope he can deal with it well, and that i can help him with it.

    We had just gotten Ora to keep him company while i was at work, as my partner does fly in fly out rosters at the moment and we didnt want him to be alone. I had just given her a bath and sat her on my bed as i was getting changed out of my wet clothes, i turned around and sat down, and she had lain down right where i sat, i was so horrified and didnt know what to do, she just sat there motionless and seemed to have problems breathing, at first i had thought i broke her back, but then she started to move around so i thought she would be ok, but after 3-4 minutes of no movement i got worried and searched what cats are link when they go into shock, it said to check their gums for lack of colour, which when i did, the poor little dear had pure white gums, we rushed her to the vet and they did their best to save her but she passed away after 20 minutes.

    I want to pass on this bit of information to all other cat lovers, if you are unsure on your cats state after an accident, PLEASE CHECK THEIR GUMS RIGHT AWAY!, i can't help but think that the few minutes i wasted could have saved her life!

    Posted 2 weeks ago by Asher #

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    Dear Asher, I am so very sorry.

    Posted 2 weeks ago by Lynne #

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    (((Asher))) I am so so sorry.

    Posted 2 weeks ago by Carleygirl #

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    So sorry to hear about your accident, Asher. I accidentally started to sit on my kitten, Salem, once when he was a few months old, and luckily I caught myself before my full weight was on him. Still, he limped for a couple weeks after and I got him X-rayed and there had been joint damage. Fortunately, it healed up perfectly and required no surgery. Still, I felt terrible about it. This sort of thing can happen to anyone, but it reminds us how extra careful we have to be with kittens and cats around.

    Posted 2 weeks ago by Mojo #

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