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MCW's Mum
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Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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MCW--somehow I haven't managed to keep up with this thread--anyhow I am glad that things seem to be on the right road--and by the way, you can whine all you want--your needs are as real as mine or anyone else's and God really can handle it all--He doesn't put you in the back of the line just because "it's not that important". You are awesome for all you give, don't be embarrassed to take a little back now and then. Also, finally got a chance to browse your blog today--I CRACKED UP at the Mental Christmas Carols--I think I have family members that sing every darn one of 'em! LOL Love Shelley
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Hi Shelley - thanks, but can't take credit for the mental christmas carols, I pinched it from someone (on TDK if I remember rightly!) - they are good aren't they? :-)
Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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I hope everything works out well. I'm glad it seems to be headed that way
Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #
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Full speed ahead, MCW! I'm glad your mum is still on board with the idea of moving to the home. Sending positive thoughts to you! xx
Posted 4 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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Hi MCW! How did the meeting with Social Service go? I've got all my fingers, toes and whatever crossed for you, and sending loads of purrs and hugs!
Posted 4 years ago by Rubia in CA, 4/28 #
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Keep us posted, I am still sending positive thoughts your way!
Posted 4 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #
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Meeting & paperwork went very well, but we have been warned not to get our hopes up for tomorrow, as hospital discharges are a funding priority. Panel meets every week, even between Christmas & New Year, so we keep going until we get through. I have warned work I will be unbearable tomorrow waiting for my phone to go, and that I will probably burst into tears whatever the answer is!
Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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Glad this meeting went well, MCW. Another step forward! Lots of positive thoughts continuing in your direction that they find a way to let your mum take the room that is available to her. Look how far you've come. You never would have believed this kind of progress was possible a few months ago! Courage!! xx
Posted 4 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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Update : not this time, maybe next week when Mum's case will be put forward again. Not unexpected, but a little deflating.
Oh, and I'm feeling very sorry for myself, I have developed a stinking cold, complete with plentiful green stuff, incredibly painful throat and I ache right from my hair folicles to the tips of my toes. Phooey.
Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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Well, it isn't a set back but it isn't a step forward either. So sorry, MCW! Keep the faith. {{hugs}} xx I hope you feel better soon.
Posted 4 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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Poor MCM...that's not good! Tis the season for all kinds of sicky, icky, stuff to get us down...This maybe is nature's sick way of sayin' parkit honey and take some me time...The wheels of justice can creak so slowly with the Social Services..Nature of the beast..Please get well soon MCM..stay warm, fed and dry!!
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Thinking positive thoughts and prayers, MCW that they are able to tackle your Mom's case next week so your Mom can move and be done with it. Sorry you are feeling so poorly. As 2bpurring said, grab a purring kitty, a cup of chicken soup, a cup of tea with honey and lemon and head under the covers...make one with the bed for now. Lots of hugs to you.
Posted 4 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #
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MCW -- stay strong on the social services stuff; it'll all come through just exactly how it's supposed to. As for the cold... mom's remedy for a cough was equal parts of honey, hot water (to dissolve the honey) and brandy. Only thing that ever worked for me as a child. LOL Of course, now I can't stand the site or smell of brandy.
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Ew, yeuch, yuk - now I can't breathe through my nose, so I'm dribbling! Such a pretty word picture...thanks for all your good wishes, I'm heading for bed right now. Hopefully I'll feel a whole lot better in the morning, it's my last official day tomorrow, and I'd rather not miss it.
G'night! (or, as I'm actually sounding right now : good dite!)
*grabs box of tissues and shuffles off*
Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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This week's update : there wasn't a panel after all!!!!!
There are times I want to scream......
So, we're in limbo land until next Thursday now. This is not good for my nerves!
Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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Your nerves will hold up--take it from someone who knows. What is more important is the love you radiate,and I know from experience that you are a pro at that. Your Mom will go where she needs to go when it is time to go there. Here are broad shoulders standing at the ready for you dear. Love, Shelley
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So, if you've been in and around the TDK Cafe today, you'll already have heard the news - Mum got her funding approval today, and we are all systems go.
I have to say - and I really hope I don't sound ungrateful here, because I am truly thankful for all your prayers and positive thoughts - that after the initial "woo hoo!" moment, I now feel a bit flat, and to be honest, more than a little low. Stupid huh? Here it is, it's Real now, this is actually happening, I am "putting my mother in a home" - and even though I know this is the right thing for her (and me), I still feel a bit crap about it.
Sorry, ridiculous I know. I'm off to cuddle a cat, I'll feel better in the morning.
Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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Oh MCW, it IS big congrats! It must just be the release of all the adreneline...and you're not "putting your mum in a home". That has a bad conotation, as if you were trying to get rid of her. You're not, you are helping her and yourself. I know you know that but {{{BIG HUGS}}} to you and your mum (and Eric and Pickle and all the rest!)
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No..MCW...You wouldn't be human sweetie if you weren't having these feelings..all the years our Mum's go through with us leaves us in awe when recalling all they've been to us. It's because of this that we instinctively work out the solutions to protect and keep them 24/7 with people better qualified to watch out for the special needs that go with aging. You're one person and have to have the same opportunities to live as Mum did in her day. She knows this better than you do...honey don't beat yourself up...wrap your loving arms around you for a change..Mum won't be far away. She'll make friends and feel full of life as you visit and hear of her adventures and meet them in time. Living apart from you she will now have new things to share with you over time...How wonderful that will be for her...knowing she can surprise you from time to time with introductions, stories and 'guess whats'. God Bless you you've been a loving and loyal daughter and caregiver..Mum knows!
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Oh, MCW - I know only too well exactly how you feel. I was the one named to make medical decisions for my father. He lived in one city where there was no family and I was 400 miles away. When it became apparant that, due to dementia, he couldn't stay in an apartment alone, I had to move him into an assisted living facility where I live. That was so hard because I knew that I was uprooting him from everything that he had known. But it was no longer a safe situation for him where he was and you must always consider safety. He was still alert enough to know what I was doing and I'm sure that it was frightening for him. I went where he was, had a drawing of the new apartment in assisted living, and figured out what all I could take of his. Then I shipped it all ahead to my home and my husband arranged furniture, hung pictures - he did everything possible so that the first time my father walked into the new apartment it would feel as familiar as we could make it and would seem like home.
Posted 4 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
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Oops, MCW - I hit a wrong key! Anyway, it is possible that your mum could make your life a little miserable at first. My father could still dial a telephone and the first day that he was here he called me 23 times. I thought that if that was to be my life, I would surely go mad. Eventually he settled in although I had to hire 24 hour sitters to be with him because the staff at the assisted living facility just couldn't watch him close enough. When even that was no longer safe I had to move him to a nursing home for veterans that wasn't too far away from where I live. I will tell you that the child who is responsible for making these hard decisions is sometimes viewed as the "bad" child. My father thought my sister, who lives back east, was an angel. And yet, she never came to see him. There are no easy answers. Please know that lots of us have been where you are and we are good listeners. I learned so many hard lessons along the way and maybe I could save you from a few of the mistakes that I made. But always, always remember that we make those hard decisions based on what is best for our parents. It may not be what they want but they can't usually see that they have changed and that they simply aren't able to live alone. I will keep you in my prayers.
Posted 4 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
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