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   The very first indoor cat of my own, which I got over 11 years ago, is going to be put to sleep tomorrow.
   He won't eat or drink, plus he is about 17 years old. When I moved out of my parents house 6 years ago I couldn't take him
   but he always held a special place in my heart and I did visit him. My mom asked if I wanted to see him
   one last time, but I just can't! I want to remember him full of life, not half dead. I've been crying all day today
   because I feel bad, but I don't want to see him like this. Does that make me a horrible person? I have two cats with my new husband and I love them very much, but snowflake ( AKA snowzee) will always hold a special place in my heart, I just can't take seeing him. I hope this doesn't make me a jerk : (

   Posted 2 years ago by Snowzee #

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   Everyone handles this grief in their own way. You have only visited with Snowflake when at your parents for the last 6 yrs. It has to be harder to see him in decline because it hits you hard each time rather than the slow adjustment of watching him age daily.

   You are not a jerk. You do have to search your heart to know if you will regret more not seeing him one last time or if the memory of him in his and your youth will be stronger.

   Your grief is not less if you do not see him. Nor will it be greater if you do.

   Be at peace.

   Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #

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   I am sorry you are losing your kitty.

   You're not a bad person. I can understand why you would not wantto see your kitty like that. But as Ailuromaniac said, you have to search your heart to know if you will regret not seeing him one last time.

   Posted 2 years ago by owlwatcher_974 #

4. 

   My advice is to see him. Hold him and talk to him, and make sure that he knows how much you love him...

   But everyone if different. If you decide that not seeing him is the best for you, that doesn't mean that you're a bad person...

   Posted 2 years ago by dionnewb #

5. 

   I'm so sorry your kitty has reached the stage where he needs help to cross the Rainbow Bridge. Do think carefully about seeing him or not. It may be upsetting seeing him for the last time but it can also be very good to honour your friend with a cuddle and whispered loving words, for both of you. It doesn't make you a horrible person if you don't see him either as it will be an emotional visit.

   Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #

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   Thanks everyone for your replies. This is a hard time for me, and since just about everyone here has had to go through this before this is the perfect place to allow myself to voice my emotions. I'm gonna miss my snowzee : (

   Posted 2 years ago by Snowzee #

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   Anyone that truly loves an animal is never a bad person. I am very sorry for your loss. I believe you will see Snowzee again someday and Snowzee will be healthy and will know how much you ALWAYS loved him. Hugs.

   Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #

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   {{{Snowzee}}} You are a sensitive person. Most of us will outlive our fur family members and must handle the inevitable grief as our heart dictates at the time. You are among friends here.

   Posted 2 years ago by krazikat #

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