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Daddy dearest: The son of a self-help guru reveals all
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What a sad life Mr. Canfield leads, and I do wonder how much of it is real or his perception of what his life has been up to now.
Posted 2 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #
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It's so hard to distinquish what is adult-to-adult reaction and what is parent-to-child reaction.
Consider how long an average person lives now, 70 to 80 years. How much of that time is spent as a child? How much is spent as a parent of a child?
There's not a single one of us who doesn't know how hard it is to be a child. Most of us know how hard it is to be a parent. Many of us know how weird it is to be a parent of an adult child.
At what stage do you say, "Okay, you are a grown up. Whatever s**t happened when you were a child should be dealt with now. Go to therapy, get a grip, cut the strings, allow yourself to be an adult." And how do we deal with, "Respect your parents, honour your elders, acknowledge your past."
Sometimes I think about god sitting on a cloud and laughing. I guess life was much simpler when people were parents at 14, old at 30 and dead at 35.
Posted 2 years ago by CheetahBoysmommy #
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My mother and I once had a very telling conversation:
She told me, "Sweetheart, what you are right now is the fault of your father and your mother. And we are so sorry for everything that we've done to you that has harmed or hurt you in any way. We sincerely apologize for what you've become."
Then she looked directly into my eyes, and said, "And if you stay that way, it's your own d%#m fault."
Now, that was a wake-up call for a 17-year-old brat like me.
And it's true. No one but no one has had a Disney childhood. That is a given. Deal with it, or if you can't, get counseling and get through it.
No matter what, work through it, get over it, and go on. Don't use it as an excuse for future bad behavior or blame-gamesmanship. You owe it to yourself to have a wonderful life.
When it all comes down to the wire, what counts is what you do, not what was done to you.
Live.
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CBM and Emma! Such wise words really need to spread to the masses. This problem of adult-children is getting so overwhelming these days. I see so much of it and so many people choose to enable this behavior. My mother and her wisdom tell me to "suck it up" I was over 18 it's my responcibility to do it right, her job was finished. The blame-game as Emma has so appropriately said is so overplayed today!
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My childhood wasnt one of milk & honey, there were a lot of things I had to deal with. But the best day of my life was when I realised what dr phil & oprah and every other guru out there has been saying is true. You are responsible for your own happiness. And then I started studying the philosophy of Victor Frankl, and my life really has a lot more meaning now.
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