OK. There is the Coke Rule and the Stick Around rule. How about the "Make It Fit" rule. It is a minor variation of the "Keep It Fluffy" Rule.
If a happy thread still triggers a sad memory, don't use the thread to share the sadness. If you must share your story, start another thread.
There are plenty of threads where we support each other in sorrow, anger, disdain, concern, fear or loss. The addition of yours will do no harm, but adding sadness to a celebration is inappropriate.
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
Excellent idea, Ail! I second that motion :)
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
Yes,I am sad whenever we lose any family so let's realize that we all are different but we all have something to offer. Just be respectful and ask yourself before posting if what you're saying is going to help the person who started the thread or hurt them. I still have to monitor myself sometimes I don't think,I do think this is something that everyone has to learn when they become a member of an internet group. [[[[[[Hugs to everyone]]]]
it works for me !!!
Posted 2 years ago by cheri12/22 #
Sox's Mom, your thread was the happy thread that was upset by an unhappy memory! Ailuromaniac is trying to ensure that doesn't happen again, to you or anyone else. We want you to be happy :) and we want everyone to be able to share such happy stories as your student's wonderful gift to you!
Becca, we aren't forgetting you. I just haven't found the links yet.
Basically the rules stem from past hurt feelings and strident interchanges.
The Coke rule is a time out rule to take a break before hitting the <Send Post> button for a reply to a thread where you may give offense.
The Stick Around rule is to not post an "I'm Leaving because..." thread and exiting the forum because you have been offended.
Posted 2 years ago by ailuromaniac #
Sounds good to me.
Posted 2 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Raleigh, NC #
I started looking for the threads this morning and still have not found them. However, I did find "Emma's Rule" (posted over a year ago, after a few more leave-takings) -- thought it would give you a good laugh!
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Here are a few more thoughts to consider:
If any more of these unfluffy fights break out and someone stalks off, the off-stalker needs to mull over the following thoughts:
1. I will find out where you live.
2. I will pack up two spoiled and surly little cats, my computer, clothing, suitcases, litter boxes, music CDs, etc.
3. The three of us will board a plane and arrive at your door in a short time.
4. I will move into your house and during the first day I will do all the cooking, cleaning, and listening you would ever want in this life.
5. However, Life will change on the second day.
.....A. I will start by playing the CDs, which consist of eerie and depressing Celtic music.
.....B. My cats will start griping about EVERYTHING.
.....C. I will begin to sing "It's a Small World After All." For hours. Off key.
.....D. The three of us will proceed to eat you out of house and home.
Please be warned. I am a sweet little old lady, but I do have my ways.
Now, all of you, please stop arguing and make up. Life is too short, my loves. Let's be kind to each other. When it all comes down, "we" are all we have.
Much love,
Auntie Emma
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And I pledge myself to the Make It Fit Rule!
Has anyone else read the book Fish!? It is a book about the principles that can be learned at the Pike Place Fish Market. Principle number 1 is: Choose to make today a great day.
I have a bright orange laminated card that reminds me to:
Play
Be There
Choose your Attitude
Make their Day
These are all great guidelines to live by. What applies to business with Fish! can apply here too. TDK often makes my day a great day and I appreciate this site and my friends here!!!!
Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #
KYKAT, we use the FISH principles at work. They DO work if you work them! Emma, that is a fantastic post, I obviously was not around when it was first posted. I also agree with AIL, good suggestion. I know we all have bad times but hope that we can learn to get along and be fluffy!
Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #
KYKAT I also am a lover of FISH!! We have Fish Principles listed in my classroom. There are amazing videos of them--I have never seen a group of people that love their lives and their jobs as these people do! They really help put into focus what is important and through positive attitude what can be achieved!
I have seen many times how a smile while looking someone in the eyes can change their whole body language and how a nice remark can change someone's day. There is a deli, that I go to and a couple of years ago, one of the young men making the sandwiches was obviously having a really bad day and was full of anger. He made a remark about not being able to do anything right. I looked at him and said, "Matt, I am sorry you are having a bad day, but I love you Matt, I think you Rock!" He stopped and looked at me. I looked him in the eyes, smiled at him and told him that I think he does a great job. He smiled back and I could see the anger and tension just drain away. There it was, a day turned around. Fish! in action!
Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #
Fish! is a book written about the principals learned from the Pike Place Fish Market. These guys don't get paid much and they are handling raw fish everyday. Some people would think it is the worst job in the world, but these guys make it fun. They toss the fish to each other, joke about, invite people in on the fun. Dr. Stephen Lundin, Harry Paul and John Christensen wrote a book about it and use it as a model for how we should approach work and our lives.
Choose to make today a great day
Play: Be serious about your work without taking yourself too seriously at work
Be there: Don't let distractions destroy the quality which is present in each moment
Find someone who needs a helping hand, a word of support, or a good ear and MAKE THEIR DAY!
We all have the capacity to choose our own attitude. No matter what happens we have the power to choose the attitude with which we face our lives. We can choose to be a positive force, even in the face of adversity or we can be a negative force and bring everyone around us down.
Today, I choose all of you and give you a virtual High Five!
Posted 2 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #
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