Keeping you & your dad in my thoughts today Lainey.
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Please Pray for Mr A (aka Lainey's Dad)
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Dear Lainey, and Mr A,
Prayers for you from UK.Posted 2 years ago by Pollys_Mum_in_UK_2605 #
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Thank you my friends.
Dad's plans are apparently not God's plans. He is still with us but is obviously not going to be here much longer. he is not what they call "actively dying," however, I anticipate that changing in the next 12 hours. As I mentioned he is refusing all but comfort meds. he is more withdrawn and "out of it" (I won't say unconcious because he can be roused) but he prefers to stay quiet. He still has his sense of humor but is also very agitated about still being here. I told him that when he gets to heaven he will understand why God kept him "waiting."
I am so grateful that I choose to be here with him instead of going to work and being here less often. I've enjoyed his company and I find it an honor, as I did with my mom, to help take care of him.
I know your prayers are helping all of us. Your continue prayers and white light for a peaceful passing for him are appreciated, and of course for those of us left behind, that we can gracefully accept this next phase of HIS life. Will post again when I can.
Love,
laineyPosted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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Oh, Boo Boo is on the bed wtih him (I have some pics of that) and he is petting him as Boo purrs away. They are best buds. I don't know how Boo will do when "grandpa" is gone. he was a mess, to say the least, when dad was in rehab and hospital stints, and I know Boo will know he is gone for good. Dad wanted Boo to go with him in the casket, but I can't bring myself to put Boo down. Other than being totally deaf and on thyroid meds he is perfectly healthy. This is one wish of daddy's that I will have to lie to him about.
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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I think you are wise to keep Boo alive. Your dad will understand when he gets to Heaven why you couldn't put Boo to sleep. Its ok, if it be God's will, Boo will pass on his own. If not, he was meant to be here with you. Continued hugs and prayers your way Lainey. Wishes for a peaceful passing Mr. A, we all love you and care for you very much!
Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #
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Hi Lainey,I understand about this phase your Dad is in and how you feel privileged to do this and how it is an honor. I went through this last year with my Dad. It is hard around the clock work,be sure to take some time aside for yourself and eat well balanced meals. I know it's hard but it will help you afterward. I didn't and I sure paid for it with my health. I'll never regret doing that for him,I'm a daddy's girl too and although he went home in September it doesn't feel like he really left,I don't know how to explain it.[[[[Hugs]]]]
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Boo will meet with your Dad all in God's time. I think he will understand. In the meantime I have to echo BC. Make sure to take care of yourself too. You and your Dad will always treasure all the time you have together, but remember to eat healthy and sleep when you can. Prayers continue for both of you.
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Hello Lainey! HUGS to you and your dad. That is SO sweet how Boo Boo was getting much enjoyed "pets" from your dad, and purring up a storm. Precious!! Awwwwww..... that made me cry. Thanks for sharing this with us here. :) Awwww..
Bless you for being such a wonderful, and very loving daughter. You are such a blessing! I know Boo brings so much pleasure to your dad as well. Especially at this time. The little sweetie.
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Lainey, I too understand that feeling of privilege just being there with your Father at this time. I was with my Dad for his last few days seven years ago. My older brother and I were with him to the end. It was something very special just to sit and chat with him even though he wasn't responding. He really enjoyed his feet being massaged gently. It was a bittersweet time but now the bitter has gone and the sweet is left and I find it comforting.
{{{hugs}}}Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #
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Huggs to you Lainey and prayers for Mr. A.
Posted 2 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #
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Hugs for you Lainey and bless your father and hope that his passing will be peaceful.
Posted 2 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your dad. You are a wonderful daughter. Hugs.
Posted 2 years ago by Lynn from PA 6/8 #
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First, thank you everyone! Thank you,SM, for asking. I'm in here on the 'puter while daddy gets an enema (poor guy!). He's also starting to hallucinate and thought he could get up and out of bed and go to the "john." Um, nope! His body is amazing. It's like the energizer bunny and keeps going and going and going. His spirit is ready to fly, has been for over a week. he is still frustrated and I told him that he will see God's wisdom when he gets to heaven. His body temp is okay and his O2 and pulse are still good. I'm surprised but also grateful. He still has his sense of humor, too, which is wonderful. But he is tired and wants to go. Yes, I am feeling the prayers and love and I know he is too, for he is not complaining of any pain and I told him he doesn't have to be a hero, that we have meds to make him comfortable but he says he doesn't need them.
Prayers for my brother are needed. I have very real fears, founded in stuff I know, that I think he may use when dad passes. This would NOT be a good thing.
My Aunt Dottie went to heaven last night. Up till the end she was asking for her Jeanie (my mom). They were very close. I told my dad and told him that mom might be a bit busy catching up with Dot and he may have to wait to see her! He laughed and said "I don't think so!" My Auntie Dottie, that is a funeral I wanted to go to. I have oodles of Aunt's and Uncles but she is the one I know best and I loved her, so I'm very sad about that.
I'm very busy with details for dad's funeral. We may not get his proper insignia for his uniform but someone is going to put something up with his correct rank so it is displayed. He will still wear his dress blues, though. My sister thinks I'm amazing. I did everything for mom and Sandy and now Daddy. But, it has to be done and frankly no one else seems to be able to do it. I had to make sure with mom and Sandy that they were taken care of and I'm making sure my Daddy is taken care of. It's the very least I can do for him and all of them.
My dad does not look 84. I hope he looks good when he is laid out. Mom looked good, a bit "severe" looking but still good. Sandy looked terrible but her embalming was delayed and she was held for a while and she was very sick.
You all don't know what a blessing you have been to me. Allowing me to share my dad and his journey has helped me and makes me proud. Okay I'm bawling now...
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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(((((((Lainey)))))))))) You are amazing and so loving to want to care for your loved ones. Try to get enough rest and eat right you need to take care of you with all the stress you have been under and will be for a while. Since I lost my Dad in November I cry with you every post and I pray for you
Posted 2 years ago by Cat talk rules #
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Thank you, CTR. I know it's so fresh for you, and Marsha, too, and other who have lost parents recently and even not so recently. Many have told me you never get over your parents. With my mom I try and focus on the fact that had she lived she may have suffered terrible because of the cancer she had. Unless she was lying to us she didn't suffer too much (and if she was suffering I know my mom and she was "offering it up.") I'm not taking too good care of myself, I'll be honest. Food is crappy when I do eat and sleep, well, i'm not far from my dad's room and when the apnea kicks in I'm right there thinking it's his last breath. The hospice nurse told me in no uncertain terms to NOT sleep in his room (how did she know?!) I won't but I want to be with him when he crosses. I know that I might not be. I'm scared to "find" him already gone. I'd rather be there when it happens. My mom always said the dead will never hurt me (it's the living you gotta watch out for she always said). But I'm scared to find him. It probably doesn't make sense but not alot does sometimes.
Thanhk you, GD (I'm having fun reading about the tourny when I get to read these days). Boo Boo is loving his grandpa. He's the same age as jetta, 16. Speaking of Jetta, I brought her here tonight. I've been going in the mornings to feed and do her box when I know dad is stable and my BIL has been taking care of her at night. But due to flooding he has to work OT and we may be having more snow and I don't want to risk not being able to take care of her. But she is my skittish girl and she is scared to death and hiding. Hope I made the right decision!
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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{{{Lainey}}} Still thinking of ya...
Posted 2 years ago by JoanfromNewJersey #
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Still praying Lainey---I wish I had some great words of wisdom or comfort but all I can quote is something I got in an e-mail from Karenopa recently and that is this: The will of God will never take you where the grace of God will not protect you. I have been leaning on this heavily lately but not for any reasons as serious as yours. Blessings, dear, to you and especially to Mr. A.
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{{Lainey}} {{Mr A}} Peace be with you and your family!
Posted 2 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #
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Keeping you and your family in my prayers. Blessing for your Aunt Dottie, may she rest in Peace. Your dad's passing will be on heaven's time. (Reminded me of my sis Sue's last days. She also was ready to join the heavenly family but had to wait for her special time too!) Hang in there with TLC hugs for you.
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I'm sure having Jetta with you is a wise decision. Please let me agree with all your other friends here, you must look after yourself as well as being there for your Dad. He would be furious if he thought you were making yourself ill to be with him!
Posted 2 years ago by Pollys_Mum_in_UK_2605 #
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PM - yes, he would not be happy with me if I got sick! Thanks everyone for the condolences for my Aunt Dottie. I sure am sad I can't go and say goodbye to her.
As for my dad, he is blowing everyone away! The hospice folks love him! The health care aid said today that she wasn't sure if she'd be back Friday, saying that is in God's hands. On Monday she said for sure she would be here today and she was right.
He is becoming more and more non-verbal, however, when he can talk his sense of humor let's us know he is daddy. We got the uniform situation fixed, only now we have to find his ribbons or a photo with his ribbons and the military organizations will fix him up.
His vitals are still fairly stable. They were bad this morning but after Gloria came and gave him a bath and changed the sheets and settled him in he seems to be more comfortable, and that is the goal. Due to the kidney failure he is bad edema so we keep adjusting his legs and arms to help keep him comfortable.
I KNOW he feels your prayers. I KNOW they are keeping him out of pain and discomfort and I KNOW they are helping me. What would I do without this family? I love you all!
Posted 2 years ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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