Aww, Lainey, so many well wishes your way. Please accept my condolenses on Aunt Dottie. Another Angel to care for the kits at the Bridge. Reading your posts takes me back to when dad died almost ten years ago. I was the only one who lived in the city where he was hospitalized and in ICU. Every single day I made my trek to the hospital to be with him. (We were NOT close in life). I would go and talk to him, read to him, watch TV with him and tell him stories of his bestest buddy, Spot, the cat. He was comatose and the only thing that ever got a rise out of him was when I talked about Spot. He would turn his head toward my voice or his eyes would twitch or he would move his fingers. I too, ate like crap during that time. But let me tell you, it was after that that I got it together and lost over 100lbs. I didn't want to end up like him and his surgeon told me in no uncertain terms I was headed there and fast. I know when the time is right, you will get right. I am not sure if being there for his last breath is always the greatest thing. I was there when dad literally took his last breath and it haunts me to this day. He had had a trach placed in his neck to help him breathe. When it was time to "pull the plug" he was having horrible wheezing and rattles thru the hole in his neck. This went on for about 13 hours. I think there was a reason my whole family left his room and went out to rest a bit, he then died and I was the only one there. I am so glad my mom was not there to see and hear it, it was heartbreaking. I know God wanted me to be there with him but I don't think I could ever do that again with a loved one. What is amazing to me is earlier in the day my nephew who was three wanted to see Grandpa. He came into the room, his eyes got so big and he pointed above Dad's bed. We asked him what he was doing and he said "Don't you see them? The angels over grandpa's bed?" We all were taken aback and shuddered, the hair on my arms stood straight up because I knew they had come to take him home. When he did pass though there was such a peace about it, he was no longer suffering, he was home with so many of the people he loved. I know he will be waiting for us on the other side. I realized the crying was about me, that I didn't want him gone and I hurt. I think you are an amazing woman Lainey and so strong. You may not see it or feel it, but it radiates from your posts. Know I am with you in your heart, always here if you need me. Please come back often to post. (Sorry to have gotten on my soapbox here!)
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Please Pray for Mr A (aka Lainey's Dad)
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Posted 2 years ago by mollycat71 #
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Strong prayers continue to be offered up for you and your Dad,Lainey. Will the hospice nurse come and sit with you if your Dad is obviously "going"? Even though I'm a nurse and I knew in my head what was happening,it was so helpful to have that nurse there to attend to my mom and I for a moment and call the funeral home. She stayed and answered our questions until they picked him up. Hospice was so good to all of us. I hope they can do that for you.
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So sorry about your Aunt Dottie's passing Lainey and your not being able to attend her funeral.
MC is quite right when she said there is such a peace when someone does pass. It's almost palpable and quite wonderful.
{{{hugs}}Posted 2 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #
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Condolences on your Aunt Dottie's passing, may it be peaceful for the family.
If you can't find a picture of your father in his uniform, do you have a copy of his DD214? If so, they should have all the awards/ribbons that he is authorized to wear on there also. If you aren't physically in the room when your father does pass, don't hold it against yourself. He may wait until he is alone to leave, this is my personal belief, nothing that I can prove just the way I feel.
{{{hugs Lainey}}}
Posted 2 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #
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