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Really in need of advice....

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  • Started 1 year ago by IronMaiden
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  1. I mentioned in an earlier post that we have taken in a rescue kitty, or so to speak. It's Midnight, the pretty calico from down the street whose owners weren't caring for her and then never came to claim her.

    She's a very well-behaved cat, sweet and completely trained. My heart just goes out to her when I think of how scared she must have been, getting out and not being able to get back in, and then being imprisoned in a basement. But herein lies our problem:

    She does not like other cats. And we have other cats....many other cats. Our babies are sweet, very affectionate, and also very well-behaved. They exist in complete harmony with each other. The mothers take care of each others' babies, and the babies play together; the other, older cats look after the babies and clean and cuddle them. It is a true cat family in every sense of the word. When Midnight came to be with us, they were curious, but none of them "raised a paw", so to speak. They wanted to know her, and each tried to welcome her. She would have none of it. Morrigan and Fea were still a bit smaller, and she made the mistake of going after each one of them, and that was a big mistake. Lucy, our other rescue cat, sees herself as the protector of the family, and she immediately defended the little ones. The other, older cats were mystified by her behavior; you could tell that they did not understand why she did not want to be friends. Still, every time there was an overture of friendship, she would lash out, and there were plenty of times when she would just go after one of them for no apparent reason. We thought she needed to adjust after not ever being around other cats. We were affectionate with her, and firm when telling her no to her bad behaviors.

    Now, the others just don't deal with her at all. When she walks into a room, you can feel the tension. They're all just waiting for her to make a move. And Lucy is always at the ready. Now that there are other kittens in the house, and she has her own little brood, we thought she would calm down. She even tried to mother Chicken's kittens shortly before she had her own. The older ones still don't trust her, but they have behaved. There have been a couple little skirmishes, but it has been hard to tell who was the instigator.

    That is, until tonight. She was sitting in the livingroom, and Lucy's 5 week old, Olivia, was sitting on the floor about 3 feet from her. For absolutely no reason, she attacked the baby! Olivia cowered in terror and Lucy came from another room at a dead run for Midnight, who immediately ran off. My daughter grabbed Olivia, who was trembling, and cooed and cuddled her until she calmed.

    I do not know what to do. We have tried so hard to integrate her into our family. I don't want to take her and her kittens to the SPCA, but I have to decide what's best for all of my babies. I would love her and keep her forever, but I can't let her go after the babies and scare them so - and even possibly hurt them.

    Is there anything I can do?

    Posted 1 year ago by IronMaiden #

  2. Maybe that diffuser, feliway, would help?

    Posted 1 year ago by paulajeanne #

  3. If the feliway diffuser doesn't work, PetSmart has a collar with the same pheremones (?) in it that you can put on her and see if that works. If it comes down to it, do you have a separate room that you can keep Midnight in?

    Posted 1 year ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #

  4. What is the feliway?

    She mostly stays in my daughter's room with her kittens, but comes downstairs to eat and sometimes just get away. She always comes to us for affection and can be terribly sweet. I would feel horrible shutting her into one room, considering that's what her previous owners did to her. I imagine that might be why she is the way she is. I have not had her to the vet yet, because of the kitten situation, so I am not even sure how old she is.

    This morning I noticed Morrigan's ear is a little bloody, as if someone bit it really hard. I know none of the other cats would ever do this. I can only suspect that Midnight did it sometime in the night or early morning.

    Posted 1 year ago by IronMaiden #

  5. Felway is a pheremone diffuser and calms cats down since it mimicks their own hormones. It worked really well for Sophie when she first arrived in my home and I always use it when I go on vacation. Typically it takes about 1-2 weeks after you plug it in continuously for it to take effect!

    As for the SPCA..is there a no killer animal welfare organization near where you are? If it doesn't work out and you do decide to give her up, that might be a better choice. They can find a home for her that doesn't have other cats? Sophie doesn't get along with other cats but is the most lovely thing to people, so I only have her in my apartment and I adotped her because I only wanted 1 cat. So there is hope!

    Posted 1 year ago by iliketea #

  6. Thanks for the info on the feliway. I'm going to look into this.

    Our SPCA is a no-kill facility, but unfortunately, they're very crowded. I know the kittens would be adopted quickly but probably not Midnight.

    We do have a Cat Rescue organization just over the border, in New York State (I'm in Pennsylvania). I have been thinking of giving them a call, especially for the kittens. They will take them, get their shots, spay and neuter them, and they have a great application/fee process for adoption. I really think, or at least hope, that people who are willing to pay for a cat or kitten are more likely to care for them the right way. This isn't a dig at people who get their kitties free, because I have done that plenty of times, but it's just a different perspective when you're raising these little darlings from birth and you hear so many horror stories.

    I really don't want to have to give her up, but I also think she belongs in a one-kitty household, with no stress for her and lots of love. I just feel so guilty when she looks at me with these big, round green eyes and I know she loves us and is grateful for her home.

    Posted 1 year ago by IronMaiden #

  7. This is a tough situation. She is obviously not used to other animals and feels threatened by them. She needs a home being the only kitty. But why do you have so many litters? You need to get these moms spayed ASAP. As you said, there is no more room at the shelters for more kittens, and it's not even kitten season.

    Posted 1 year ago by Sheba's Mom in Raleigh, NC #

  8. Sometimes it takes a longer time to integrate a new kitty into the family, especially when the new one has other issues. The fact that she has kittens makes it all the more difficult.

    If you want to keep the mama, your best bet is to wait until the kittens have gone to their new homes. Keeping mama in her own safe room isn't bad for her - as long as she has light and company. When she was kept in the basement she probably didn't get enough human interaction but you should like you give her the attention she needs.

    There are a number of websites that detail the steps you can take to slowly introduce a new cat to an existing household. After the kittens have homes, and this one has been spayed, you can start over with the introduction process. It may take a couple of months, but it will be worth it in the end.

    Posted 1 year ago by CheetahBoysmommy #

  9. The moms we have right now are the two rescue cats (Midnight and Lucy, the one who was abandoned by a tenent who jumped ship across the street from us and left her in the empty house to starve to death) and my daughter's cat, who has just recently gone to live with my daughter now that she can have pets. It will be up to her to spay her cat. As for Lucy, as soon as she's weaned from her two babies, she goes to the vet. And Midnight....well, like I said, I would love to keep her, but if these skirmishes don't stop (and after two months of them and two weeks prior to that, I doubt they will) I have got to find her a good one cat home.

    Posted 1 year ago by IronMaiden #


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