Friends,
It's getting hard. Please help hin let go. Pray hard for his journey to come to an end. Love, Lainey
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Pray Him to Heaven Please
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Posted 1 year ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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Oh Lainey, praying for Mr. A and Lainey.
Posted 1 year ago by SammyandOliversmama #
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Mr. A, its alright to let go and find peace, really it is, your daughter and family understands and they love you dearly.
Posted 1 year ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #
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Lainey, I've been through this with both my parents in hospice in recent years, so understand. You and your family have my prayers.
Sometimes, even if the dying person is ready to go and wants to go, they have trouble doing so because their lifetime's survival instinct is so strong they have trouble letting go. They want to die, they don't want to die all at the same time.
Sometimes they may also have some unresolved private thoughts.
It might help to simply tell your Dad that it is okay to let go when he is ready and that if there is anything he has on his mind it is okay to hand all that to God, believing and trusting in God's word that He will answer and accept all the person has to hand over.
And, sometimes, even when all is totally at peace mentally and spiritually with a dying person, the body doesn't know how to let go and stop fighting for life.
All you can do is love him, pray for him, continue your loving care for his failing body, and ask God to give you strength and peace to handle it all as well as peace for your Dad.
God bless you and keep you close in His comfort, care, guidance, and grace.
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God Bless and help him go in peace and love.
Posted 1 year ago by Sheba's Mom in Raleigh, NC #
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May peace come to your Dad...
Posted 1 year ago by JoanfromNewJersey #
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Thanks everyone. He is still with us. The nurse said he is stable right now and comfortable. He did ask for pain meds earlier, which is unusual for him. She said his systems are shutting down. That we may have days of ups and downs like this morning or the next time it may be it. Just continue to love him and tell him it's okay to go when he and God are ready. She said I really must stop obsessing over him and get some rest. Easier said than done. I've probably gained 10 pounds just because when I am eating I'm eating crappy and not getting any exercise. I'm at my house right now. I have to get out of the cig smoke in the house. My throat is on fire from it and my eyes are burning. Dad and I are the nonsmokers (he quit a 7 pack a day - unfilterd Camels 47 years ago). His body is just fighting and fighting to stay but it will give up soon. I just pray it is peaceful and in his sleep. He told me his only fear was being aware it was happening. I know your prayers are helping him and will continue to help him. I also know they are helping me. I just want to stay strong for my hero.
Posted 1 year ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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I used to be afraid of the moment of death too, Lainey, until I saw my mother die. She simply closed her eyes (which had been open all day because she had lost the blink reflex), swallowed a couple mouthfuls of air, and that was it. No struggle, no fear. My best friend died in her sleep, and when the owners of the personal care home found her the next morning, she looked like she was still sleeping except that she was very pale. Whichever way it happens with your dad, I pray that it will be in perfect peace.
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Thank you, Leeny. That is my prayer for my dad. I've only seen three before. Steve (my fiance) and my mom, and both looked peaceful. My sister, Sandy, who passed last month, oh, it was so sad and startling. She was completely blue and her eyes were open (but they were clear and GOLDEN). My prayer for my daddy is peacefulness.
Posted 1 year ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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Aww, Lainey, this is the hard part. Mr. A, please be assured your Lainey has much support and love here on earth. We are here for her thru thick and thin, don't worry about leaving her. You are going to a place where there are no more hurts or illnesses. It is ok to let go and go to that special place. We all are praying hard for a peaceful passing.
Posted 1 year ago by mollycat71 #
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Keep praying hard for him family. I'm back with him, been for a couple hours. He was in major distress but medicine and calmness have helped. We are talking to him. he is in there. He acknowledges with hand squeezing and sometimes nodding. He tries to open his eyes. His brows move when I say certain names. Called his name out. Called mom's name. He is there. Trying to reassure him. There are three in with him now and I'm heading back. Nurse will be here about 8:30. I just wish God would take him swiftly. Watching this is hard. Worrying about what he is feeling is harder.
Posted 1 year ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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Yes, Lainey, I know. Was there with my dad. I think in the end his passing will be peaceful and when he is alone. I truly think most people wait until their family is out of the room and then pass. I see people pass all the time at work and it is always when they are alone. I don't think he wants you to see that and have that memory. Godspeed Mr A!
Posted 1 year ago by mollycat71 #
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Thank you, everyone. At the advice of the nurse I'm taking a break. Yes, Amy, and the others who said this, the nurse also believes he will pass alone. He has always been private and she said private people do.
I have to tell you something beautiful that happened. We were talking to him and talking about heaven. That he will be able to see again, see his bride and his daughter, and have all his toes again and not be in pain and he smiled. Then a few minutes later his eyes went wide open (one is completely blind) and he SAID "mom!" and smiled the biggest smile! He threw up right after that, though! It was incredible to witness.
He is resting fairly comfortably right now and we have our instructions on how to keep him comfortable. Could be hours, could be days. No matter. He will soon be with his God and with his family and whole again and he will stop at the bridge and deliver messages to our kits and our friends and families and he will be at peace. Leaving a huge gaping hole in our lives but our lives are so much richer for him being our Daddy.
Posted 1 year ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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He is still resting comfortably. We give him the breakthrough meds about every 1.5 hours to keep his agitation down and breathing stable. We just don't want him in the distress he was in twice yesterday. We may not get him back, so to speak, where he can talk to us, but that's okay. We know he can hear us and he knows we are doing as we promised him: keeping him comfortable and pain free.
Posted 1 year ago by Jetta and Boo Boo's Mom #
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{{{Lainey}}}
May your Father find relief and joy soon with his wife,daughter and Mom. They're waiting to welcome him.Posted 1 year ago by Moonshadow_NZ #
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