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   This is kind of a weird subject, and I wasn't exactly sure where to post this but I really need some advice...anyone?....

   Okay, so I am a total cat lover. I absolutely can't live without a cat. My boyfriend on the other hand is more of a dog person. But for my birthday he got me a beautiful little baby white kitten. This kitten was soooo special to me. He was the first kitten I raise on my own, he was the first animal I've had since I've been living on my own. One night when I was working graveyard my boyfriend was home sleeping with the kitten. I guess somehow the kitten attacked him in his sleep an as a reaction he threw the kitten off of him. We have a small room so the kitten happened to hit the door frame. According to my boyfriend he must have died instantly because he didn't get back up and he even tried to give him mouth to mouth and tried to feed him. I was so upset that I had to leave work because I was crying so hard. It's been about 3 weeks since the accident. But I can't stop thinking about it. Something is telling me that I'm not getting the whole story. First off, could that really happen? could a kitten die from that, I guess if he really did snap his spine or something then it could, but is that even likely. Another thing, my boyfriend said he must have died instantly but if that's the case why give him mouth to mouth or try to feed him food. Then lastly... I was cleaning today and I noticed that on our radiator heater there is some dried blood splatters. I am almost positive it's blood because when the accident happened my boyfriend cleaned the cat off in the bathtub, which left blood splatters, and then when he put him in a box to be buried there were some spots on the table. The spots look almost exactly the same. The thing is, the radiator is on the opposite side of the room. I just don't know what to believe, I don't know why he would lie, I mean I know he felt bad he even cried afterwards. Do you think I should question further or drop it?!? It's really eating away at me because I loved my little kitten and if he suffered in anyway that would break my heart.

   Posted 4 years ago by ky420247 #

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   Oh this breaks my heart. I wish I could tell you anything helpful. If you need to talk to about it, you should. I hope that it's a horrible tragic accident, but you need to be certain. Especially if you plan to bring another innocent creature into you home. If he's being honest with you, then he should understand. He shouldn't have anything to hide. If not, then as bad as it hurts, you need to report it. Animal cruelty is a serious matter. Hurting animals is only a small step from hurting people. If he is lying to you, you could be putting yourself in danger.

   Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #

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   Oh Sweetie, my heart breaks too. You need to make sure that this was only an accident and not an intentional act of cruelty. No little baby should be hurt like that. If there's anything we can do, please ask.

   Posted 4 years ago by Bogman, Clark and Andy's mama 2/27 Florida #

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   MM you said it all...ky...I'm so sorry for your kitten, but MM is right, you can't bring another innocent animal into this home until you are sure of what happened, as well as it is only a small step from animals to people..maybe you need to reconsider this relationship..

   Posted 4 years ago by 2bpurring #

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   This doesn't sound right, ky420427. I'm sorry for your loss, but I agree with MeezerMama that you need to find out what really happened before thinking of getting another kitten.
   It doesn't seem to me as if there should be that much blood involved, either, in the scenario you describe.

   Posted 4 years ago by GreatDane #

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   And I definitely agree with 2bpurring about re-examining your relationship with your boyfriend!

   Posted 4 years ago by GreatDane #

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   I agree with all the above. My friend's daughter was living with a guy while she had two cats. After several months of broken bones, etc. she realized he was abusing the cats when she wasn't home, so she had him arrested.

   Posted 4 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Phoenix, AZ 10/8 #

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   The step from killing a small innocent kitten to abusing a human is a very small one. The fact that you are in doubt tells me that you really need to think twice about this relationship. Doubt or "gut feeling" are the red flags that need to be heeded.

   So sorry about your sweet little baby.

   Posted 4 years ago by Elene_YorkPA_7/21 #

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   I agree with everyone else, something is not adding up here. While it is possible to break a cats spine by throwing it into a door frame, the force needed to do this is not something that a person being woken from sleep can normaly produce. Also with broken spines they do not normally die instantly it takes a few min.
   I am sorry about your baby :-(

   Posted 4 years ago by TheKnittingNinja #

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    If a kitten gets flung across a room hard enough to kill it, it's usually from a head or spine injury, and it usually wouldn't produce a great amount of blood (if any).

    You need to heed your gut instincts. Are there any other reasons that this isn't quite adding up?

    If you're having doubts, then I would listen to them. Intuition, in my experience, is the sum total of many myriad little clues and memories, each one like a dot. The big picture comes when you start to connect the dots.

    Just the fact that you're not sure about this, that there seems to be something not quite right... if it feels a bit off, it usually is. If you question him about the radiator, please have someone else there with you.

    You *want* to believe he didn't do anything harmful to your kitten on purpose; I know you don't want to believe that. But many people only see what they want to see, to the point where it blinds them to clear evidence to the contrary.

    At the very least, I would NOT get another cat or kitten while you are with this boyfriend, and I would seriously reconsider continuing any such relationship. Even if it's true that the kitten attacked him in his sleep, to react so violently upon awakening... that could have been you, if you'd startled him in his sleep.

    I am not you, though. Only you can know what's best for you. Please think carefully about this.

    Posted 4 years ago by anncetera2 #

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    ky420247-Please check back in with us. We are concerned for you.

    Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #

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    Yes ky420247 please keep us posted..This is a very caring group and only want to try and help...
    ps..interesting ID 420 247..I get it...

    Posted 4 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    What everyone has said before is the absolute truth. You need objectivity in this traumatic time.

    Tell this story to a professional. Get their opinion. Let them see the stains if they are still there. If not, then luminal will reveal them.

    You know the answers here, but I know it is hard to accept darkness in someone you have trusted so intimately. Violent abusers are alway sorry after the fact. They are sorry they have been caught.

    What is the evidence that he is more of a dog person? His word? That is such a convenient excuse.

    Listen to the voice that sent you here to have your own answers reinforced by our responses.

    Posted 4 years ago by ailuromaniac #

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    Well, I will putin my two cents and say this. I come from a family of cops and I was a military cop as well and to my view there are some things that aren't adding up.

    Like Anncetera said, trust your gut instincts. If it feels hinkey it probably is. What do your family and friends think about the boyfriend? Is he a violent person in other areas of his life or your relationship? Are there times that you are afraid of making him mad?

    I don't know you and I don't know your boyfriend but it sounds to me like maybe you should re evaluate the whole situation and look at it from an outside viewpoint

    Posted 4 years ago by Instinct #

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    Ailuromaniac, can you please provide more details about "luminal"?

    Posted 4 years ago by anncetera2 #

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    This is just sick...although we have to assume it is a legitimate post, I am doubtful. The kitten is dead and the graphic detail unnecessary. What's the question, anyway. Common sense would tell you that the animal was murdered and the appropriate action is obvious. I would like to see this entire thread deleted as I find it inappropriate and probably intended to be disturbing to people who love animals.

    Posted 4 years ago by CatRancher #

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    I agree CR. This is a sad situation, but very disturbing to those of us who are gentle with our fur babies.

    Posted 4 years ago by Bogman, Clark and Andy's mama 2/27 Florida #

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    I reported it to KM...I don't believe it is legitimate.

    Posted 4 years ago by CatRancher #

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    Luminol is a versatile chemical that exhibits chemiluminescence, with a striking blue glow, when mixed with an appropriate oxidizing agent. It is a white to slightly yellow crystalline solid that is soluble in water and most polar organic solvents.

    Luminol is used by forensic investigators to detect trace amounts of blood left at crime scenes. It is also used by biologists in cellular assays for the detection of copper, iron, and cyanides.

    Posted 4 years ago by ailuromaniac #

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    You must watch crime TV... I know the uses of luminal and how about those "trilobal fibers?"

    Posted 4 years ago by CatRancher #

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    I'm unsure if this is a legit post...but for those who may not have caught onto the name..not sure what the ky is for..but 4/20 refers to marijania (don't think I spelled that right) and of course 24/7 would mean this is someone who likes to smoke pot all day and all night...

    Posted 4 years ago by 2bpurring #

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    CR, I too have reported this to KM

    Posted 4 years ago by Bogman, Clark and Andy's mama 2/27 Florida #

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    Nah! Lots of reading and mis-spent years in a soi-disant educational system majoring in campistry. Couple it all with a trick memory and I ended up with a junkyard of a mind.

    Only think carpet is for scratching posts.

    Posted 4 years ago by ailuromaniac #

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    ky....Kentucky?

    Posted 4 years ago by ailuromaniac #

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    KY... adult lubricant.

    Posted 4 years ago by anncetera2 #

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    ok--so our phantom poster uses KY Jelly and smokes pot 24/7? :)

    I really doubt that this post is real

    Posted 4 years ago by FondaHonda #

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    But what if it is true?

    Posted 4 years ago by Emma #

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    I am in agreement. But the advice offered is sound. I'm proud of our community for being so compassionate.

    Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #

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    It makes me angry that someone might play with us like that, but then again, the idea could backfire and end up helping someone that really is in fear and pain. Sheba's mom referenced a similar story in her answer. If it's a hoax, I'm sure the person was sorely disappointed to get such rational advice rather than the highly charged response such a hoax would be intended to incite. If it's not a hoax, I hope it was helpful. I hope the best for all involved.

    Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #

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    All I know is that if it is real, she needs to pack up and move out ASAP.

    Posted 4 years ago by FondaHonda #

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