I don't know who else to tell, but I feel safe here so please don't mind my complaining. Everything seems to be happening at once I've been stressed and depressed lately its getting rough. Money is tight and my hubs refuses to get a job (After TWO years!) Classes start back up soon and I am having troubles with figuring out my schedule and what will transfer when I switch schools next year I'm afraid I will lose everything I have been working on for the past year. The kittens have fleas and I feel dirty and I'm depressed I feel like a terrible kitty mom I don't know what to do to make them feel better. I'm scared they will get worms from the fleas but to pay for a vet visit sounds out of the question unless I cut back somewhere else. My sister is going through a really rough break up I have no idea what to say to her, and my guy and I are fighting a lot because of the stress. Ah all I want to do is lay in bed and cry all day but I have so many things to do. I should be out applying for a second job and cleaning the house and getting ready for school right now but I'm doing this. I've been wearing sweats all week, I haven't done my hair or even thought about exercising. On top of that I clean forgot to make an appointment with my therapist so who knows if I can get in next week. Hugs?
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Posted 1 year ago by Momma Bear #
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{{{{HUGE HUGS}}}} Oh MB, I'm so sorry, it really does sound like life in landing on you with both feet.
When you say hubs refuses to get a job, do you mean he's not even looking? What does he do? He needs to get a job long before you start thinking about a second one.
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Well he got an (yes, one single) application months ago, never bothered to fill it out and hasn't done anything since. I've been on him about it for two years, I think I should just give up and just do it myself. He thinks school is more important than work- which to some extent I agree, because having a career is preferred to waitressing in the far future. However, he has not been a full time student until this coming semester and I still get better grades than him with work and full time ed. I feel so hopeless, he just tells me what I want to hear when I cry to him about it, but then nothing happens.Its so unfair to me
Posted 1 year ago by Momma Bear #
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Try making a rosemary tea for the fleas - boil two cups of water and add 2tbsp dried rosemary, then cover it and let it sit until it cools completely. Once it has cooled, strain it into a spray bottle. Bathe the kitties then spray where they sleep (I have even sprayed the bed where I sleep because Shiva sleeps there). Once the kitties have dried from their baths, spray them with the rosemary to repel fleas.
Diatomaceous earth (food grade) is fairly inexpensive when purchased in large quantities (a 10 pound bag cost me $23 on eBay) and it can be added to their food to kill internal parasites. You can also dust the kitties' fur with it to kill fleas, and you can dust the carpet with it to kill fleas in carpeting.
No advice for the husband who refuses to work, but you have my prayers over the situation.
*hugs*
Posted 1 year ago by owlwatcher_974 #
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If I were in your shoes, I would want to explore why he is so reluctant to work. Maybe he has some valid reasons.
I know nothing about you, or your relationship, this is just me being in a generally nasty mood these past few days. If he was my man, I'd tell him to move back in with his mommy if he just wants to sponge off of someone while he sits around all day doing nothing. If you didnt have to support him as well, would you need a second job or have any of the worries you have now?
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By what logic does hubs think it is your job to support the two of you? Is your education less important than his? His attitude is astounding. I hope this is not an indication of what will happen when he has graduated. Is he making progress toward graduation?
Flea trouble is not hard to fix. You can bath kittens in water and Dawn dishwashing detergent. You can also treat your home inexpensively with diatomaceous earth (food grade, not pool grade). Click on the tags above to learn more about flea control.
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Posted 1 year ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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Only you can make a decision, but honestly I work full time and go to school full time--will graduate with my Masters in next September. I don't know what you are willing to put up with, but I would not be able to handle my husband not working for two years and contributing to the household. By the way he works full time and is back in school working on his 3rd degree. There is no reason he can not work part time---perhaps a job on campus and go to school. Even my daughter has a job and is going to school full time. She has to maintain a 3.0 or lose her scholarship--so it can be done. As you can see education is a HUGE priority in my family--but so is contributing to the financial well being.
You have to decide what works for you. Maybe going straight through school first works best for you. My prayer for you is that you have less stress and know that you are cared about and loved.
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Be careful of the fleas as they can sometimes kill a kitten/cat. My cat had them so bad when he was young and ended up anemic and sick. I had just started working and my legs hurt bad and I was so tired, I didn't notice he even had fleas. I had a neighbor who had a cat for many years that died, of old age and he got a kitten as his heart was so broken and hurt and it died from too many fleas. He was heartbroken a second time! Darn fleas!!!!Please be careful.....
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OW I'm getting the rosemary stuff tomorrow and trying that. I got DE today and will try that once they are dry from bathtime. I have another thread I got spooked by the medicine I gave them.
Anyhow, about this second job thing... I'm not sure why he is so stubborn, I know he does not have a great record with jobs- firings and walking out form what I've been told, so I think he may be concerned about references but I still think he should at least try. Soxmom that's impressive- I should have him read that post (kidding) because I agree he should be able to do both just like everyone else I know because I work my butt off constantly.
I will need to have a serious talk with him because it is really wearing on me = / thanks for the advice everyone
Posted 1 year ago by Momma Bear #
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Momma Bear, I would just ring your vet and ask them for tapeworm medicine. It's fairly inexpensive and I have had two vets give me Droncit without them seeing Roxy. I think I paid $2 for half a pill of it? Definitely try the DE and rosemary though...they sound like they work wonders!
About the husband ay yi yi...What does he expect his not getting a job will accomplish? He should be a straight A student and at the very least be cleaning the house and helping with chores if he has all of this free time on his hands. Do you think that possibly he is clinically depressed and just does not know how to ask for help? Either way, I would be very firm with him. It sounds like he needs a fire lit underneath his butt or he will continue to be like this forever. One constant excuse after another. I wish you luck honey and if you need to talk to someone, let us know! :)Posted 1 year ago by roxysmommy #
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Oh RM the dewormer is way cheaper than I thought, I call and find out tomorrow too.
Yeah the sad thing is I get better grades then him (straight A's while he gets B's) and I still find myself picking up after a long day while he is on the internet or working on the cars. = ( He doesn't act depressed- not in the stereotypical way at least. In the past I had pretty terrible depression,(still pops up sometimes, obviously) even tried some bad things I'm not proud of. But that is a good point I didn't even consider, I will ask if he will consider seeing someone- I know for something like that his father is likely to help out financially. I really hope I/ we can get through this soon because you're right Soxsmom- it is already starting to take its toll on me but I love him dearly. =( thanks for the chat everyone wish me luck him and I are going to talk after I go on a quick walk to clear my head.
Posted 1 year ago by Momma Bear #
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Momma Bear, another quick note is that not all worming medicine kills all worms. Some medicine is designed for certain parasites and some are general all-around dewormers. Since your main worry from fleas are tapeworms (correct me if I am wrong, somebody) then I would concentrate on a medicine for tapeworms. They are nasty little critters but if you catch them in time then you won't have much to worry about. Only thing to keep in mind is that the tapeworms have a cycle of 3 weeks I do believe so I would ring your vet and ask for two doses of the medicine per cat. Give them one dose when you get the meds and another dose about two weeks later just to be on the safe side. Just a thought :)
Posted 1 year ago by roxysmommy #
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I hope things start looking up for you. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now and then fleas on top of it. :( I don't know if this will help you but I recently found fleas on Malfoy and tried the salt and baking soda method for fleas and it seems to be working for me. I don't know if your kitties have any kind of flea repel on them right now but with that and the salt the combo is working for me. It is a bit more budget friendly as you probably have both of those in your cupboard right now :)
I just put 1 part salt to 1 part baking soda in a shaker. Mush it in my carpet and I let it sit overnight. I plan on vacuuming it up in a little bit. And if your kitties don't have any meds on them I know other TDK'ers have some excellent suggestions for you.
Here's to feeling stress free! ::Hugs::Posted 1 year ago by socialcasualty #
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Thank you everyone. Yeah I am worried about worms now, although I haven't seen anything abnormal. They hardly touched their dry food today which worries me but I'll give it another day before freaking out. On the plus side: A job I applied for scheduled me for an interview tomorrow and I feel pretty good about it = ) so cross your fingers for me! And my guy and I had a little chat about work and I think hes starting to understand I'm serious about it.
Posted 1 year ago by Momma Bear #
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