CW, we are NOT perfect; so don't beat yourself up. We do what we think is right at the time. I waited until after the holidays to take my beloved Tiffany in and I know that was wrong--I knew she was sick--she was missing most of her lung from asthma that her former owner didn't treat. Even her vet didn't want to lose her, we fought to keep her alive. I see now that we did NOT do her any favors. I too have regrets, as I'm sure other do too.
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I'm losing my Roo
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Posted 4 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Phoenix, AZ 10/8 #
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CatRancher.. my heart aches for you on so many levels. All you have been through and all you are currently having to go through. I envy you strength and your conviction... and your ability to fight back to words that were hurtful to you. Bless you... and I'll be thinking kind and warm thoughts later today as Roo passes gently from your arms to Jerry's.
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This is a very hard decision that we've all had to,unfortunately,make for our pets. We can only do the best we can. I took care of my meezer Samson,giving him daily subcutaneous infusions and wondering if I was doing the right thing. I knew from his reaction,when he would run into the bathroom where I gave him the fluid and holler for me to get in there to do it to make him feel better. I knew that was what he wanted because he was my cat and I knew him well. I also knew when he was done and tired of it all after catching and URI at the vets and I took him in and euthanized him. I was sad but I knew when it had to be done. I know you know and love your cats CR and you know what to do to best take care of them.I support you in whatever you do and my heart breaks for you now and I pray for healing energy.((((BIG HUG))))
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CatRancher - Big hugs to you and little Roo. You're absolutely doing the right thing. You know Roo better than anyone and you know that it's time. The others are right, this is an extremely UN-selfish thing to do! If you were a selfish person you'd want to keep your baby around for as long as possible. However, you love your Roo so much, you want what's best for him, even if it hurts you. That, in my opinion is a wonderful characteristic and makes you the kind and loving person we love here at TDK!
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Oh CatRancher - I am so sorry! Like the others have said, we know you are doing the right thing. It is so difficult, but you are doing it because you love your Roo so much and you know he is ready to move on to that better place where he won't be suffering anymore. We are all behind you 110%! {{{{HUGS}}}}
Posted 4 years ago by Rubia in CA, 4/28 #
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CatRancher, stay strong sweetie - you ARE doing the right thing.
Vicki, that was a very cruel thing to post. CatRancher is having a hard enough time and you didn't make it any better. I'm surprised at you.
Posted 4 years ago by HuddysMama #
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Vicki you are obviously young, and your fluffy family IS young so perhaps your life experiences don't allow you to fully understand the concept of aiding loved ones over the bridge. God did create us and gave us the loving intelligence to care for the innocent creatures of this world. He entrusted us to make these choices. It's one thing to protest the clubbing death of baby seals...it's another thing to protest the aiding of ill loved ones to the Bridge. Please reconsider the facts and extend an apology to CatRancher. We all make mistakes and when we admit them..they can be forgiven. It's not above us here to forgive mistakes.
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My sentiments exactly, HM and Anncetera. I am in utter shock, Vicki, to your response to what has to be one of the most difficult days of CatRancher's life. We help our babies by limiting their pain when all other courses of action have been taken. I would only hope that if I were in the same position, others around me would care enough to let me go to avoid further suffering. Vicki-you should be ashamed of yourself.
CatRancher--please don't let the feeble-mindedness of one person get to you. You know you're doing what's right--yes right, but not easy--for Roo. That makes you the caring, unselfish person that Roo loves so dearly. {{{hugs}}}
Posted 4 years ago by FondaHonda #
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CatRancher, you are guided by your love, which is the way it should be. May you find some ease of your burdens soon. Many, many hugs coming your way.
Posted 4 years ago by Ouize in Central FL (6/19) #
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CatRancher, I am thinking about you and Roo. Please be strong and don't let anyone steer you in any direction other than the one you know is right for you.
Peace,
tinafishPosted 4 years ago by tinafishfrombirthplaceofElvis #
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Believe me, Instinct, I am still biting my tongue.
Posted 4 years ago by FondaHonda #
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Well said, Karenopa. I would like to think that Vicki did not intend to be mean or hurtful, and that she truly does not understand the situation that CatRancher is in right now. It is true that CatRancher really didn't need to see something like that today - this decision is so very difficult as it is. But we are all here for CR, and we will help her get through. I just hope that Vicki can learn from this as well.
Posted 4 years ago by Rubia in CA, 4/28 #
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CatRancher, I am so sorry for the difficult decision you have to make. I will pray that God send you peace and comfort to carry you through this. Hugs to both you and Roo.
Vicki, I have had to make this decision for more than one of my furbabies. The worst was when it was my mom's dog that I had inherited. People kept telling me I should have her put to sleep but, knowing my mom would never choose to have one of her babies put to sleep and would always wait by the animals side caring for it diligently until it passed away, I decided not to euthanize Tinker until the very last minute. The memory of her getting worse and worse until that final night will always haunt me. By the time we finally did help her over to the rainbow bridge, she was paralyzed on the verge of death crying for help. I still regret letting the poor baby get to that point.
I also regret having to euthanize one of my other kitties because she had gotten injured and had a broken jaw that the doctor at the emergency clinic said there was little chance of fixing. I still feel I should have at least tried.
It all depends on the situation. In Roo's situation, while it may be heartbreaking, helping him over to the rainbow bridge is much kinder than making the poor baby suffer when there is no chance for a cure.
Posted 4 years ago by owlwatcher_974 #
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{{{Hugs and Prayers}} .. Thinking of you CR and Roo ..
Posted 4 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #
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I've been thinking about you all day, CatRancher. Please don't let anyone make you question yourself. You are right: You are Roo's caretaker, and only you can make the right decision. You know what is best for your baby. I'm sending many {{{HUGS}} your way and I hope Roo's passing will be a gentle and painless one.
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CR, I 'told' Sebastian last night to look out for Roo and show him around. ((Hugs and prayers)).
Posted 4 years ago by HuddysMama #
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Hootie is going to watch for Roo with HM's Sebastian ... ((Hugs and prayers)
Posted 4 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #
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CatRancher, I must add one more thing. Please don't let your grief over Roo bring back grief and possibly feelings of guilt over your mother's death. The hardest thing for me to learn in nursing was that we simply can't fix everything. We had a very wise vet who told me once when we had to have a precious kitty euthanized "Well, my old daddy always said 'Ain't none of us going to get out of this thing alive'." As "Texas" as that was, I always remembered it when I was doing hospice nursing. Every day I would tell myself "Just do the very best that you can for your patients. No one can expect more." Sometimes we are guided by what physicians tell us because we really must place our trust in them. You did nothing wrong by choosing to try the blood transfusion for your mother. After all, it offered a chance. And that would not have been what lead to her death. It sounds rather like severe CHF or pulmonary edema and sometimes we really do have to admit that we can't fix it. But my heart aches for you that you carry that burden and I know that your mom wouldn't want you to do that.
As hard as the decision was for Roo, you are doing the right thing. And you have had a weekend with him, as well as a life with him, to tell him how much you love him. I'm sure that you had that with your mother, too. CR, look at that as a precious gift. My mother was killed in a freak accident. One moment she was there and then gone and I wasn't there. I never got to say goodbye. Roo knows that you love him. And you need to know that we love you.
Posted 4 years ago by WillowandWindismom #
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CR-what you are doing for Roo is the kindest most wonderful thing you can do. It breaks my heart when I see that someone is waiting too long to make the decision you have made. It is very obviously done out of love. Thank you for preventing the suffering that would come from his condition. It is selfish to prolong our friend's suffering only because we can't bear to let them go. The kind, and yes I believe Christian, thing to do is gently help them cross the bridge. God made us their caregivers and this is our final and most important obligation to fulfill for our beloved pets. Vicki-I don't know what prompted you to post as you did, but don't credit God with human venom.
Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #
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CatRancher...I've thought of you & Roo all day & want to add to the others as well that you ARE doing the right thing for Roo. May she have a peaceful passing. And my babies will also meet her at the bridge. I must say they're all a pretty good bunch & they can't go wrong with Chester at their sides. {{{HUGS}}}
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Thanks to all. I will try to write tonight after Roo has passed, but don't know if I will be able. This does bring back memories of my Mother's passing. She was in hospice care and she was in CHF and her days were limited. The transfusion was provided to make her last days more comfortable. But my sister, who has been a nurse for 35 years thought was worried that the transfusion would cause more fluid to build up around her heart, it takes a while to resorb. She kept fretting about how fast they were pumping it into her. The nursing staff checked her vitals before, during and after, and she had no signs of distress...everything was ok. It was when we were driving her back to the nursing home that she started having difficulty breathing. We rolled down the window and she was gasping for breath. We got her into the room and they started to work on her right away, but it was too late. She took a few last gasps and was gone. Death, in my Mother's case, was not peaceful...nor as they say "pretty." I held her hand all night just one month prior when we thought that would be her last night. I prayed and comforted her and she said she was afraid. I told her I wouldn't leave her and I didn't and she rallied the next morning and didn't remember a thing. God bless the dementia. I did remember though. Anyway, my sister and I know intellectually that we were not responsible for her death and that her time was short. It was just that couldn't help her at the end...even with all our planning and good intentions and love...it was what it was. I'm NOT playing God with Roo...but, maybe selfishly, I am allowing him to go in peace and not fighting for his last breath. I know how it works, I have euthanized one other kitty, my Freud, 6 years ago and I was with him at the end. He was 21 years old and had a stroke. What I'm trying to say is that I'm not ignorant about death and the process of dying...in humans and in animals, and so this is not a decision that I made based on someone else's opinion or experience but rather based, very intimately on my own and my loved ones' experiences.
I can't say enough how much I appreciate all of you who have shared your painful good-byes with me, offered your understanding of this difficult time, and gave freely of your hugs and prayers. The hugs may be "virtual" hugs, but the prayers are always in real time... Love to you all...
Posted 4 years ago by CatRancher #
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I have to say I am so grateful to live in Oregon where we have made physician assisted suicide legal. It's very comforting to know that when my vent no longer does it's work properly that my husband will not have to see me gasping and painfully trying to take a breath. I expect that day to be a long time away, but at least there will be no "let God decide" crap to prolong the suffering. We should be at least as kind to our loved ones as we are to our animals.
Catrancher, my purrayers are with you and your little Roo--bless you for being his compassionate caretaker.Posted 4 years ago by rainingwolf #
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CatRancher, you and Roo both are in my thoughts today, there are many who will greet him and guide him over that bridge. And with you there to ease the way, how could it not be peaceful. We all will understand if you aren't feeling up to coming on-line tonight, take time for you and memories and the rush of feelings that will come. Bless you for caring and loving Roo >^..^<
Posted 4 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #
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My prayers are with you as well.
Posted 4 years ago by Bellantara #
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May all of our long distance prayers comfort you today. Thinking of you and Roo.
Posted 4 years ago by Tigerlilly #
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CR, I have been on both sides of this coin - taking my loved one in for euthanasia, or, worse, sending my baby with my daughter, and letting her hold MY baby while he died. I have to live with that.
I also allowed "nature to take it's course", and I can still see my little boy fighting for his breath as he lay dying. And I have to live with that, too.
I am with you and Roo, in spirit, in grief, and in love.
Peace, hugs and purrs.Posted 4 years ago by artistabobbi TX 1/17 #
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