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   Frustrating day yesterday..went home in tears...then I got home and got a notice that I owed money for going on unemployment back in 2005 because they said they overpaid me. Anyways, more debt on top of more debt just did me in last night and I broke down and bawled. Hope this makes you happy husband knowing you are going to be getting a nice large payday for your car accident and I am deep in debt.

   I need a new life. Yes...it will get better but am starting to founder at the moment. Attorney wants more money in order for me to fight husband for the money he owes me. Now I understand why some people are homeless..they get swallowed up in debt and have no choice but to give up. I make too much money for any agency to help but not enough to pay all my debts.

   Sorry..just very frustrated. I know you all send me hugs and comforting words but yesterday I just felt very alone and today I feel a bit overwhelmed.

   Posted 4 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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   I'm so sorry Karin. You've a hard road to travel right now. I wish I could make it easier for you. You will get through it though because you are strong. And you will be stronger after all this is through.

   Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #

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   It WILL be ok Karin. I know the feeling of being overwhelmed...of being in between a rock and a hard place. Stay strong and keep the faith. I know it doesn't seem like things are really going your way (or even headed in your direction) but you have a lot of people praying for you, sweetie. You will get through this like you've gotten through everything else. You're still here, and you're still standing tall. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with yet another setback. ((hugs))

   Posted 4 years ago by HuddysMama #

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   I'm so sorry Karin. I know the feeling, I really do. Let me say that when I went through my divorce (2nd one) in 2001 I was in a small apt. In 2002, I bought a townhouse, was aleady in debt, and borrowed from family. At one point, not including the house, I was over $20,000 in debt. I am happy and proud to say that as of today, other than my house, I am debt free. No help... all on my own. Plus a current man-friend who takes more than he gives. You can do this.. you will come out better, stronger, wiser. My personal email is on the Christmas list if you want to talk.

   Posted 4 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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   Oh Karin,you have been hit hard for some time now..I can't imagine how much strength it must take you everyday to get up and face the next set of challenges..I so admire your will to continue forward...I know you've heard this many times, but you will make it through this! When this is over you will stand so tall for overcoming all obstacles..but you should know that you have come so far, faced so many challenges already, that you should stand tall and be proud..I'm sorry your so overwhelmed, it's no surprise..I just wish you could see yourself as we do..You're so strong, you will make it..I'll be praying for you...till then {{{HUGS}}}}

   Posted 4 years ago by 2bpurring #

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   Karin, I don't really know what to say except that all of us care so much about you and are here for you. Sending many hugs to you.

   Posted 4 years ago by WillowandWindismom #

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   Karin...I am proof that you can make it thru anything & girl,you better believe me when I tell you you are much stronger than myself. I once had to endure a 4 month stint living out of my car(my little Nova you saw). If it hadn't been for my 40 hr.a week job,I might not have made it. Trust me when I say,you have everything in you to be a survivor, & friends that care. I was pretty much of a loner back then. Didn't even let my mom know (I knew she'd be terrified if I told her). But somehow everything worked out. And it will for you. My instincts are always right on the mark. My Pisces ability to see those things. Funny how I don't always see those things for myself tho. Please hang in there & lean on your TDK friends when needed.

   Posted 4 years ago by feral #

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   {{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}

   You're in a rotten situation that you don't deserve, hon, but you will be able to get out of it, all the stronger.

   Posted 4 years ago by AnnF #

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   Karin, never forget two things that always help me when I feel down and that there is no hope:

   If God brings you to it, he will bring you through it.

   When you hit rock bottom, there is nowhere to go but up!

   You are a survivor. You have taken all that the jerk and the rest of the world has thrown at you and you are still standing tall and don't ever forget that we stand stronger when we have the loving support of friends and family behind us and beside us.

   Look around you right now Karin, there is no better life line of support than the mighty TDK!!

   Much love
   Deb

   Posted 4 years ago by debsterwiz #

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    Karin, I'm so very sorry to hear that you are feeling so down. Most of us are stronger than we think, so hang in there...have faith, better days are ahead no doubt.

    Posted 4 years ago by Tigerlilly #

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    That's what makes me so angry-=-you work and pay taxes then when you are down, out of work you can't get any help because you've earned too much money! You are better off never working, getting pregnant time after time and let the state pay your bills! ArgggH! Unfluffy!

    Remember Karin, "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger!" We are here for you!

    Posted 4 years ago by Sheba's Mom in Phoenix, AZ 10/8 #

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    *sends lots of comfort to Karin*

    Seestah, remember that not only does time heal all wounds, the converse is also true: time wounds all heels!

    Posted 4 years ago by gatakitty #

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    Karin, So sorry to hear of your troubles. It helps, I know to be able to vent. Please, keep trying to be strong!

    Hugs,
    Nan

    Posted 4 years ago by Nan #

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    Thank you all for the kind words. Just struggling to maintain right now. It is pitch black for me right now and no light is coming through.

    Posted 4 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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    *clicks on flashlight* Karin.. I can see you ! There is a beautiful soul shining through the darkness, and it is you.

    Tears are not a bad thing... they are very cleansing. {{HUGE HUGS}}

    Posted 4 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    **sending hugs to Karin**

    Posted 4 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #

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    Karin...one thing good about where your at right now is you got the jerk of a husband out of your life! I am at the moment,dealing with another one of man/friends little 'Nothing is more important than Me' attitudes. He's getting ready to go out to buy his 'medicinal marijuana'(which he Does not need) in the place of buying pellets for our heating stove. His words-'you can do without heat'. It's 74 degrees in the house & he proceeds to turn the heat up because he's 'cold',instead of putting a jacket on. The doors are open to release some of the heat. So,as you can see, you are blessed in the fact that you got away from him. I cannot leave because no family close by to lend a roof over me, & cannot leave so many animals in his care(he will NOT take care of them), & at the time I am not working because of the overload of work required to keep all these animals in check & to keep it from turning into an uncontrollable mess that some may constrewed as a hourding,but is definately not(as long as I'm keeping up on it). I'm sorry. I didn't mean to interfere with your venting. You have all the right to. You've been thru so much since I first met you. I guess it was just the sadness & the helpless feelings building up from not being able to help you myself. It won't happen again. {{{HUGS}}} to you Karin. Stay strong.

    Posted 4 years ago by feral #

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    Susie... you are sharing so that others know they are not alone. Don't stop. It helps you and it helps others. There was a post on night shift last night meant for someone else... but I took so much from it!! We are all in this together. {{HUGS TO SUSIE TOO}}

    Posted 4 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    Thanks OP. I guess I didn't realize how much steam was building in my own pot.

    Posted 4 years ago by feral #

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    Beter to let it out than keep it in. Don't want you exploding LOL BTW - I give better than I take when it comes to advice. LOL

    Posted 4 years ago by 2 Popoki #

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    I am praying for both of you, darling Karin and Susie. Life is not fair, but God is. He is here, and so are we. And we all love you.

    Posted 4 years ago by Emma #

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    I am also praying for both of you. I have met you both and so I know how strong and how special you both are.

    Karin - I know it looks very dark right now and money is your particular problem at the moment. I know it is difficult, but try thinking about how much better off you are now than you were just a few months back. I know you are still fighting your battles, but you took that all important first step and you WILL prevail! Hang in there, girl. You do know we are all here for you - you are NOT alone! {{{HUGS}}}

    Susie - As you said, even when things seem darkest, things have a way of working out. One way or another, something will come along and your situation will ease. You hang in there too, girl! {{{More HUGS}}}

    We love you both!

    Posted 4 years ago by Rubia in CA, 4/28 #

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    Karin, I am praying for you girl. I know how hard money woes are and that it never helps to get more on top of what you already are trying to pay off. Call the unemployment people and see about getting a payment plan that is feasable, they need to know that you can not pay a lump sum but are willing to work with them. I have had to do the same thing with student loans, which I am still working to pay off. Love ya gurl and keep fighting it is all we can do when times get hard.

    Posted 4 years ago by TheKnittingNinja #

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    Karin - keep fighting the good fight girl. We're all here for you when you need to vent. And that goes for you too Susie.

    Posted 4 years ago by KapitiKats in NZ #

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    Keep putting one foot in front of the other, Karin. You ARE making progress. If you are in an emotional crisis right now, please call a crisis line or see if your company has an employee assistance program that might provide you with a counselor. We don't want to lose you to the darkness you are seeing.

    I was once so depressed that I felt like I was standing in quicksand, unable to move. As I began to problem solve the issue, I realized that I needed to stop looking down at my feet. I looked up and found my path. I hope you are able to take stock of your situation and work on one problem at a time, one piece at a time. It will be much more managable.

    You have a wonderful family cheering you on here. Stay strong!!

    Posted 4 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #

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    Karin..sweetie..I can't add much more than everyone else has except..Da*n the unemployment system..why is it that when they make a mistake...we have to pay for it? If it's their mistake they should just suck it up and ask for fu** up compensation from the state's coffers!! Sorry...I just think it's so unfair..doesn't the state realize it's already tuff enough for us out here? My heart is with yours Karin. Hang tough...I'll keep you in my prayers! {{hugs}}
    Susie..My dear dear girl...I would time warp you and everyone of your ferals and indoor fuzzbutts here to Oregon in a flash if I could and we'd sort out the chores among us..You reminded me of your Nova days..I'd forgotten them..You are one of the toughest, most determined people I've ever known. Love you girl! (whack that Chuck one time for me with the Whack-Bonk-Stick please) I'd steal you away from Ca. if I knew how. {{{Hug}}}

    Posted 4 years ago by Karenopa #

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    Susie, I am very sorry for your troubles and all that you are going through. As my grandmother once said to me, there is always someone who is worse off then you. So that said, Susie you definitely have a bigger challenge than I do. Yes, there is now only the cats and myself but unfortunately husband is still effecting me at times due to my divorce. I am in debt up to my eyeballs due to a number of events which include having to pay for living expenses (rent, utilities and bills) while husband spent time sleeping in and doing what he wanted when he wanted. If he had been working consistantly at a good paying job (he has a masters degree in finance), I could have possibly caught up with my bills. Instead, he thought only of himself and so I am left with that debt. I had to create more debt in order to move and file for divorce. I will have to go into more debt to finalize the divorce. Frustrating!

    Posted 4 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #

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    [[hugs}} and more {{hugs}} to Karin & Susie xx

    Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #

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    Karin - wart removal is never cheap but always worthwhile!

    Posted 4 years ago by KapitiKats in NZ #

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    Karin,I second debsterwiz's comment that if God brings you to it,He can surely bring you through it! Don't stay overwhelmed; take a DEEP breath and know that number one, you're stronger than you know AND numero dos, that we're all behind you annd God is with you. :)

    Posted 4 years ago by Tigger #

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