clingy kitten.??? normal??? Experiences???

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  • #52523
    Jax0814
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    Jax is just over 5 weeks old. She is precious and sweet and playful. She’s had her fair share of digestive issues where we were at the vet multiple times a week and I was on the phone with my vet every single day. She is doing much better now however – I’m wondering if it is normal for her to be so clingy. I have been reading a lot on how if kittens don’t get to socialize with other cats, they can develop psychological issues and a deep (almost harmful in a way it seems) connection to their hand-rearer. I am worried partly because I can’t have another cat. And I don’t know how to socialize her. Is this something that is rare or more common? Of course Jaxxie is too small to be left alone, but when she is in the other room at can’t find me she runs around crying and it breaks my heart because it seems like she isn’t very independent at all. I am just hoping that by the time she is old enough to be left alone, she isn’t so sad.

    PLEASE share your experience. I am really wondering what I can do about this/ if there is anyway to gradually help her to be more independent. She plays on her own for a while, but when she’s done and realizes I’m not in the room anymore, that’s when the crying starts.

    Thanks guys

    #744938
    Pookster
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    I’m no expert, but at 5 weeks they would normally still be with their mum and siblings, so if she’s separated from them, she’ll be looking to you to fulfill that role. My kitten’s mum disappeared when she was 6 weeks, we got her at 7.5 weeks and she was glued to my side for the first few weeks. She still likes to hang out wherever I am, but she’s not so “full-on”. I suspect your kitty will get more settled as she gets older.

    If that’s her in the pic, she’s very sweet indeed 🙂

    #744939
    Jax0814
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    Thanks, that is her picture 🙂 Your baby is so cute as well! I live in NYC and heard a loud crying from the alley behind my apt for 3 nights and didn’t know what it was until I finally went out with my flashlight in the rain and found my little nugget crying and cold and infested with fleas at 2 weeks old. So she is 5 weeks now and still super clingy but that makes me feel better that you have had a similar experience.

    Thank you so much for your reply. I really, really appreciate it 🙂

    #744940
    Pookster
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    Aw, the wee sossage!!!! Thank goodness you found her, poor wee girl. I didn’t hand-rear Pooky and she did have two siblings until she came to us. As I say, I’m no expert, but i think any kitten so young is likely to want/need someone around (especially if she was alone by 2 weeks – the thought of it breaks my heart!) and if she’s progressing well and is healthy, that’s the most important thing right now 🙂

    #744941
    Jax0814
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    THANK YOU! She is doing well. I am almost to a point neurotic with all my worrying…but I just want her to be okay and happy and healthy. I was not expecting this at all but fell so deeply in love with her, I couldn’t imagine now not having her in my life!

    #744942
    Chaos
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    If you have a friend or know someone with a single kitten you could organize playdates (: My Cloud is totally attached to me but as they get older, they become more independent. They realize that exploring can be if not more fun than following around their human all the time. Just give her lots of toys. And you may want to invest in a tall cat tree and a laser pointer. Cats like to climb and she will probably be more tempted to climb up a cat tree than up your back. And the laser pointer is awesome cause they rarely get bored of it.

    #744943
    Anonymous
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    OMG what a cutie! Hi Jax0814; I live in NYC too, but I’ve never found any adorable kittens behind my building 🙁 I got my furball Georgie from the city shelter (that’s him in my avatar).

    I agree that at 5 weeks it’s not surprising that Jax is clingy, she normally would have a mom & probably siblings to be with & she feels lost and lonely.

    Thank you for rescuing her!

    #744944
    Jax0814
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    Chaos: thank you for your input 🙂 playdates sound purrrfect! She loves to play and when I get up for her feedings in the middle of the night, that, of course, is her favorite time to play. When we go back to bed she pounces on me and rolls around purring and “attacking” 🙂 typical kitten

    Kilroy: thank you for your input as well! Georgie looks so cute and content in your picture 🙂 yea i figured that would be the general consensus…I was just reading so many things that made it seem like she was going to turn in to this crazy psychologically damaged cat. PS: What vet do you go to??

    It is getting so hard because she comes every where with me and now that she is litterbox trained I literally bring a pan and fresh litter to work every day. I love having her with me and not having to worry about her being home alone but it is getting so hard… when will the time come when she will be able to be alone? And how will I know when that is?

    thanks guys 🙂

    #744945
    Anonymous
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    What neighborhood are you in? I use Animal Hospital of Chelsea but I don’t love them & am not sure I’d recommend them.

    If you’d rather not post your neighborhood for the world to see, email me at newsgoddess (at) gmail (dot) com

    #744946
    Jax0814
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    I live on the UWS and have been going to Animal General on 87th and Columbus. I loved the vet I was seeing, then she was a little…shall we say…unnecessarily brutal with the way she shared some information with me, I was crying hysterically in the office, and the office manager set me up with another vet who I absolutely love. So I suppose it all worked out the way it was supposed to!

    #744947
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Sorry the one vet was harsh, that stinks. Glad you found one you like.

    #744948
    Jax0814
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    I’m still looking for others with great experiences because I don’t know if I will bring Jax there forever, so if you know of anywhere else, feel free to share 🙂

    #744949
    Leeny
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    I’ve never had a kitten as young as yours, but from what I’ve read, in a kitten this young clinging behavior not only is normal but should be expected. She’s just a little baby at this age and, like human babies, needs a lot of attention and wants to know where her “parent” is at all times. Just like human babies, she will outgrow it as she gets older. Because you hand-raised her, she will probably always feel particularly close to you, but she won’t be Velcro Kitty forever.

    I feel a little concerned about the idea of playdates with other kittens, though. Cats are territorial animals, and they don’t usually take too well to leaving their own territory or having another cat come into it. I don’t know if that instinct is as strong in young kittens as it comes to be later on, though.

    #744950
    Jax0814
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    Thanks for your reply, Leeny 🙂 I could definitely understand another cat being territorial of their space. As for Jax, she goes everywhere with me right now since I can’t be home all the time with her, and I don’t think that she would be like that…but who knows… That’s definitely a good point and something for me to think about. I just want her to be as healthy and happy as possible so I need to figure out what is in her best interest!

    #744951
    Raychela
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    Jax I am a bit neurotic as well worrying about my baby. Once you invest so much into them you don’t want anything to happen to them.

    From my own experience I have found that kittens are generally very welcoming of playmates so when they are little… up to a few months old, they aren’t really going to display that territorial instinct. So play dates with other kittens similar in age could work I think. Of course if a kitty shows any aggression I wouldn’t risk it but I’ve never seen kittens do it myself.

    I say enjoy clingy kitty why you can… I’m sure she’ll grow up to be independent but always share a special bond with you. Even my guys that I got when they were a few months old were clingy at first and now they could care less about me most of the time and I wish they cared more lol

    #744952
    My Rockstar
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    Good morning Jax, looks as though you have gotten an aweful lot of good advice already but I thought I would share my story with you as well. My husband and I found June Bug on July 3rd, I estimated she was about 5 or 6 weeks, her eyes were still blue and her ears were a little turned down yet like they had just opened. I was lucky enough not to work for the first week and stayed home with her for feedings and play time. We have 3 cats that are indoor/ outdoor and two that are outdoor. I kept her isolated from the older ones for the first couple of weeks to prevent a harsh meeting- I knew Scotch and Mike would not take kindly to ANOTHER kitten, and as I suspected Rocky, my youngest, took right to her. Kittens are clingy till they are about half grown, as it was mentioned in other posts by the fine people on this site, since she has no siblings and mother, you fill that roll. She needs one hundred percent attention until she is at least 6 months (or at least that is what she thinks!) As she matures she will be more independent. She may develop a focused personality however and when you are home she may just hang around you 24 seven. Rocky is like that, I cant be in any room without him being there too. However Scotch and Mikey only care if I am there to feed them lol! I find myself very lucky to have Rocky who is now a year old. He is still in ‘kitten’ mode and does alot of ‘babysitting’ for me as does the kitten who showed up in our tree row late last month. June Bug goes outside for about an hour at a time and plays with this kitten who we named Lucky. He is about twice as old as her so they really get along.

    I have never heard that a cat reared without other cats being anything other than healthy, but then I have never experienced it first hand either as there are always cats around where I live! I agree with Raychela, enjoy your baby while you are the center of her universe, She will grow out of it and you will miss those days, and by the way, what a cutie!

    #744953
    Jax0814
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    Thanks for your post, Rocky!!!

    Jax is growing up so fast I can hardly believe it. You guys are right, I should enjoy this while it lasts! She is sooooo sweet. But literally a DEVIL at the same time. She is so rough when she plays my arms and hands are all scratched up, she climbs up my legs and eats my hair. The best is at night she’ll finally wanna snuggle up and fall asleep (on my neck) so she’ll start purring and nuzzle me so I’ll give her kisses and then she starts biting all around my face while purring…my ears and nose are not happy…..hahahaha! I am finding it impossible to try and tame her behavior. I know it’s normal for kittens to be crazy … but I’ve had kittens before and Jax is the craziest…….almost hard to handle but I love her so much that makes up for it 🙂

    if anyone has any thoughts on the normalcy of her behavior/if there’s something I should be doing to prevent rough play in the future, I would love that.

    I read a lot that since cats learn by associating things with a good or bad experience so when she plays like that to simply say “NO” and walk away…but this doesn’t seem to be working. She thinks it’s a game and that little ball of fur charges at me. What happened to the days where she was such a snuggle bug?:)

    #744954
    Chaos
    Participant

    Her behaviour sounds normal. I find that bottle babies tend to be crazier than normal, especially single ones who do not have playmates to beat up and get beat up by. All you can really do to save your arm is find toys that she really likes. I have heard that a crumpled up paper ball works well. There isn’t a good way to discipline kittens and cats. Somehow I have 2 cats that know when I say their name a certain way they should stop what they are doing. I did this by scruffing them and putting them away from me so they know they did something that made me stop playing. She will be crazy for a while, and it will go away with age. I find that single cats get over it very quickly because there isn’t anything to rough around with. As for the love nibbles, she is probably doing that for comfort, my Cloud will nibble and lick my face when he cuddles.

    #744955
    Jax0814
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    Yes 🙂 unfortunately she likes my arm way more than any of her gazillions of toys. Thank you for your input..As always, much appreciated!

    #744956
    Chaos
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    I have also found that attached kittens stay attached. XD Cloud still licks me, jumps on me, sleeps on me, and stays on me all of the time so I dont think she will ever grow out of being attached to you!

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