OP,
Me too. Shoulders, purrs and hugs. And feel free to unload on us anytime. This is the best place I know. And if you ever want to contact me, artistabobbi AT yahoo DOT com.
Virtual HHHHHUUUUUUGGGGGG!
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Dad's 2nd surgery
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Posted 4 years ago by artistabobbi TX 1/17 #
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*still groggy from pain medication and sleeping all day .. unable to think of anything to say simply offers lots of hugs ***hugs*** *
Posted 4 years ago by owlwatcher_974 #
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OP, wish I were closer so I could give you a real hug. It is amazing to me how much a hug can help. In the meantime here are virtual hugs: {{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Posted 4 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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Still offering crying company. We can be puffy and gooey together. I have lots of tissues and the extended family keeps sending snacks. I'm getting off here for tonight. good night all.
BTW-- you can email me at jennifer AT hastonline DOT com. It goes to the Blackberry just like blog comments. I know, I'm a nerdPosted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #
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I gladly and grately accept all hugs, purrs and headbonks. I have written done several of the email addresses you have so generouslly offered for personal conversations.
Saw dad last night... man is he cranky ! LOL Means he's feeling better. He's having very littlel pain which is good; yet he's still hooked up to 3 tubes. he really wants to be rid of the NG tube and would PAY for a glass of water. he has had nothing to eat or drink for a 12 days.
Your prayers are helping so much... i know they have given me the strength to help prop up mom and go on myself without much support here in the real, I can physically feel you, world. The virtual suport here is astounding !!!
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Glad to hear your dad is feeling better. Getting cranky is a good sign! Continuing to keep you and parents in my prayers. Digit and Furl send purrs and gentle headbonks.
Posted 4 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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Hee hee, hurrah for your Dad! Feisty is definitely good :-)
Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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Hey OP? What's the latest?
Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #
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Thanks for asking MM... Surgery is still on hold... may not happen at all. Doc is trying all conservative measures first. Dad still has 2 drainage tubes and the NG tube. Nothing by mouth for probably 14 days now. He has an infection somewhere and is still on IV antibiotics. From what I gathered last night, the NG tube stays until the white blood cell count gets down to 1000... currently an 2000 (or is that 10,000 and 20,000 ? I don't recall). Any way... when that happens he'll go to a care center for more recouperation. Don't know when or for how long.
He's frustrated, he's depressed, he's weak and he's thin. It's getting harder and harder to go see him. I will.. it's just hard.
I'm tired, I'm constantly on the verge of tears.... had a talk with man-friend who sees it as I'm supposed to call when I want support...not up to him to call and check on me. So that too is weighing on me.
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OP, Been thinking a lot about you and your dad. Keeping you in our prayers. As far as the man-friend goes, if he isn't there to volunteer support, you don't need to seek it from him. It isn't sincere anyway. Lots of hugs for you, none of that is easy
Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #
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Please keep us posted OP, and hope this finds both dad and your feeling better each day that goes by. Hugs, purrs and Love, Lynn
Posted 4 years ago by Lynn from PA 6/8 #
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I second what Miu says. Prayers and healing light for your Dad. As for the man-friend, sounds like he is taking you for granted and not seeing you as more than someone to hang with. May be time to cut him loose when you are ready and your Dad is doing better.
Lots of hugs to you. If you need a should, I am here. Lioness036 at yahoo dot com
Posted 4 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #
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Man-friend and I had a serious discussion Saturday night. He knows (again) what I need/want/expect from a relationship. As I said to a friend "these things have been on the table before, but apparently got knocked off." He doesn't seem to sustain the characteristics I feel I want/need in a man-friend. He said he'd work on them. We'll see. I may well need to cut my losses with this one. He's a good man, just may not be the right man for me.
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{{{hugs}}}
Posted 4 years ago by MadcatwomanintheUK #
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OP, How's dad today?
Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #
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Hi MM.... it's so hard to tell. I went to visit last night and he is still 'tubed to the max.' Still has an infection somewhere. Doc said MAYBE today the NG tube will come out. He'll possibly have another cat scan/BE combo on Monday. Doc is doing all the conservative measures he can to prevent the 2nd surgery. Dad is sick and tired of the hospital... today is day 20 there. He'll go from the hospital to a care center before he can go home. He is so weak.
I did find someone from whom I can borrow a portable DVD player. He scoffed at the idea, but I persisted... told him I'll bring it in with a couple of DVDs. He doesn't have to use it, but it's there if he wants it. Gotta be better than TV! And Mom is to bring him a clipboard today so he can work the crossword puzzles in the paper. He told mom he can't concentrate on them.. he told me he needed something to write on. So confusing sometimes when he tells me one thing and Mom another.
All this is so very hard to watch. Dad has always been so very very active! He was golfing anywhere from 2 to 5 times a week before all this started. And that was after his open heart surgery. I do my best to stay positive whenI'm there, and not ask too many questions that require anything but a yes or no answer. It hurts for him to talk with than NG tube.
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Oh.. and when dad is feeling better, and if I think I can swing it, I'm going to take a couple of days and go away. By myself. Not sure when, not sure where, although San Fran keeps popping into my head as a get away. I was there once several years ago and didn't get to see and do all I wanted to see and do.
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Hope they are able to remove the NG tube soon so that your Dad is more comfortable. Healing light and prayers. Hugs too.
Posted 4 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #
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Coming out my way, OP? San Francisco is a very interesting city. You just missed the Folsom Fair which is a fetish fair, OMG! If you need a friend or would like to meet up, let me know. If you prefer to just be solo, no worries.
Posted 4 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #
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OP, you all have my thoughts and prayers. Your Dad must be very frustrated at this point, especially if he was used to being active before.
I hope things settle down, and you get your break. It sounds like you really need it. And, if you do go, I would advise you not to let man-friend tag along. I think you really could use some "alone time".
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OP...Hope your dad will be home soon and feeling better...then go indulge yourself and try and feel positive. It is times like this especially when we are alone we tend to get depressed...so take care of yourself. My prayers and thought are with you from one who has been there herself.
Posted 4 years ago by peppercat28 #
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Good that you are planning some recoup time for yourself. You need it. Big hugs to you.
Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #
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Karin - I'll defeinitely keep that in mind. I may need suggestions on a somewhat inexpensive place to stay. Definitely leaving the man-friend behind... this one would be for ME to thing and regroup, and I do that really well by the ocean. San Diego would be closer, and I could drive... but I think I want something different. It's all up in the air. Wasn't miu or someone from across the pond coming to SF in November???
Thanks all for the prayers and support. It is so appreciated. Yup.. I can feel the depression sliding in. People at work are starting to notice... "You're not as bouncey... what's up?" My clue that things are really getting bad.
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OP, that's a sure sign that you need a break
Posted 4 years ago by MeezerMama in OK; 10/23 #
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OP, you might consider Half Moon Bay area. That is about a 45 minute drive from San Francisco. Here is a website I found - http://hotel-guides.us/california/half-moon-bay-ca-hotels.html
There are other places listed on the left side of the website. You do a google of california and pick an area that you might like to check out. Point Reyes area or going north on Hwy 1, there is Bodega Bay or up the coast is Jenner or Mendocino but those about two hour drives or more. You would need to rent a car to get to them.
Posted 4 years ago by SylvesterMiasMomma #
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