She sounds like a smart woman.... however, as stated, if it wasn't his idea - without a doubt - APPLY for the other position !!!
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Just lost my job!
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You should apply and when offered the position tell Mr Perfect "So Long OOLONG!" Don't bother to play the "make me a better offer" card. People who cannot graciously admit mistakes are dangerous animals to put in power. Boss man has proven himself to be such.
Posted 3 years ago by ailuromaniac #
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Go for it Bella, positive thoughts for you.
Posted 3 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #
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Not to his knowledge. He thought he did once, but he was wrong. :P
Hope you're better soon, Cheri!
Posted 3 years ago by Bellantara #
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Bellantara, it sounds like you have absolutely nothing to lose by applying for the other job. If you get offered it, you can always decline. Personally, I have a problem working with people who cannot admit making a mistake. We're all human, we all make them... the idea is to learn from them, so as to avoid making the same mistakes more than once.
(I also work hard to realize those times when I should admit having made a mistake, and figuring out how to correct the error & avoid a repeat.)
Good luck!
Posted 3 years ago by anncetera2 #
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Applying for the job just gives you options. There are many good things to come from having options. The ability to politely leave a work environment that is run by a man that has to have his wife instruct him to be a decent human being. If you are offered the job, again you will have a better choice of the career path you really want to take. Prayers are with you.
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And sweetie, you might want to think about having a sit-down with your boss. No manager worth his salt behaves as he did to an employee such as your good self. You do not destroy someone's career and peace of mind out of pique.
He needs to talk with you. Time will not heal this. Leave for a better job if you wish, but please make sure that you and your current boss have a clear understanding of what really happened and what should have happened.
He owes you an apology. You've been very gracious and you apologized for making the mistake. He really should discuss his reaction with you.
We women are so used to taking care of men's feelings, and making them feel safe and strong. That favor must be returned, otherwise there is little justice in the world. And we are under the obligation to work for justice.
Could you please think about clearing this up, Bella? I am worried that if/when you go to another job, you will have this nagging little doubt about THIS job in the back of your mind.
Although it may sound daunting and the temptation to just sweep everything under the rug is huge, it will help you to understand what happened and also to weigh this job more thoroughly against your other options.
Getting things out in the open is a very healing experience. Sunshine really is the best disinfectant!
Much love,
Auntie Emma -
Bella, I reckon I can just hear what goes on in his house every night. He comes home, his wife says, 'Did you talk to her yet?' He says, 'Nope'. She says, 'You gotta talk to her, *insert name here*, you know she's going to leave and find a better job if you don't and you can't afford to lose her', and he says, 'Well, she hasn't so far," and his poor, intelligent wife just shakes her head and thinks, you wait.
So you see, you HAVE to start applying for other jobs, just to prove her right! Besides, sounds like the senior associate has every confidence in your abilities -- you have to prove his faith in you right, too. But mostly, you have to do it for yourself! We know you can do it!
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Good advice, Jcat. A mistake was made, and each day that it is not discussed, it grows larger. And the possibility of leaving also grows, because the job and the boss have both become diminished in your eyes.
Your boss will respect you for taking the initiative and clearing the air about the firing/unfiring. That was such an unprofessional act on his part.
Believe me, if you start this conversation, you will feel better.
Apply for other jobs, but make sure that you have a good solid read on this current job. Then you will know exactly what you are leaving if you go, and why.
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What else can I say that hasn't already been said? I'm glad that he took you back and at least he *did* say that it was good to have you back, but that's not the same as an apology. Maybe you can tell him that when (if) you have an exit interview, lol...
(I didn't put the "if" up there cuz I don't think you'll get the other job, cuz I know you would get it, but some places don't do exit interviews, so in this case, maybe a strong, firmly worded resignation letter would do the trick, lol)
Posted 3 years ago by sloopy1975 #
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Bela,
You need to leave that job as soon as possible. The firm principal has shown that he lacks the skills necessary to manage his people. He owns the place and has no incentinve to learn to manage. He will continue to dump on his people until no one can stand working there anymore. I think you should take your time and get ready to bail.
I personally think you shouuld take a look at the US Attorney job. Govt. benefits and calendar, etc.
Posted 3 years ago by Ivory Bill #
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Well. . .I had been wavering about leaving, since he's acted like a semi-decent human being all week. That changed when he blew up at me and swore because I couldn't read his mind. I've applied for the US Attorney job, am looking for other prospects, and will be out of this office just as soon as I can find another job.
Posted 3 years ago by Bellantara #
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Good luck Bella, this sounds like the best thing to do. The only boss who cursed me and I stayed working for was my husband. He was told to fire me in front of me one day when we were both just picking on each other and we just looked at the guy who said it and laughed!! Then we told him I owned half of the company!
Posted 3 years ago by KarenCentennial #
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Bellantara, best of luck finding another job soonest! He must be under a tremendous amount of stress, but that's no excuse for him to have unreasonable expectations (such as mind-reading). Hope you find a boss who's better to work with - it can make all the difference in the world!
Posted 3 years ago by anncetera2 #
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Go for it Bella, we are square behind you!!
Posted 3 years ago by SammyandOliversmama #
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Bella, at least he showed his true self in time to apply for the other job.
Posted 3 years ago by KYKAT 12 23 #
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Good luck on the job search! It shows that this guy expects you to walk on egg shells at all times. Any boss who swears at you is definitely not worth working for.
Posted 3 years ago by SylMiaFelixMomma #
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One would think that as a lawyer this guy could control his temper! I don't blame you for leaving, he will regret this I am certain. I am praying that you get the perfect job for you, and soon! Remember you are good at your job and another firm will be lucky to have you!
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In a way, your boss has made the decision easy for you. I'm glad you applied for the job at the US Attorney's office. Good luck!!
Posted 3 years ago by Kitten Whisperer #
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I am so glad that you applied for the US Attorney's Office, good luck!
I kept wondering at first if you were working for my section supervisor, he sounds like the twin of your boss.
Posted 3 years ago by AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew #
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All the best of luck with the job application Bella. The bosses wife is going to be saying "I told you so".
Posted 3 years ago by Moonshadow_NZ #
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Bellantara your boss isn't the only lawyer apparently having filing issues.
http://www.abajournal.com/weekly/irate_judge_blasts_typos_and_errors_in_filing_slashes_fees_by_154k
You know that this guy is doing the same thing, blaming it on everyone BUT the person responsible--the lawyer himself.
Have you heard anything about the other job?
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